Why in the world? Hes driving me crazy.?

Question

Apparently a very close guy friend i have thought we were dating though we agreed friends is all we'll ever be, but he gets mad at me cause I am considering a relationship with someone I like. We've always said we were just friends, nothing more, were not at all physical, except for maybe some major flirtation, but no kissing or holding hands no cuddling, like you would think a couple would. So he gets so mad and jealous of my other guy friend and he doesn't know him. So i tell him first of all, i didn't know we were dating and I had given up hope of anything with you anyways because you said friends is all well ever be. I feel so bad for hurting him like this but I've also hurt myself, I feel better to get away from this a little bit but hes all i think about now and I want to see him and talk to him so bad.

i was just looking out for myself i guess, i don't want anything serious with him, we are two very different people running opposite ways. How do I tell him that I want

so much more for me and hes not what i want like he's basically said to me. He's making me feel so sorry for hurting him but I can't help but stand to be furious at the same time for only wanting to try to find love myself. Am i in the wrong here?

he called me and sounded very drunk. i
ve known him to drink very rarely. is he trying to get back at me?

Answer 1

He sounds very manipulative to me. Remember jealousy is not love. Follow your instincts and stay away from him.

Answer 2

He's jealous because he loves you. When you write that you can't stop thinking about him and want to see him and talk to him, the way you feel sounds like how I felt when I was first falling in love with my husband.
If you are not looking for love, leave the guy alone to get on with his life because you will end up hurting him, for the simple reason that he won't be able to stand seeing you with someone else.