Religion and spirituality regulars: is narcissism a "manly" virtue?

Question

Jack is dragging himself away from his mirror to ask this important spiritual question!

Answer 1

Narcissus was a handsome Greek youth who rejected the desperate advances of the nymph Echo. That certainly does not sound characteristicly like Jack B at all to me!

As punishment, Narcissus was doomed to fall in love with his own reflection in a pool of water. Unable to consummate his love, Narcissus pined away and changed into the flower that bears his name, the narcissus. A sad ending for such a Hawt dude. I cannot imagine that fate befalling a manly person, like Jack B.

Freud believed that some narcissism is an essential part of all of us from birth and was the first to use the term in the reference to psychology. Freud was a bit weird though, aspects of his logic, like this gem, shine through the murk.

Andrew Morrison claims that, in adults, a reasonable amount of healthy narcissism allows the individual's perception of his needs to be balanced in relation to others. Jack B is a self proffessed Libran and I have noted he is also quite a caring and thoughtful person, for he most part. Perhaps others around here should love themselves more and share the love instead of pushing the put downs!

There is a need of professionals to preserve their self esteem ~ most work on cultivating a self that exudes authority, control, knowledge, competence and respectability. It’s the narcissist in us all—we dread appearing stupid or incompetent.

So there it is.... Narcissism is indeed a manly virtue but too much of it... "extreme narcissism" turns him into a wall flower.

Answer 2

Narcissism is not only 'manly' but also necessary, essential. Every minister, politician, TV weatherman, actor, police officer, and very nearly every other male of the species who's worth his salt is narcissistic. It's what makes the man! Women are not drawn to wimps, geeks, and guys who spend their lives bent over a computer for hours and hours and wasted hours.

Answer 3

I like the image Jack. NO. Narcissim is an infantile hangover, quite different from simply have compassion, affection, and respect for one's self (without which you cannot have them for any other, either). Go back to piracy, laddie.

Answer 4

No, according to the dictionary, narcissism is a personality disorder. But I'm sure God thinks you're pretty...Blessings!

Answer 5

It's unattractive as a characteristic, and hardly considered a virtue in any form or fashion. It restricts interpersonal communication and prevents intimacy. It also leaves one prone to "narcissistic injury," which arises whenever the fragile ego sustains an insult or suggestion that you are not the center of anyone else's universe.

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Answer 6

Blame it on your mother. My son was the youngest of my three children, with one of his sisters almost eleven years older, and the other sister five years older. We all told him constantly how manly and handsome he was. Oddly enough, he ended up very humble. Go figure. Sweet Boy, please tell my your mama told you how wonderful you are, or it will break my heart.

Answer 7

Holy Carp! NH Baritone just described me to a T!

Answer 8

It can be both man or woman. Let these two get married and that is one interesting senario. I see it all the time with my sister and her husband. Glad it is not me.

Answer 9

Nope. No exclusive club there. I have an Aunt who's so in love with herself she a gay.

Answer 10

For you Jack, yes.