ok, a little more detail is probably needed.
My friend met, and fell in love with, a girl who will remain unnamed. she had overcome a different run-in with cancer at an earlier date, and no ill-effects occured. My friend married her, and they decided to have a kid.
this is the 3rd month of their pregnancy, and during a routine check-up, the doctors found cancer in her uterus. i dont know all the details, but i do know that the life of the kid is in jeapordy. what they would normally do is go in and remove the cancer cells, and no harm would be done. but they cant, because of the baby. they dont want to give her treatment, or kemo, because it may hurt the kid.
what am i, as a friend, supposed to do, or say? i know, be supportive and all that, but i cannot always be there. he has always come to me when he didnt know what to do, and i have gone to him to ask questions as well. What do i tell him?
how can i reassure him that everything will be fine without sounding like a sham?
2007-08-20 18:03:40 · 5 answers · asked by RA.Holton@yahoo.com 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
IF your friend has always discussed problems with you, he will proably do so with this one.
You can't influence his decision, but encourage him to talk it through.
Ask what the Dr's recommend and why.
Ask what his opinions/thoughts are.
Reflect his thoughts back e.g. Are you meaning ....., I understand that you are feeling........, etc.
This will help him to make his own decision.
Chances are he is going to have to decide to save his child and risk raising it alone, or terminate the child and still run the risk of loosing his wife.
This is something only the couple can decide.
2007-08-20 18:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by Tarkarri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya that is a hard one to answer.Did the dr.at all ask her to terminate the pregnancy? IT all depends how many cells and what stage it is at. I am sure the dr they have have given all of the options to them. Just be there for them thats all you can do really.
2007-08-21 01:15:38 · answer #2 · answered by And life goes on 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now i am in love with a girl who is 19 yerasold,lung cancer.i adore her.i met her at hospital during my visit to my grandma.i dont even have any plan, dream about future without her.tell your friend i think those problems to happen in future if she doesnt leave me.son now i just want her to live...and marry her like your friend did....tell him look at her eyes...i love doing it.my darling's right leg had been cut, has real short hair but when i look her eyes i feel real love...
i think your friend should thank ALLAH and pray....
love
2007-08-21 06:16:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't - don't even try. Just give him a big hug. It's their family problem. Don't insinuate yourself too much into the picture. It would be too invasive at this time in their relationship.
2007-08-21 01:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by artgal1285 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so is it her cervix or her uterus? big difference, maybe you should get your facts straight before doing or saying anything
2007-08-21 06:23:13 · answer #5 · answered by HockeyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋