My family goes to this church with anither part of our families- sub family if you will. One of them is getting married this Sat. My fiancee is friends w/ the bride and the groom is my cousin. We were under the impression (b/c of brides comments to my fiancee' ) that we were invited yet no one else in my "subfamily" got an invite...no one! Now a week b 4 I ask if my fiancee', who was "invited" by bride, if he mailed the rsvp and he said another lady at my church had our invitation. I call her and she doesn't have it yet is invited. I really dont think we (any of us family or not) were invited at all ever. Would you go?
Im also getting married next yr. would you invited the bride and groom from "sub fam" to your wedding?
2007-08-20 14:40:12 · 7 answers · asked by LOVE BEING A MOMMY 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
sorry for confusion. Maybe this will help:
bride= jen
groom= bob
me=Natty
my fiancee'= sam
other lady @ my church= paula
jen +bob are getting married sat. Natty & sam thought they were invited. Sam thought Paula had the invitation. Paula does not. Should Natty & sam go to wedding because no one else in Natty's family ( Aunts cousins, no one) got an invite at all.
Ps- other friends of Jen are invited but still no family of Bob
2007-08-20 14:53:14 · update #1
But we are close! that's why its so hard to believe that none of us were invited! We fellowship together all the time!
How the FU!! is it tacky! You're tacky!
2007-08-20 15:04:17 · update #2
by sub family I mean A cousin of mine who is married off and now has their own family within our family. All one fam but different households I guess.
2007-08-20 15:16:16 · update #3
No you didn't get an official invite, so I wouldn't attend. I wouldn't invite them either b/c if they didn't think enough to give a formal invitation, then they shouldn't come, period!!
2007-08-21 03:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by ablockgurl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Natty:
I agree with the last line of your first paragraph. "I don't think we (any of us family or not) were invited at all ever." I agree with that statement. If you don't have an invitation that was MAILED to you....then you were not invited, so don't go.
It's up to you and your fiancee if you want to invite them to your wedding next year. It doesn't need to be "tit for tat". Perhaps they were limited by their budget or limited (space wise) by their venue and, thus, could not invite you.
2007-08-20 17:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to have an older discreet person ask if you are or are not invited
my guess? (it will sound cruel) . . . you were on the list but you didn't make the cut and the person who mentioned you going thought you had been invited or actually forgot if you were or not
wedding plans get complicated!!
the decision of who and how many to invite should be made when you know who is paying for the wedding and what you can afford
2007-08-20 14:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by yyyyyy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think its messed up that they are your family and didnt invite you! Wow! If you fellowship with them and everything there shouldn't be a reason for them not to. why should the brides friends be put over either sides family?
2007-08-20 15:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by Natalie M 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you did not receive a written invitation, then you are not invited and should not go. Unless the bride or groom contact you or your fiance and personally invite you I owuld not go and do not ask them, it is tacky!
If they did not invite you you are obviously not that close, so you have no obligation to invite them to your wedding.
2007-08-20 14:57:52 · answer #5 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you didnt get a written invite then I would not go. if you see these people at church all the time and are close to them then I'm sure they would have mentioned something to you about going to the wedding wouldnt they? if they didnt I would assume your not invited and just not go. inviting them to your wedding is up to you.
2007-08-20 16:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No formal, written invitation (when clearly they were sent to other guests), then you should not go. You weren't really invited.
I just have a quick question. How is your cousin your sub-family? I consider my cousins to be part of my immediate family. But, I did grow up going to school with them and seeing them on a daily basis. So maybe, I just see family differently from other people.
2007-08-20 14:46:43 · answer #7 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋