My mom and i always fight! What should i do?

Question

My mom is a very complicated woman. She's a perfectionist actually. she wants me to always clean the house! if it gets dirty, she spazzes at me even though i already cleaned the house. I cant stand her sometimes! she really gives me a headache! And sometimes she blames my best friend for all the things that are happening.she thinks that she's a bad influence to me. of course, i always stand up for best friend, i know she's a good person and she's not a bad influence to me. I hate my mom when she's being judgemental but everytime i tell her not to be judgemental she would say: "so thats what THAT GIRL (my best friend) thought you huh? "Me and my best friend talk about 2-3 hrs everyday, which i think its not that bad, because i think i deserve some fun since i always do whatever my mom wants me to do. but the worst thing about my mom is she hits me when she gets really angry..

Sometimes i try to talk to her so i'll know whats wrong but she would just say: " everything that you're doing is wrong"; which i dont really get because like what i said, i always do whatever she wants me to do.she said that i dnt respect her & my dad;to be honest, i talk back to my dad whenever we get to the point that hes really pissing me off. My dad is sensitive.what i hate about him is he always raise hi voice; which really pisses me off because why would he raise his voice for no reasons while he can just talk normal and calmly?! & another thing..my lil sister;shes jst 8 yrs old but shes like bitchiest kid in the world! shes such a brat if i wont do what she wants me to do, she would tell mom. well of course, i would do it if my mom said so, coz if i dont shes gonna hit me. And one time, my sis heard me telling my friend that my mom hits me so she told my mom about it my mom got mad at me then questioning me abt it.
btw, im 14

well my reason why i did i tell my friend is i got no one to talk to, i just want to express my feelings.

school is not a part of our problem i guess, because i do good at school.

i think moving out is not the solution because im too young to move out.

I REALLY LOVE THEM AND I DONT WANT TO LOSE THEM, ITS JUST THEY'RE REALLY A BIG PROBLEM TO ME.

Answer 1

i don't believe that ur mom "hits" u. U sound like the ,'bitchiest kid in the world' grow up & take some responsibility for ur family. By the way, ur mom will probably always give u a headache, but u r more than likely, a lot like her, like we all r like r mothers...like it or not! 2-3 hours a day!?!? that is a lot! Maybe, just maybe, ur mom is RIGHT!?!?!

Answer 2

I just have to say that 10 years from now your going to look back and regret all the ways you hurt your mom and they're going to feel like they happened a day ago...10 years from now. I know things seem hard and unfair but I have to believe that you mom has your best interest at heart. I don't know who your friend is but somewhere in the middle I know you both find comfort in each other but the way we are perceived can be different and I know that your friend doesn't make who you are, you do and only you, right? And believe it or not all that cleaning in your house will make for a well kept apartment of your own one day. I'm sorry your sister bugs you but that’s what they are for =P yet later in life she may be the only one you can turn to when life, throws you off. Who knows the personal relationship between your mom and dad, who knows what they secretly went through or are going through, but life is hard and in the middle of all of it they want to protect you ...and your booger little sister...to make sure YOU ARE OK and are going to be ok so that you are strong and prepared when the only strength to push you forward on your back is your own spine..Sweetie your 14 years old...things will get better. Life is about choices, concentrate on getting yourself ahead and prepared for AFTER you graduate and before you know it you'll be off to your future/college and will have to look at this fugly world right in the face. Have fun in your young years because... you won’t get them back. Love your mom and dad cause you only get them once in this life time.

Answer 3

This is a secret. Shhhhh

Your Mom is afraid that you're growing up.
She wants to keep her 'little girl` who listens and obeys, and has no opinions of her own.
She is threatened when you disagree with her.
That's why she gets really angry.

So try to be calm with her.
In answer to "so thats what that girl taught you",
try "No Mamma, that's what I think. How is it wrong?"
She might even have a good answer.
Be willing to listen.
As to the hitting:
That's not allowed, and she should know it.
If it happens again threaten to report it.

Answer 4

That is abuse you need to get out or it will just get worse. move in with your bff. Good luck please do the right thing.