Thank you all for helping! Well my boyfriend says that he loves me, and i adore/ love him too. But i dont know why i keep thinking that i love him more and that he might leave me soon. Because he does nothing to prove that, he always says how much he cares about me and how he wants to marry me, i want to marry him too! But i cant stop thinking that feeling. I dont know why either, can someone please tell me why i keep thinking this? How do i stop and make the feeling never come back ? I keep telling myself stop, but thats not enough, how do i really stop thinking this bad thought ? I am very happy with him, and he is with me, and everytime i think about it i get very very sad. Also everytime that i try to take my mind off of it, and try to do fun things that i like to do, the feeling just comes back, i really dont understand why this keeps happening. I want to be with him forever and ever, he also wants to be with me forever and ever. PLEASE HELP !!!!! THANK YOU ALL AGAIN !!!!! :)) !
2007-08-20 17:29:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just live your relationship in peace and dont think things like that. As long as you both succeed to fight for the relationship in order to keep it even in bad times nothing happens to this relationship.
I think you both have true love to each other. Just do not give from each other so easily when problems occur.
2007-08-20 17:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by phantomias 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look if you guys love each other so much then there should be no problem with you talking to him about your feelings. Marraige is a huge commitment and in reality your mate needs to know and understand you so he can love you the way you NEED to be loved. So don't be afriad to talk to him, maybe he could reassure you to when you get those thoughts.
HOWEVER - you also need to look in the mirror and do a self examination figure out what is steming these feelings it could be something in your past, maybe what you have been through, your parents, siblings or friends but something trigers it - if this is the case then you need to find a way or method to help you get over that insecurity because it could be very damaging to your realtionship.
BUT- you said he does nothing to show you - just based on the facts that you have given it is your intuition putting up the red flag and you can do 2 things
1) Communicate - Remind him how much you love him and let him know the things that he does that really make you feel loved, and trust his love for you, let him know about your fears, and how actions speak louder then words - he will either make that effort and start showing you more - or will continue with what he has given so far which is a verbal confirmation - but when you truly LOVE your heart motivates you to want to do things for your mate that is why ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER then words
2) TEST- you can take a step back and you do less to see if he does more - if he doesn't then your seeing who the one is putting in most of the effort, I'm not doubting his love for you but what are you getting in return.
Being in a relationship and marriage takes TWO people giving in all the time equally - Like a bank account if you keep making 3 deposits to his 1 yet he takes he takes four deposits before giving one your account is negetive your overdrawn by the time you get yours its after the fact after the drama - over time this will only hurt you in the long run if you settle.
Right now is the time to really get to know that inner person both in yourself and your mate - always be honest about your feelings, wants and needs, only then can he understand you and hopefully return the love you need.
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2007-08-21 00:59:46 · answer #2 · answered by Dianna R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you have trust issues or have been betrayed in the past. that kind of thing causes you to constantly be on the alert that someone you deeply care about might abandon you.
or you're sort of a self-doubter and feel like one day he might want something better, and it worries you. it's not bad, it's pretty normal. a lot of people feel that way.
try talking to your boyfriend about it. you dont have to burst out that you think he's going to leave you, that might seem a bit overwhelming and worry HIM. try just calmly discussing how you feel. mention that its not because of anything he does, its an internal feeling that you yourself dont understand.
if it is trust issues, you just have to keep putting yourself out there and keep trusting. if he really does love you as much as you say, then he has no reason to leave you, and eventually, once you realize that, the feeling will slowly ease off. it will take time, but it'll be okay. instead of trying to "not think about it" try not WORRYING about it. just be like, "okay, this is one of my fears, but for now it's alright" reassure yourself with phrases that help you relax and calm down. sometimes when i get caught up in my fears or anxieties, i start to panic, and therefor not think logically. i take a couple deep breaths and use some common phrases to open my mind up and stop me from freaking out.
hope this helped and good luck!!!
2007-08-21 00:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just about insecure about the relationship and probably suffer a little inferior complex where u think that you are not as good for him, thus, you had to put in a little more effort and felt that you love him more.
In every relationship, it would not be exactly equal where both loves each other the same. But at least you have glad that you met the love of your life and he loves you too, so quit the silly thought and spend more time thinking of how much more you can do for your MAN!
2007-08-21 00:38:39 · answer #4 · answered by watashi79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You no need to think the bad things always...
Since u already dating with him, and u two both love each others at the same time, so, why u still need to worry so much?
No need to worry anymore if he really love u now...
You just need to worry only after once day he no more love u then u just worry at that day...
If he really love u, then he will never betray u, so, just trust him if u know he is the right guy for u...
So, now, enjoy ur love sweet time with him and treasure ur love time with him...
Wish u two will get a wonderful life at future...
Good Luck....
Cheers...
2007-08-21 01:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by WindWalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're young and you're insecure. Your thoughts are meaningless, unless you tell him about them, and then you'll endanger your relationship. Don't just say "Stop" to these thoughts. Instead, replace them with other, happier thoughts. Also, first thing in the morning and last thing at night, repeat to yourself, "My boyfriend loves me." After three weeks of that, 42 times of saying it, those thoughts should fade away. Google the phrase, "Positive Affirmations" for more info.
2007-08-21 00:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i went thro this too n u said tht he even says he wants to b with u forever ... summtimes it may feel like u love him more bc girls r typically more expressive with their emotions than guys are n right now i would tell myself .. well he's with me right now n he wants to spend his life with me ... so theres nuthin to worry about b a lil more confident
2007-08-21 00:34:58 · answer #7 · answered by Kayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg i had that feeling before, u need to trust him if you love him, if u think that than u prolly dont trust him, and it gonna annoy him and u gonna fihgt over nothing, so let it go before u make things worst, it happen to me before i was like that and i didnt stop and i did end up making it worst cause i was acting liek that, so stop, and love dont need to be prove it wat u feel
2007-08-21 00:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by crazylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you both are happy just give it time just be careful that its true love and nothing is more to it. and make sure its a true commitment.
2007-08-21 00:35:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋