Is it ok to get married by the justice of the peace first then later on have a real wedding?
2007-08-20 14:44:38 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He is in the Air Force and there is a possibility that he might have to go over seas. We want to wait on the big wedding and just go to the justice of the peace now incase he does end up going over seas.
2007-08-20 14:52:22 · update #1
I agree, it is more common now. That's why we are wanting to do the whole justice of the peace thing.
2007-08-20 15:09:17 · update #2
It depends on how big of a wedding you are planning. You could through together the entire wedding together in four weeks. (Especially if you have a good idea what you want.)
You need to ask yourself two questions if you are wanting to rush to get the vows said: Will you love each other when he returns? am I ready to be widow fallen soldier?
I would say hold off on the vows unless you can not wait.
2007-08-27 00:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do the justice of the peace first and then have a big reception/party rather than making another wedding. A friend of mine's sister-in-law had a real wedding in mexico and another huge wedding in Chicago a year later. Everyone that knows about it thinks it is ridiculous. The point is-when you are married, you are married. So you can celebrate the marriage when he comes back and perhaps do a renewal of vows or something to that effect-write your own this time.
2007-08-26 23:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by crosamich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good to do it by the Justice of the Peace, just as long as you actually have the Wedding. Some couples say the same thing and get married by the Justice of the Peace and put off getting Married through a Church and it doesn't ever happen. -The bride gets cheated.
2007-08-24 16:16:42 · answer #3 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A "real" wedding!? Getting married by the justice of the peace IS a real wedding. You'll be married. If you don't want the whole ceremony, then get married at the court house and have a reception afterwards or on a different date. And yes, you can wear a wedding gown at the court house to get married. If you are getting married sooner for personal reasons, well...... you're wedding "date" or anniversary will be the date you got married by the justice of the peace.
2007-08-20 21:54:22 · answer #4 · answered by fiestyredhead 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Go ahead and get married by the Justice of the Peace, but that IS A REAL WEDDING. You can, later on, have a vow renewal ceremony, but it would be just that....a renewal ceremony not a wedding as you are already married. It would not be proper etiquette to have your father walk you down the aisle, have a first dance....those kinds of things because you would already be married. I DO understand if your husband is in the military - this is common now....but, if you want the whole "wedding experience" a bridal shower, bridesmaids, fancy reception with dancing, etc., then just wait and do it all at once.
2007-08-20 23:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Getting married at the Justice of the Peace IS a real wedding, it's no less real than a big fancy do at the church with the big dress etc, it is just as legally binding. Of course you can have a vow renewal at a later date, but once you're married you are married! Lots and lots of people are now choosing to renew their vows so it is a very common thing to do
2007-08-21 03:42:33 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could go to the Justice of the Peace and have an all guests invite to the reception afterwards.People will show up at City Hall in Wedding gowns and Tuxs for their wedding.Congratulations on whatever you two decide.
2007-08-28 20:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by warriorbabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the justice of the peace first and then a real wedding later. But tell everyone about the justice of the peace wedding...don't hide it or your intentions will be misunderstood. Tell everyone upfront what you plan to do!
2007-08-27 01:12:53 · answer #8 · answered by CreoleSista 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly fine. We did the same. Married in a civil office. Now we are doing a church wedding and reception a year later to renew our vows. Very common. A lot of people in the military do this as well as others for various reasons. We could not afford our wedding yet, but wanted to spend our lives together. We married and a year later are doing our church wedding (renewal of vows) and full blown reception. It is a great idea for you and best of luck. Congrats!
2007-08-21 06:09:36 · answer #9 · answered by MissyV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a Chaplain and a wedding officiate. Most folks who are not military can not understand why troops want to marry asap if there is a chance of deployment! Get married!!! Enjoy the benefits of marriage in the military. After the deployment, you both can relax??? and start the vow renewal ceremony. For the folks that are reading this answer, there are many benefits for troops (anyone in the military) to marry. Added pay, added life insurance, and peace of heart are the most points that are brought up in discus ions. Best wishes, Chaplain Debby
2007-08-21 03:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋