This really is a serious question. My girlfriend loves to give me oral sex, and it feels really good, but for some reason I can't come when she is giving me oral and when I don't she says "she feel inadequate". Other than that, we have a wonderful sex life. I don't know why I can't but I just can't so how do I explain it to her so she don't feel so inadequate?
2007-08-20 18:32:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love her and tender her.
2007-08-20 18:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by Street Smart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Jim.
I've been married for almost five years now, I'm 30, and I've never orgasmed from oral sex. Not once. It just doesn't happen to me. It feels good and all, but it just doesn't put me over the top.
I don't know what your relationship is like or your personalities etc but you could perhaps say something like, "I felt like there was something wrong with me because I can't come from oral sex. But it turns out there are other guys who are the same way. It feels awesome and everything but I guess I just need to be a more active participant in the sexual act for my mind to go where it needs to go for me to orgasm."
Hopefully by presenting the idea that you thought something might be wrong with you, it would show her that you never thought it had anything to do with her being inadequate or whatever. Thing is, whatever you say, it had better be an Academy Award worthy performance because otherwise your sex life will take a nosedive for the worse.
2007-08-21 01:58:02 · answer #2 · answered by Mika 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know you are overall pleased with the sex life you guys have and let her know oral sex is foreplay in your book; not the main act and thus you do not have an orgasm when she gives you oral sex.
2007-08-21 01:38:16 · answer #3 · answered by strawberries 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One night while cuddling or something, I would just talk to her and tell her that though you really enjoy what she is doing for you physically, you are just unable to come. Hopefully she will understand and your wonderful sex life and relationship will continue.
I hope this helps some and good luck!
2007-08-21 01:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by hahtnamas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell her straight up. "it's not that it doesn't feel good or anything, but i just can't do it. and i don't want you to feel inadequate because you're amazing at what you do, but it just doesn't come out" there's nothing better than telling her straight foward
2007-08-21 01:39:59 · answer #5 · answered by I caused global warming. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop letting her feelings determine the way you act. If you don't want it, be a man and tell her you don't want it ... then give her my phone number.
2007-08-21 01:40:19 · answer #6 · answered by jin dun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, that was brilliant, just lay it on the line like you did here in your question!
2007-08-21 01:41:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her like u just told us
2007-08-21 01:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋