I am recieving $8,000 for my biological brother passing away. We were seperated our whole lives because I was adopted into another family. When I receive the money, I'm pretty sure my family that I've been adopted to my whole life will want me to split it. But they are in Chicago and I am in California trying to get my life and career started. I work and go to school. I'm a little bit in trouble finacially, and this money will help me out a lot, and I'll be able to save about $4,000 dollars as a back up because I plan on moving overseas when I finsh college. I really don't want to split anything because I feel that I really need the money. Is this selfish?
2007-08-20 17:05:24 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi. Sorry about your brother's passing. Obviously, from your question, your adopted family knows of this inheritance. This is a hard situation. Living on your own, going to school and getting your career started is expensive so I know this money will come in handy. Is your adopted family also struggling financially? Or, why do you think that they want you to split it? Have they come out and said this? Perhaps, something could be done for them if they are also struggling.....buy your mom and dad something that they need? This way you would be sharing some of your inheritance by thinking of them and still be able to keep the bulk of the money. If they are not struggling financially, then I would just take them all out to a nice restaurant the next time you are home. Good luck!
2007-08-20 17:20:09 · answer #1 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not in the least.you are one of the few smart ones.You know the value of a dollar.I will not change a thing .Keep to your plans.People did not adopt you so they could receive financial rewards.Let your money work for you and only share the dividends.When God blesses you you use his blessings to make your life better.It is only then that you can help others stand up.
2007-08-20 17:15:45 · answer #2 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep all of it if I were you. If you really feel as if they're going to want you to split it, just tell them you're going to sit on it for a while before you make any decisions on what to do with it.
If they don't respect that, especially in this awkward time for you, then they probably don't have the best parenting skills, no offense.
2007-08-20 17:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are selfish, but that selfishness is common sense, if you are starting out and you need that money for your future but your family doesn't need it as bad, you take preference. If your brother gave you that money then it is YOUR money not theirs. Tip: If they don't know, don't tell them; there will be no conflict and you will still get along.
2007-08-20 17:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jacko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is your money and it would be bad if your adopted family wanted some of that money. No it is yours and you shouldn't feel bad for keeping it all, one day when you CAN and have some extra money you can do things for them for all the good things they did for you, sort of gratitude for them being there for you when you need them..
2007-08-21 09:16:26 · answer #5 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not selfish at all, and if your adoptive family expects half the money, I would rethink the reason they adopted you. Move on, enjoy your life.
2007-08-20 17:11:36 · answer #6 · answered by Glinda W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, they are being selfish for not wanting basically their son to get started off on the right foot. My family would never ask for me for money whether it is $8,000 or $500,000,000.
2007-08-20 18:14:45 · answer #7 · answered by kyyyyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do exactly what you are doin?
They are not entitled to any of it as it was your biological brother that left it to you!
If you set yourself up and decided to give them a little that would be ok but dont feel obligated to
2007-08-20 17:14:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the money fully for you or did you receive instruction to split it up
2007-08-20 17:13:42 · answer #9 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was your brother not their brother or son they have no say in what you do with your money. They should be ashamed of themselves if they do ask you for it or make you feel guilty because you received it. It was left for you and does not stipulate you have to share it!!
2007-08-20 17:10:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋