ok i know this question doesnt belong in this catagory but?

Question

im here all the time so here goes, ok my husband asked if i could iron a particular shirt for him for work.Well i picked one that i liked better on him and went better with his slacks. so i got that shirt and ironed it for him, he had a huge hissy fit and said i was trying to control him.Honestly i just liked the other shirt on him better.do you think hes overreacting?

Answer 1

i don't think it's "controlling" to want your spouse to wear something you find attractive on them. BUT since he asked you to do a particular shirt, if you wanted a different one, you should have said something before changing his mind for him.

edit: as to all of the people who are telling him to iron his own shirt - you have to remember that different households have different roles for the people in them. there is nothing demeaning about ironing your spouse's shirt, as long as you're respected for it - man or woman. my hubby and i both work full time, but i do most of the work inside the house because i enjoy it. i also enjoy getting his beer for him and anything else he needs. on the other side, he enjoys getting me a glass of wine and anything else i need. we tend to do everything for each other, because we like to.

Answer 2

I am being completely honest and serious: I'm 13 and I have always, ALWAYS felt that I didn't belong on this planet, that I was sent here when I was a baby to stop cruelty. I'm superstitious, I believe in Magick and I have a weird connection to the moon. My favourite weather is rainy/cold and I prefer night to day. I'm very very curious and adventurous. I wish that the exciting things that happen in Fantasy movies/books where a child has to go on this huge adventure happened to me! If you feel the exact same way or very similar to the way I feel please tell me because I've never met anyone like me. My only advice to you is that there is nothing wrong with you and don't think that your too unique. To me, you sound as though you may have a supernatural gift and your still finding yourself, so am I. Accept who you are and wait for fate to bring your true friends to you. In the mean time, find some hobbies that you can enjoy alone if there's no one really to share it with. Try getting lost in your imagination or finding your true self, very fun and very interesting. I do it all of the time. And also, reading is a great hobby too. I recommend fantasy books, they help to get your mind off things: 'Sabriel' <- Great book.

Answer 3

I think if you are going to change something he has already decided on, the best thing to do is to ask first. It would have given him an opportunity to agree or disagree and then his 'hissy fit' would have been avoided. Be glad your husband is at least choosing his own clothes, I know of one couple where the husband sits in his chair in the morning and waits for the wife to provide his clothes, coffee, breakfast and anything else he needs for the day straight to him. They are happy but it would make me crazy. He might have also had his feelings hurt that you did not like his choice.

Answer 4

It is stranged, I dont know how long have you been married,
it should not happen, it's too much ;
but :
It takes two to tango.
If choosing shirts is not a "day by day activity" for you.
I dont know why you didn't ask first ,something like "what about this one , it suit yr slacks !
I usually choosed my hubby shirt and pants for him to wear.

When I was busy , he "knew" which one to choose ;
Something like if today was blue tone , next day should be either grey's or brown's ;
And he knew already which one would match v v .

Wives usually like to choose husband's outfit, it's quite normal, and lots of husbands leave it to their wives taste,

UNLESS
Husband thinks he knows better.
Architects, Designers (graphics, multimedia, interior etc), Actors, man in that sort of profession usually knows his own taste, they would usually choose theirown.

Honestly, I cant understand why you didn't offer yr choice first, and he said that you're trying to control him, just because a "shirt", it's also too much.
Ironing is OK, very rare I find men like to iron.
There might be a "missing link" between you two.

Answer 5

i understand where your coming from, because if i could, i would dress my husband everyday, but usually he wants to pick out his own clothes, he will listen to my suggestions but if thats not what he feels like wearing then he doesn't. i think that from now on,if there is something better that you think he should wear, just run it by him first and see what he thinks, and he might just go with your suggestion, but if he still insists on wearing the other, then let him wear it. i think he probably acted that way because you didn't ask him first and it made him feel like you think he can't dress himself. but let's face it....how many men actually know how to dress themselves well. if it's not down right embarrassing then let him wear it, other wise you really need to say something. because men don't like to feel like little kids, although sometimes i feel like i treat my husband like a kid, but in some situations that's how he acts. and in others he acts adult. i actually told someone elses husband to change before going out to eat once, he said , why, your not even going, and i said that he was dressed like a total slob, which he was, and he shouldn't subject his wife to that. so he turned around and went and put a shirt on that didn't have any holes and stains. she thanked me and said he never listens to her.

Answer 6

He may be overreacting; but you still should have talked to him about it beforehand. Who knows? Maybe your husband might have actually AGREED with you and taken your advice.

You should have given him that chance, rather than making the decision for him.

Or, he could get off his doughy, white @ss and ironed his own damn shirt....

Answer 7

I think he's over reacting big time. Oh and real men iron their own shirts!

Answer 8

If he has a good fashion sense, then you didn't do the right thing. If he doesn't have a good fashion sense then you could come to a mutual agreement that you help him choose.

Answer 9

Yes.....he's overreacting.....

I allow my wife to pick out my clothing sometimes for the simple reason being: She has much better taste than I do.

You were simply trying to make him look good.....hopefully, he'll calm down later......and hopefully, you'll forgive him?

Answer 10

Yes, he is overreacting. Especially considering you ironed it for him.