My boyfriend is obsessed with my mobile and home phone bills and questions what I do down to the smallest details. I have trouble answering his questions to minor details as often I can't remember the small things I did last week for example. This is driving me insane. Do you think he is sick in the head?
2007-08-20 17:21:20 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
heres the deal. guys get paraniod after they've cheated themselves. so he's either getting with someone else or he has been that way in the past. or he really is just sick in the head. either way its not good. if you want to know which one it is: confront him about it. if he gets pissed off and breaks up with you or wont talk to you for more than 5 days or so he's cheating, if he gets pissy but backs off he was just untrustworthy in past relationships, but if he throws it way out of proportion and it gets worse he's sick in the head and you need to change your number, email, because he will be one of those stalker ex-boyfriends. be careful this guy seems nuts
2007-08-20 17:32:14 · answer #1 · answered by Summerae Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STALKER!!!
I have always said, a man will only do what u let him get away with! If you let him know from the beginning ur not having it then he will do one of two thing......he will change or he will up and leave and either way ur better off.
I don't know how long u've been with this guy but either way if u've never given him a reason not to trust you then he shouldn't be acting like that! If he's questioning you about every little thing it's either because he has something to hide (it's always easier to point the finger at someone else before they get a chance to point it at you), the more he comes at you the more u defend urself as opposed to questioning him.
He could just be possessive or had a bad experience in his last relationship but regardless u need to set the record straight now before it gets worse because it will get worse if u continue to allow it!
2007-08-21 00:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is he has a very low self-esteem and probably thinks the world of you. He also sounds a bit possessive and controlling.
These traits if left unchecked could lead to a lot of problems in the future (see how they are already causing problems) I would have a real serious talk with him and warn him and I guess if it continues or gets worse then it might be reason to move out of the relationship. I would work with him though and explain to him that he needs to trust you for your relationship to work out. If he really trust you then he will at least try to lighten up a bit.
good luck.
2007-08-21 00:27:54 · answer #3 · answered by crysent 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
On the contrary! You may be "sick in the head" being a girlfriend to a boy who is straight out letting you know you are not worthy of his trust.
2007-08-21 00:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by D Guru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN!!!!!! This is controlling, abusive behavior. It DOES get worse. You do not need to justify your life to him. You are not his to control. This guy needs help to understand why he feels the need to control, and I'm sorry to say that you are going to be much better off without him. Abusers rarely reform to the point of becoming gentle, supportive partners.
2007-08-21 00:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by peachyone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is suspecting some sort of games being played on your end , he is very insecure by the sounds of it . Maybe if you love this man sit him down tell him not to worry and to trust you that you love him .. if not get the heck on with your life it may just get worse ! Good luck hun god bless ya
2007-08-21 00:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by I♥myKids 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi
2007-08-21 00:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by praveen m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you're describing is a control freak. Hate to say it but these types of men usually become abusers.
If I were in your shoes (thank god I'm not.....no offense) I'd be running in the other direction.
2007-08-21 00:28:32 · answer #8 · answered by seashell 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
quite simply - yes! Until you're married - he has no right to question your phone bills or ask you for details unless you've given him reason to believe you may be cheating on him and even then - this is over the top.
2007-08-21 00:25:13 · answer #9 · answered by JVar 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. He's abusive and it will only get worse. Talk to a domestic violence group for more information and get out of this relationship.
2007-08-21 00:24:18 · answer #10 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋