i have been seeing my current bf & it is a new fresh relationship. we have grown 2gether& super close in a short time. it seems like we have been 2gether for @ least 5 or more yrs. since its new 2 us both, we are in touch & in tune & have a wndrfl relationship i treasure so much & he tells me how much he loves & cares.im not 1 2 sleep around & just hook up w/ anything. i have my standards & my morals. i dont just bang any1. we havent had sex yet. i kno we eventually will. im ready & willing, & when he asks i wont turn him down. hes very hesitant but the attraction is soo there b/w us! i find out the reason he doesn't want 2ask me 4 sex is b/c if he does he thinks he has a chance of losing me. he has said he never wants 2 take any chances & lose me 4 anything! so he refrains from asking. he thinks if he asks i will dump him. i wont i wouldnt. how can i advance this and show him that it would b ok 2 ask, & show him i would say yes & not give him a no or rejection.i adore him i love him!
2007-08-20 15:00:10 · 8 answers · asked by Pr3tti3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You women sure do make things complicated sometimes.
You ask HIM.
2007-08-20 15:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by OR1234 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first and foremost, I know that it's a huge topic: being intimate (having sex) with someone you care about so much!!
It's something that involves a lot of emotion, and can be the catalyst that makes your relationship something irreplaceable, or irreparable!!
Having that said, physical intimacy is a part of a long term adult relationship. Don't scare yourself into thinking you shouldn't talk about it with him, because it's just counter-productive. Being intimate with the one you love only brings you closer together as a couple, and opens emotional doors for each other to become more open and honest with one another.
Aside from that, if he's not seeming to be able to make the first move, and you're wanting to take the relationship to the next step, there is no rule that says you can't bring it up first, or initiate a conversation about how the 2 of you feel about moving to that level.
I think the bottom line is, for the relationship to last and be healthy and worth while for each of you, you both have to be open, honest, and candid with one another. Who better to be able to share you're inner most thoughts, fears, and dreams with than the one you care about as much as it sounds that you do. I would see how he handles himself the next few days, and if he still isn't saying anything about it, I would just take the bull by the horns and start the conversation myself!! No where is it written that you can't initiate conversation, and what a wonderful way to show him you think of him as a true equal, and therefore are totally comfortable bringing up a topic this personal to the 2 of you!!
Hope this helps!!
2007-08-21 13:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by Will D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi hun, it sounds like you need to take control of the situation here. Some guys are just really passive and do not want to take risks. I'm assuming you two have had oral sex if you've been together for 5 years. When you are finished giving him head, put a condom on his c o c k without asking. When he asks, "What is that for?" Tell him, "I'm going to take you to the moon!" If he declines, apologize, but only a fool would say no to sex.
2007-08-21 03:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by Kirby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arrange a nice date. Dinner, movies something you both love. Then tell him your ready to take the next step with him. Then kiss him and press your body up against his so he can't mistake what your talking about. Make sure you have protection with you. If he's scared to ask he may not be carrying any. Giving him the protection would be hint enough. But you have to be sure your ready to take that step.
If you are be bold and go for what you want. We only live one life!
2007-08-21 23:06:52 · answer #4 · answered by Te 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell Him again how much You love Him then, ask: is something wrong with Me? when He says no say, I love You with all My heart and, I just want to show You how much. when two people love each other as, We do sharing their bodies is, the ultimate affirmation of that special relationship. I love You and, want to be with no one else. and, I hope You feel the same way about Me.
2007-08-20 18:23:43 · answer #5 · answered by ny21tb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi... u know wat.. only a few girls like u are considered the lucky ones... just becuz a guy hsn't express his intentions of having sex w/u doesn't mean his not interested.. he just have his reservations and respects u as a person he truly loves.. n u know wat there are but only a fews guys like that.. the best thing to do is to let things come ur way.. let things happen as it is... the love u both have is more than evrythng else.. and having sex is never the issue... he'll ask u if he wants.. believe me... now its u that concerns me... sex isn't the last resort... it isn't the answer to evrything... think first b4 u decide on doing somthing u'd regret later...
2007-08-22 13:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think sex ruins the relation ship, he doesnt want that to happen, he values you too much
edit: + i lose respect for people when the relationships turns sexual, he might be this way too
2007-08-20 15:08:51 · answer #7 · answered by catpancakes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
relax and don't push it - i think you have found a good guy.
2007-08-23 00:09:54 · answer #8 · answered by Daniel F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋