I feel like I am mourning a loss it this normal?

Question

3 people that I love have been diagnosed with illness. I recently 7 months ago moved 3000 miles from where I used to live. Although I am working as hard as I can I am having trouble getting a job. Today all I did was cry and cry and cry.
I am devistated that the people I love are sick. I am starting to resent and hate looking for a job. I asked God to send me an angel to help me in this time of loss. I feel like I am mourning a loss is this normal to feel this way? What can I do about it?

Answer 1

I feel sad for you darl and have prayed for you.
Is feeling saddened because another person we may or may not know fully. This is what God says to do,"Carry each others burdens, cry with those who cry and laugh with those who laugh".
I see you often on here and you really are an encourager for God!
You have by your gentle words, you've either sent me, or I have read, ministered to me and lifted me up!
You are obedient to God.
Just Let it out... Cry weep until your belly aches. Are you filled in the Holy Spirit? And use your gift of tongues.
I have found when a burden is great, praying in tongues and letting God release that burden, is a wonderful relief.
Plus you would probably be praying for those people at a very deep level.
Ask Jesus to intercede for you, as He stands in the Gap and it is also written that the Holy Spirit prays for us with groans and utterings than cannot be expressed.

You have a very gentle and soft Spirit. And Yes your normal and you are mourning, grieving, even that things should not be this way - and they shouldn't ...in Heaven they won't!
Bless you Encourager4God.

Answer 2

you just named three major events in a persons life. Just one of these alone would justify stress and unhappiness. With all three combined I would say you are holding up better than most under the circumstances. Give yourself permission to be sad but not overcome with saddness.

When things look dim and unbearable in the natural just remember we are about more than what our eyes see and our feelings feel. Everything passes with time and all things must be passed through. Press forward and don't wavier to the left or right. Do all that you can do within the power you have been given and then release the rest into the hands of God. That is the only power and control you have over forces beyond you.

Answer 3

You know you don't HAVE to change your last name if you don't want to. You don't have to hypehenate it either. You can keep your maiden name and still be married, if you want. It may be a little untraditional, but a lot of women do it. Or if your super weird about it, they do allow him to take your last name. It's a little more complicated, but it's allowed. And keep in mind, a name is just a label. You pass something far more permanent than a name down the line, aka genetics. So long as you have kids, your families lineage will still be there.

Answer 4

I think you are indeed mourning a loss, and that's quite normal - and a loss doesn't have to mean that someone died. It can simply mean that your life has changed very suddenly, and that's hard for almost everyone to deal with. I suggest allowing yourself to grieve for your lost relationships, and allow yourself to feel concern for those who are ill. If you can, I suggest finding a counselor to talk with - therapist, minister/rabbi, psychologist, etc. It sometimes helps to share your problems with an unbiased ear. I also stronly suggest staying busy; although I know it's hard to get out, fears feed on loneliness, so do SOMETHING to get out and around people. Volunteering is especially good, in my opinion, as it gives you something to really feel GOOD about when you help others.

Good luck!

Answer 5

It's very possible that you may be "carrying a burden" for someone, possibly the ones who are ill. Romans 8:26 comes to mind; "For we don't even know what we should pray for, nor how to pray as we should: but the Holy Spirit prays for us with such feeling that it cannot be expressed in words. 27. And the Father who knows all hearts knows, of course, what the Spirit is saying as he pleads for us in harmony with God's own will.

The footnote says, Believers are not left to their own resources to cope with problems. Even when you don't have words to pray, the Holy Spirit prays with you and for you, and God answers. With God helping you pray, you don't need to be afraid to come before him. Ask the Holy Spirit to plead for you "in harmony with God's own will." Then when you bring your requests to God, trust that he will always do what is best.

The Holy Spirit intercedes thru us/you in unutterable groanings....... My mentor used to pray (when she was carrying a burden for someone and she didn't know how or what to pray for them), she would kneel down and just groan and moan like a pregnant woman about to give birth to a baby, until she got some spiritual release. Sometimes we take on the "feelings" of the person we are praying for, even tho we may not even know "who" we are praying for. It could be a missionary on the other side of the world.

Answer 6

You are probably feeling bad because without a job you have more time to sit around and think about it. Stay busy, and try to find stuff to keep your mind occupied while you are waiting for a job offer to come through.

Answer 7

And God heard your prayers little lady! LEAVE YOUR PROBLEMS ON HIS SHOULDERS!

Be at peace. Be patient. Be ever faithful.

Phl 4:7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Answer 8

Let me first say that YOU were so right to pray to God, rather than to blame him. Mourning is natural. The Bible mentions many occurances of those who mourned. Rather you are familiar with the accounts of these scriptures, or not too familiar, you will be certain to draw comfort from them. Serious illness does disrupt the life of loved ones. And we all hope that these ones get better. In those times that are more unfortunate, mourning is just as normal. The most common cause of mourning, undoubtedly, is death. The death of a member of the immediate family set in motion a period of mourning.
(Genesis 23:1-2) . . .And Sarah’s life got to be a hundred and twenty-seven years long. They were the years of Sarah’s life. 2 So Sarah died in Kir′i·ath-ar′ba, that is to say, He′bron, in the land of Ca′naan, and Abraham came in to bewail Sarah and to weep over her.

(Genesis 37:33-35) . . .And he went examining it and exclaimed: “It is my son’s long garment! A vicious wild beast must have devoured him! Joseph is surely torn to pieces!” 34 With that Jacob ripped his mantles apart and put sackcloth upon his hips and carried on mourning over his son for many days. 35 And all his sons and all his daughters kept rising up to comfort him, but he kept refusing to take comfort and saying: “For I shall go down mourning to my son into She′ol!” And his father continued weeping for him.

(Psalm 35:14) . . .As for a companion, as for a brother of mine, I walked about like one mourning for a mother. Saddened, I bowed down.

(Zechariah 12:10) . . .“And I will pour out upon the house of David and upon the inhabitants of Jerusalem the spirit of favor and entreaties, and they will certainly look to the One whom they pierced through, and they will certainly wail over Him as in the wailing over an only [son]; and there will be a bitter lamentation over him as when there is bitter lamentation over the firstborn [son].

Many people mourned and are still mourning. It is normal, but you are not without hope and comfort. (James 4:8) . . .Draw close to God, and he will draw close to YOU. . . .

IT REALLY HELPS! When we are tried emotionally beyond our own limits, God preserves us. (2 Corinthians 4:7) 7 However, we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the power beyond what is normal may be God’s and not that out of ourselves.

Many feel frustrated, even angry, when their life is radically changed by someone else’s sickness. Still, a person who reasons on the situation should realize eventually that this affords him an opportunity to demonstrate the genuineness of his love. True love “is long-suffering and kind . . . It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
For those experiencing trials because of ILLNESS—

Rev. 21:4, 5: “‘[God] will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.’ And the One seated on the throne said: ‘Look! I am making all things new.’ Also, he says: ‘Write, because these words are faithful and true.’”

Answer 9

Love everyone you come into contact with. Meet their needs. This will make you happy. Seek out people who will love you in return also, it's important to have your needs met too.

Answer 10

You can spend less of your time praying to god, and try giving one of these people you love a call. let them know you are thinking about them. Try sending them a card. Also your stressed about caring about people who are ill and being unemployed. here's a tip, and it's not by any means glorious. Gas stations are always looking for employees. It sucks ya, but it's a source of income till you find something better.