I love my husband soooo much and we have been married for almost a year.About three weeks ago we found out he has Hodgkins Lyphoma Cancer. Stage two. He is 20 and i am 19. Since we found out he has had surgeries and tests off the wazoo. He is such a strong person, and is the nicest most caring person i know. He started chemo the 16th of august, and it made a bit nauseated, and weak, and very tired.I am trying to do everything for him and take care of him the best i can. I know God is going to heal him but i am so scared that i am going to lose him, and it hurts so bad to see him weak and tired and just not his strong self.I want to make it all better and i know he is the one going through it but i am hurting to. It kills me just to look at him becasue i want to cry everytime i look at him, its just because i love him so much and i hate that he is in pain and i am scared to lose him, and that i know i can't make anything better. I need advise, incouragement, and prayers please!!!!!!
2007-08-20 15:29:20 · 22 answers · asked by Christian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thanks in advance
2007-08-20 15:32:01 · update #1
Let not your heart be troubled-Jesus said that!!!
Father right now in the name of Jesus, I ask that you surround these newlyweds with your eternal love.
Let them know that in the midnight hours, you'll dry their tears, in the valley low, you'll lift them up, when they need a miracle, you're able to perform it, when the enemy comes to them one way, the enemy shall flee them seven ways!
Encourgage them right now, let them know that you are the God that healeth thee and that you're able to do exceedingly, abundantly above what they can even ask or think according to the power that worketh within them.
Is there anything too hard for God? No!!!
I bind the enemies (fear, doubt, lies, nightmares, imps) in Jesus name!
No weapon that has been formed against them shall prosper!
Anything that attempt to exhault itself above the Word of God shall be utterly cast down and destroyed, never to return again.
In Jesus name, I loose peace in the midst of this storm, joy unspeakable and the testimony unto the Glory of God in Jesus name!
We decree deliverance, healing and victory, that he's a cancer survivor, unwavering faith for both hub and wife and that your Will be done, In Jesus name we pray. Amen
My sister in Christ, be encouraged and let God be God all by Himself! The lesser stress, the longer the life.
Please.......take care of yourself too.
You need proper nutrition, prayer, rest and excercise.
Only the strong can bare the infirmities of the weak. Keep all of the appointments that are assigned to him.
Read your bible and speak only the word of God, Words of faith. The healthcare team may speak facts (God uses them too) but God Word speaks truth. Ask Him to lead and guide you in this storm. "Acknowledge Him in ALL thine ways and He shall direct your path".
Please email me and keep me updated (anytime). I'll be glad to hear from you!
2007-08-20 16:19:33 · answer #1 · answered by Janine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you are going through this while at the same time it brings me great joy that you would ask for prayer! For the last year I have been battling a life threatening staff infection that has caused me to have five surgeries and has caused me to lose the use of my arm. From your husbands perspective I can tell you that he does not want you to bear the burden of his health. I can tell you that what your husband wants and needs is reassurance that you still see him as the attractive strong man that you fell in love with. He needs to know that you are there for him and that you will remain there for him "no matter what". He is feeling weak and insecure in this time and he will certainly be calling on you for many things that he would have normally done in the past, but he will not want you to baby him or treat him as if he has no more purpose. You will have many moments of self need but try to remember as much as you are going through this he is the one that is sick, so remember to be patient! I will be praying not only for your husband but for you as well! I hope this has helped! May God Bless You Both!
2007-08-20 15:48:29 · answer #2 · answered by Glenn C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take care of yourself; talk things out with a trusted friend, confidante or therapist; get some rest; be there for him as much as you can; be as strong as you can be.
You must be an incredible person! It is my belief that God never gives you more than He thinks you can handle. Therefore, He has chosen you to give this particular challenge. Talk to Him as much as possible and give your troubles to Him. He has a plan in mind even though you can't know the outcome yet.
Take care. You're in my thoughts and prayers, dear.
2007-08-20 15:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by MadameZ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to give it to God and sounds like you are. I feel for you and will pray for you and him. That is a tough break. Remember that God doesn't allow you to go through anything that you can't handle. He has equipped you to get through. I hope you both have family and church friends to help you through this difficult time. Also, remember fear is NOT of the Lord. If it is the Lords will that he doesn't make it, then He will get you through that too. The righteous have no fear because what is there to fear with God on your side. Prayer going up from me right now. ((hugs))
2007-08-20 15:47:46 · answer #4 · answered by hooahwife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry about you and your husband he you are so very young > But i know the strength in prayers and I had seen miracles . We have a prayer chain I'll put him on it !!!!!! Keep you chin up and believe . Take care of yourself too. You'll need you strong yourself . Love and prayers Blessings
2007-08-20 15:53:41 · answer #5 · answered by paws4shy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for this. My father has cancer also. Someone said to me the other day that god has given us time to say our good byes to him and grieve now before he passes. He told my mom he will wait at heavens gates for her to come join him. I try not to cry when I see him he lost some much weight from the chemo(be prepared) Lots of things will no longer taste good to him but, he has to eat to keep up his strength. Keep snacks around that he likes. Laughter is good medicine. Don't live like he is dieing. I'll be praying for ya....God Bless
2007-08-20 15:39:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont have any experience in this area but my only advice would be to stay strong and be confident around him. If you begin to break down in front of him it may only hurt him more, still be nurturing and caring but show him that you are confident everything will be alright, and how much you love him. My prayers are with both of you.
2007-08-20 15:38:01 · answer #7 · answered by N8 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A blessing on both your heads.
You're doing what you can for him and that's good.
There are patients family support groups where
you can share and get help for the pain that you,
as one of the 'other victims` are feeling.
They can help.
2007-08-20 17:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away blesseth be the name of the Lord. Because you love him and God loves him, trust God. HE is a kind and merciful God and everything that happen we cannot understand, but we trust God that in the end all is well. Cheer up, you are doing all you can and the decision is up to God, Whatever that decision is, know that it is the right decision and you have done all that you could do. Pray and thank God for the time or the time he gives you or will hopefully continue to give you with your husband. God loves you, Cheer up your husband is in good hands.
2007-08-20 15:43:10 · answer #9 · answered by I Wanna Know 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there is a web site calledwandascountryhomes.com,there is a poem on there that helped me thru breast and throat cancer.it is called what cancer cannot do.that along with pure faith and tons of prayers got me thru,it will give you renewed strenght.if you would like to talk,write me at pattialfy@yahoo.com.i am from lafayette louisiana.you as well as your husband will be in my prayer group tonite.where two or more are gathered in my name there will i be also.Christ is the answer to all you needs.i am proud to say.if i can talk please give me a yell...irregardless i will pray for strenght and GODS healing hand for both of you..a friend who cares
2007-08-20 16:06:52 · answer #10 · answered by pattialfy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry to hear about you and your husbands plight, i have breast cancer and have been through chemo and am about to start radio therapy, the treatment seems worse than the disease but be assured it doesn't last forever and soon your husband will regain his strength and become the strong man you know and love.
it goes without saying my thoughts and prayers are with you and remember it doesn't last forever, my best wishes to you both.
2007-08-21 03:35:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋