how do i tell my mom that i want to be an athiest?

Question

i have thought about 'ditching' my religion for about three years. i am 16 and i want to know how to tell my mom that i want to be an athiest from the muslim culture. how would i tell her without getting into too much trouble?

i live in canada

and i have come up with one thing that i will go with forev: seeing is believing. thus science and experiments will get me through life mostly.

Answer 1

I personally had this same experience several times before with my mother.
She is a devote Christian. I on the other hand have gone from Atheism to Buddhism over the last 2 years of my life.
It didn't go over with my mother good at all when I told her, and continue to tell her every week (she is in complete denial).
Sunday she wakes me up and requests that I go to church. But then I reason with her like I always do and she simmers down. I am sorry bro, but your going to feel hostility no matter what you say. You have to use reason to deny the beliefs.
You can't just simply say I don't believe in Allah. She'll ask you why and you WILL get into a heated argument.

Tell her that there are other religions out there that all claim to be the truth, two religions both can not be truth, and in realizing this I have come to the conclusion that I want to find out what truth is for myself.
There are many other things you can say to her. The process is very stressful.
Good luck man.

Answer 2

Dont know but putting on a show does not seem to be a good way neither. I'm not familiar with what Muslim's do to people who move outside of the faith although I've heard some quite interesting stories...what's wrong with telling her you want to search for a better truth and that this religion does not suit you? And just because you don't like the muslim thing doesn't necessarily mean you are an athiest, ok? You either believe in God or you don't. You said you wanted to ditch your current religion (here I am making it sound like a job)??? Doesn't mean you automatically go atheist. The muslim thing is not for you thats all. I think you'd better wait until you are of age to make your own decisions. I'm not sure where you live or anything of the like...so just wait...

Answer 3

First of all, I would, under no circumstances, use the word Atheist. It has a pretty negative connotation.

Also, what do you believe? Are you pretty much ditching the whole God theory completely? If not, you are Agnostic.

If it were me, I'd just out of the blue say "Mom, I don't believe this. It isn't right." She will try to convince you against it. But deep inside every believer's heart is an uncertainty. And she will go to bed at night and be like "what if..."

and my final piece of advice. Consider other things. Don't be Atheist, be Agnostic. Atheist is just a refusal to care to believe.

Answer 4

Trouble? Too funny. Quit worrying about what your mom thinks and study the various religions so you can understand what they stand for and why you are rejecting them.

1.) As an atheist, 'what' created the universe? (Note: your rational answer should not violate Newton's 2nd Law of Thermodynamics).

2.) As an atheist, how can I explain the difference between good and evil? (Note: a sub-question is 'why do I think there is a difference?").

And don't worry if you get the answers wrong. Life has a way of grinding you down until the answers make sense.

Good luck.

Answer 5

I guess that i do not understand your problem....to be an atheist is a belief itself...and if you are of the Muslim culture, why would you mention this to your mother at all?
What good would it do, other then to worry her and disturb her own thoughts and spirituality.
At 16 yrs old, I would think that the correct thing to do would be to obey your parents wishes until you are out of the house and on your own.
On another note, I would seriously contemplate the consequences of your actions before taking any action at all...

I hope you find what it is you seek..
Blessings to you and yours
)o(
Trinity

Answer 6

I don't know anything about the Muslim culture. Where do you live? If you live in an Islamic nation, then you probably should not tell her. Ever.

If you live in a country who's government is not controlled by religion (or religious zealots/bigots) then you can proudly tell her what you feel legally. What you say to her from your heart is entirely up to you.

Answer 7

There's no such thing as becoming an atheist by will. You either are one or not.

You can still be theist WITHOUT religion.

Theist - believes in God.
Deist - believes in God as a natural power. Does not interfere with humans and the universe.
Atheist - does not believe.

Just be brave and tell her how you feel whichever of the above you fall into. Try and be reasonable. Don't yell or argue rudely.

Answer 8

I would be more concerned about the trouble that I would be in with God, than I would be concerned about having trouble with my mother. I do not know what your reason is for wanting to an atheist, but I would be getting concerned about where I was going to spend eternity; in Heaven, or in a lake of fire; in Hell. I would be praying to God for mercy and forgiveness, and to wash me in the blood of Jesus Christ. For you can rest assured, that Jesus is going to return soon; very soon. And I can assure you that being an atheist is not going to please Jesus too much. If you think that things are bad now, just wait until you are left upon this earth after the return of Jesus. I pray that you will have a change of mind.

Answer 9

Tell your mother you are having trouble understanding God and that you need to do more study on it. In fact you are willing to go so far as to do scientific research to understand God.

Tell her you love her, but these are trying times.

(Add this note if possible.)
You cannot be overly attached to the muslim belief at the present time.

But, never ever insult your parents. But, if they still feel insulted then try to explain that your main concern is to reawaken your love for God.

Answer 10

Be careful... Being Muslim and no longer being it is a scary thing... You cannot reveal, unless you live in the US or Canada..