i do not want to date outside my race not because of the color of there skin i could care less but because i think that other races have nothing in common w/me i would feel so uncomfortable w/them and i dont think races should mix cause of the big difference especially african americans and chinese cause they arent my type at all so am i racist cause i want a good white country boy cause am a country girl in the south
2007-08-20 15:55:04 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You should start a family with the person who attracts you and makes you happy. If you're attracted to white people, there is nothing racist about that. Check around and you'll see all sorts of people dating only within their race or ethnicity.
Be careful about how you defend yourself though. Sometimes, in effort to dismantle any notion of racism, people will dig themselves into a deeper hole.
One thing for which you'll be pounced on, however, is the idea that *other* people should date only certain people. The whole "different races shouldn't mix" idea is racist in nature, no doubt.
2007-08-20 15:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by Buying is Voting 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not racist, necessarily, but it's a bit narrow-minded.
The statement, "this culture has nothing to do with mine" is fair. However, excluding everyone from that culture for that reason is prejudice - the basis for racism. They might have different ideas, different upbringing, different values, but that doesn't make them different human beings. They still can be loving, caring, smart, funny, etc etc etc
You say African Americans and Chinese are "not your type at all". Have you talked to them? And OK, I understand, some of them might not appeal to you. Doesn't mean that none of them would. There are plenty of African Americans and Chinese guys out there whom you would probably like out there, if you just sat down, talked to them, and let them explain their culture, why they do this and that, etc.
Races should mix. Cultures should mix. Cultural separation is what causes conflict. It's people who think that they have nothing in common with somebody who is of different skin color or of a different culture. But it's not true. People are people, wherever they are from. I know that - I myself changed cultures several times and I've found that to be true.
Nothing wrong with wanting a good white country boy, but I'm just saying keep your eyes open, ya know. I know it feels safer to keep to your own kind, but people who are different might just open your eyes. Plus, why limit yourself to a certain population? If you have the world to choose from, you can definitely find your soulmate.
2007-08-20 16:12:50 · answer #2 · answered by Antonio 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would've said no until you got to this part, "...I think that other races have nothing in common with me, I would feel so uncomfortable with them and I don't think races should mix cause of the big difference..." To say that White people have nothing in common with other races is absurd and only shows that you've not taken the time to get to know people of other races. And by the way, I'm White.
What God tells us to do is treat others as we want to be treated. Your comments show that you're not doing that, whether you date another race or not.
2007-08-20 16:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by Michael B - Prop. 8 Repealed! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Daisy... to each his own...beauty and love is in the eye and heart of the beholder...
...but from past experiences, do not be surprised that you will find yourself attracted to someone either African American or Chinese just because you have said this....
....lol, never fails...I once said I could "never" even think about dating a *TALL man, much less think of a closer relationship with one....LOLOLOL guess what? I actually had a hard time saying "no" to myself for exactly what I said "never" about.
Peace be with you :)
*Because of a personal issue with not wanting to feel I couldn't protect myself if threatened
2007-08-20 16:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by ForeverSet 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, dating and friendship are different.
Different race in marriage is ok and sometimes cultural different also taking effects.
As long as you are ok making friends with different color skins. Then you are not a racist.
2007-08-20 16:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by ivan_the_terrible 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's okay for you to want to have a mate with things in common with you. In fact, I wanted to marry a man who was black because we would have that in common. But just be careful not to judge people of other cultures without knowing them. Know that they are just people, like you, and they laugh, cry, love and hate just like country white people.
A husband is very different than your friends however. There are many things we can learn from other cultures, and I think we should always have friends who are not from our racial / cultural background. It opens up our worlds a bit, and helps us to understand the world we live in outside of our comfort zones.
But I would however, try and get to know those cultures. You may find you have more in common than you think!
2007-08-20 16:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by peacetimewarror 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you arent racist in Gods eyes or anyone elses, normally one would be racist if you think that other races are subhuman or not as good as you, I think you are fine you just need to be less closeminded in the situation because you think you cant find love from another race, but it isnt true it dosent matter their race its the person inside the skin, and you might find someone elses culture really interesting and you might find it fun to participate in.
2007-08-20 16:06:21 · answer #7 · answered by Janey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a Christian then you must marry a Christian - no matter what his color may be. You are not racist just for preferring a particular color. Did you know that Moses himself married a black woman. He did. And when his sister Miriam rebuked him for this God struck her with leprosy for not minding her own business!
Act 17:26 And God hath made of one blood all nations of men for to dwell on all the face of the earth, and hath determined the times before appointed, and the bounds of their habitation;
2007-08-20 16:01:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 07:25:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing wrong with not wanting to date people who have nothing in common with you.
But seriously, have you never met someone 'of a different race'? I have several hispanic/african american friends who all live and have grown up in the same state as me and we have lots in common. I was raised catholic and so were my two best girl friends who are both hispanic, I'm white, we all love going to concerts and shopping.
DO you think people of different colors are from different planets?! wtf thats weird.
2007-08-20 16:02:53 · answer #10 · answered by spidermilk666 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋