Fighting recently so he decided on a break while he got to ready to move here to college. It was just a let's not talk/see and it lasted 4 days ony because I helped him move into his apartment like we agreed on. Also we had not had sex in over 2-2.5 months because of a christian moral/long story short I wanted to but he was confused later saying he wanted to. So I stayed the night the first night and we ended up having sex and it was great. The next morning he didn't really cuddle like normal and just got right up although maybe because now he has roomates? He has not called me yet, even when I say call me after class and I call him everytime. He texted me once to invite me to dinner. He doesn't want to hold hands or cuddle nearly as much as we used to. Kisses are few and far between (only when I'm leaving basically or I go for it). I asked tonight how he was or did he want to talk. He said he was fine and he doesn't know what to say. I'm clueless so I told him to tell me if I'm
2007-08-20 16:27:08 · 17 answers · asked by misschick87 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
pushing it or calling too much, etc but he won't communicate. It's just not him, otherwise things have been great happy no fights. What does it seem like is going on? Is it just a college transition?
2007-08-20 16:27:19 · update #1
Either cheating or he has some moral issues he's fighting in his head.
2007-08-20 16:31:28 · answer #1 · answered by sublime 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
99% of all relationship problems seem to fit into just a few boxes, and one of those boxes is: person A is passionately in love with person B; while person B doesn't care.
Also applies to sex. Person A wants, person B does not.
Advice: This situation will not change. You can read online about thousands of marriages falling apart from this scenario. The sad part is that person A had eyes wide open from the beginning and still did not see until they were 2 - 5 years into a marriage and completely miserable.
Advice: Move on. Find someone who cares about you as much as you care about them.
2007-08-20 23:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by R_Crumb_Rocks 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just from the info provided, I don't think it sounds like he cheated. I think he's probably just stressed and tired from the move and starting school. That stuff really takes it's toll on people. Interpersonal relationships often suffer. Hopefully things will balance out and get better.
Of course it could be that his feelings have just changed and he doesn't feel the same way about your relationship that he did before the fighting started, but if he won't talk to you there isn't much you can do but wait for him to be ready.
Hope this helps. Hang in there.
2007-08-20 23:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you annoyed him too much by calling constantly or asking about his female friends and thinking he may have something more going on and proclaiming your constant worry about the relationship.
Are you constantly asking him about you two and informing him that you worry about the relationship? Doing so, without warrant, for the sake of lack of self confidence is sabotage. Also, informing of marriage is a death sentence to any man. It will come in it's right time.
All of those things annoy a man, much like they would annoy a woman if a man did that.
Easy fix: Back off a bit and be normal and less a worrier.
2007-08-20 23:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It must be that he has matured a little bit more now. an dhe got sort of what he wanted. no he more than likely is not cheating but just not as into talking now. Give him some time and keep trying to talk to him.
2007-08-20 23:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by blondebunny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like his mind is on someone esle, and the lack of or diminishment of physical contact shows that.....as for the sex you had, let me put it to you the way my ex-wife put it when i asked her why she had sex with me the last time before she filed the papers....."i just wanted to see if there was anything left there".....that's what it sounds like he was doing as well.....and the fact that he hasn't called and and doesn't cuddle or do the little things anymore says to me he's already gone. you sound like a sweet girl who needs to let it go and move on to someone and something better
2007-08-20 23:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by #1 bossman 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Basically, I think you're smothering him too much.
He will naturally push you away if you're too needy, or are always calling/texting/meeting with him.
I think you need to give him some space to think for now, but dont stop talking to him.
I dont think he's cheating on you.
If he really cares about you, and wants to be with you, he will be the one that will call you.
2007-08-20 23:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He may not have cheated. He could have met someome else though, and is trying to shake you off in a subtle way (so he doesn't look like a jerk), If I were you I would be upfront about it.. " Is there something wrong? Are you seeing someone else? Why are you acting so strange?"
2007-08-20 23:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it maybe. I'd sit down with him and tell him what's going on is bugging you. When he least expects it ask him if he has cheated, if he takes more than four seconds to answer he's more than likely lieing. Be prepared for the answer though. Good luck.
2007-08-20 23:34:25 · answer #9 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be just a new thing, new people around...doesn't want to have to answer who's she, what's going on etc.
However, that being said, I would want a guy who's thrilled to be with me and want to show me off.
Follow your gut. You know him.
Good luck!
2007-08-20 23:33:10 · answer #10 · answered by Autumn S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋