I am 18 years old, and both my parents told me not to get in a car with a friend i know very well who is 18 and has his license for one year now. They told me not to go to a theme park maybe half an hour away from home because they fear that i will crash and die. when i returned home my mom said i was "lucky" to be alive, and she believes i should get my license now (for credit card usage) but not drive till i'm 20-21.
Also she keeps saying that brains aren't fully developed till the age of 25, and that i won't be driving by myself (without parents) till that age or later. Help me knock some sense into my incredibly worrywart parents before i leave for college because i cannot live life like this.
thank you for taking the time to read all this.
2007-08-20 18:40:07 · 9 answers · asked by BennyFoldsFive 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
First I think your parents have a point on the brain development. You have not developed if you see this to be a byproduct of being Asian. Be very careful about assigning race to issues it has nothing to do with. That being said your parents seem overly concerned and you need to do your best to understand their feelings and calm their fears. Show them that you can be a safe driver. Ask them to go to the the park with you so they can see they have nothing to fear. Introduce them to your friends. Ask them to take counseling with you. In the end you are an adult now and you make your own choices and face the consequences for those actions. Drive safe and love your parents but please work on removing race as a factor, your life and relationships will be better if you do.
2007-08-20 18:54:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 21 with no children but I'd like to offer my own advice. For the first part you do sound strict about not having a license until 18. Let your children decide when they want to drive. They're becoming adults. Let them decide when the time is right for them. I never got my license until I was 17 going on 18 because I didn't really care if I had it or not. My bro is 2 years younger and still doesn't have his. Both my parents have been more then gracious about when we could obtain them. Accidents do happen. It may happen when they're learning or it may happen when they're older and know better. You just don't know. You just have to let them know the importance of driving safely. And if something happens, such as a fender bender or driving under the influence they will (hopefully) learn from the experience and drive more carefully. Now as for the second question there are laws that are placed for junior drivers. At least in my state there is. In Mass (MA) we are not allowed to drive with another teen until we reach 18. I know you're trying to protect your children from getting into accidents but like i said, you never know if and when its going to happen. So if it was me I would loosen the restrictions. Let them decide when their time is.
2016-05-18 21:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i think the driving age should be raised to 18, 21 in some cases. I don't think a 16 year old is mature enough to take on the huge responsibility of driving.
I can see where your parents are coming from but not allowing you to drive until you are 25 does seem a bit extreme.
2007-08-20 20:06:25 · answer #3 · answered by llllll_amanda_lllllll 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a little extreme. However, your mom is right about brain development. Certain decision making areas of the brain are not fully developed until you are 25 years old. However, if you are 18 and responsible, then I don't see an issue with you driving...That being said, cherish that your parents care so deeply for you!
2007-08-20 18:44:52 · answer #4 · answered by ¤¤Je§§ica¤¤ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Greetings to you,
You have a common situation "adults thinking teenagers are not ready for something". Well I agree with the responses of Jessica,Brkshandilya, Amanda and especially Meanracoon. You know there are some teens that display more maturity and responsibility better than some 30 and even 40 year olds. I don't think age is so much a factor it's the level of respect for others and the preson's level and understanding of their responsiblity. That makes the difference.
2007-08-25 07:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by msg4ltloldme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
asian parents???
omg
cuz most teenagers don't have enough experience driving, obviously everyone is worried when teens drive, even me, cuz some get more easily distracted w music n other nonsense.
so yeah, it's not just asian rents
oh but she did exagerate when she put an age limit for brains to fully develop, that was real ignorant, so ur rite on that point, lolz.
actions speak louder than words for parents, so juss show her how responsible u really r
good luck
2007-08-20 18:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by Bella Latina, 22 summers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Earn their confidence in the ways you know the best.There is no point in leaving worried parents at home,when you are away on a drive.I mean,it would be utterly selfish on your part.Remember,Someday,some where and in some measure, you will face a some what similar situation about your OWN KIDS[It's for sure,or have a bet.].Let's not forget to care for the people we love,even if things are not logical at times.West has so many things to learn from Asia,specially about family values and our close bondings.Many of them have openly told me about it any number of times.
2007-08-20 19:31:06 · answer #7 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...I'm Asian too. I know exactly how you feel.
Although I think Asian people are bright and want what is best for their children.......I can honestly tell you that I think Asian parents are just flat out......CRAZY!....PERIOD!!
2007-08-26 17:37:06 · answer #8 · answered by g-money 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out if you can't deal with it.
2007-08-20 18:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋