First off, I'm 16. Okay, so there's this girl...we have some mutual friends, but I really have no clue who she is. I don't think I've even seen her before. She says I did...[wishful thinking?]. I can tell she likes me because of some messages and whatnot I got from her on the computer. She's 16 and has a 1 year old son. That's about all I know about her.
She keeps wanting to talk to me on the computer and stuff, but I've been trying to avoid her. I have no interest in her. I start my 1st year of college this year [and yes, I'm only 16], and not only do I not need a relationship, I'm just not attracted to her.
Any ideas? Things to say? Things to do?
Thanks for any help...
2007-08-20 16:58:45 · 44 answers · asked by That One Guy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be nice, and keep her on the just friends level. If she insists on going further, tell her that you have your plate full ( which I am sure you do) and aren't dating right now. If it continues to be a problem, tell her to back off. You can be rude at that point if you need to.
Good luck with college!
Don't be too mean to her. She deserves to be treated with dignity, just like every other person. I mean, she has to have good taste right? :-)
2007-08-20 17:03:05 · answer #1 · answered by The Nag 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have a man that doesn't talk that much either and I am just your full blown mouth. It is frustrating when talking to him and looking for him to say something about what we/I talk about. But I knew how talkative he has always been and wouldn't want to change him in any way. But if she brings it up that you don't talk just ask her what does she want you to say/ talk about. I can understand it can get frustrating just hearing her ask that all the time. But if you guys both love each other you will find an answer. All you got to do is just ask. I hope I helped you out a bit~ Good luck on the soon to be marriage!
2016-05-18 06:26:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Nag is right, don't reject her, but don't go into a relationship if you don't want to.
Nobody likes to be treated bad, no matter what their situation. If she has a 1 year old son and is looking for another man, obviously, she has had plenty of rejection from the father, don't make things any worse. Continue to talk to her and remain her friend. If she asks about a relationship, just say your going to college and can't deal with a girlfriend.
Don't reject her. If you do, you will feel bad in the end. Support her as a friend but hint that your not into a relationship without flat out avoiding her.
2007-08-20 17:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can possibly do is tell her your situation and that you are not ready to have a relationship at this time in your life. You have too many things going on to pursue a relationship and you do not know her well enough to be making such a decision.
She may just have to deal with the fact that you do not like her and sometimes thats the only thing that can happen. Perhaps when you go off to college she will forget about you and find some one else who has mutual feelings for her.
2007-08-20 17:11:13 · answer #4 · answered by Devin T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With things like this, always remember how you'd feel if you were in her shoes. Since you have tried avoiding her and its not totally working - you could try to talk to one of your NICE mutual friends and let them know you're not interested, maybe they could break it to her a little easier without embarrassing her.
OR you could try to just stay nice but not flirty. If she hints around at things change the subject, or act confused. Eventually if you play dumb and uniterested by her comments she'll get the hint.
2007-08-20 17:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by Kimi Cabanna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not even look at her if she is 16 and has a 1 year old son, well that just wrong, if you even look at her she will think you like her then who knows what could happen :o(
2007-08-20 17:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the ho!
I am impressed with the college thing by the way.
Dude, you DON'T NEED that slut's baby on your hands. That's way too much.
So I guess you should just ignore her, if it takes to long be like...ME! Tell her the truth, slip in some clever little jokes and keep walking!!
Oh and if it helps you break relations with her, call her a ho. If all goes well...still call her a ho, she has no place in having a kid so young...dumb ho.
2007-08-20 17:10:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honsetly all ways help If your not attracted to her you can tell in a nice way without hurting her feeling for example I think your a nice girl but right know im more inteerste in pursing my higher education and a reltionship is something im not intersted in at this point . See she dosent have all your true feeling. but let her know that she dosent take the wrong way? I hope that helps
2007-08-20 17:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by KeKa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually i would just ignore her.........there is ways you can block her from any contact with her........she may like you and she may need someone to help her with her child......but if you are not interested and she does not take the hint....just plain tell her you have no interest in her and you are going to go to college and have to much you want to do with your life and it is not with her.......it may hurt her maybe but least she should get the message........there is a reason she keeps bothering you but since i do not know either one of you i have no idea what that is for sure
2007-08-20 17:07:11 · answer #9 · answered by sanangel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, she likes you but that doesn't mean that you can't be friends. I don't think that you should completely ignore her. It's okay to just be friends sometimes. Maybe talk to her but eventually establish the fact that you just want to remain friends and focus on school. Just because she has a child doesn't mean she is looking for a daddy. If you are gonna try to stop talking to her at least try to be nice about it.
2007-08-20 17:07:07 · answer #10 · answered by ~{Graciela}~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋