that we cant be friends anymore because he is a bad influence on my christian walk...help! i love him for doing this but i dont want to give up on our friendship!
2007-08-20 13:48:54 · 12 answers · asked by you're awesome :] 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
um i AM a christian...he is sort of a christian he belives it...just go by it that much
2007-08-20 13:59:31 · update #1
If he IS a bad influence on your Christian walk then you should be willing to give up the friendship. This doesn't mean that you can't associate with him, just that you should not be seeking his advice about the way you live nor should you allow his lifestyle to influence your choices.
The bible makes it clear that Christians need to be very careful in choosing their friends. The phrase "unequally yoked" doesn't just apply to marriage. If you aren't moving in the same direction (toward God), another person can easily cause you to stumble and/or lose your own sense of direction.
The best thing you for you to be a friend to your friend is to pray for him to come to the place where he can also follow Jesus as you do. If you follow him down the wrong path, you may not have the opportunity to bring him back to the right path, especially if you lose your own way. By standing firm in your beliefs, by praying for God's intervention in your friend's life, and by loving him enough to set an example for him, you are being a far better friend than you would be if you allowed him to drag you away from what you know is the right path.
I know it is tough to lose a friendship that is important to you. I will say a prayer for you. Keep in mind that Jesus associated with people who didn't believe in him...but with them, he was faithful to deliver a consistent message. You can certainly continue to do this for your friend as long as you have the strength to stand firm against his attempts (intentional and unintentional) to lead you astray AND if you also do the other thing that Jesus did and that was to surround himself with people that DID believe in him even as he reached out to people that didn't!
2007-08-20 14:12:04 · answer #1 · answered by KAL 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is just trying to come up with a "spiritual" sounding reason for not hanging out with you anymore.
Unless he has some specific criticisms, or any specific examples of how you are influencing him for the worst, I would assume that he is lying in order to save your feelings.
If he doesn't want to be your friend anymore, then there is not much that you can do about it. Find a new best friend. it happens to all of us sooner or later.
2007-08-20 14:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by Randy G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i would say that instead of saying "we cant be friends anymore because you are a bad influence on me" i would say "we absolutely have to stay friends because i need to be a good influence on you" in other words you should be friends because it sounds like your friend needs a good influence in his life (you)
and im just guessing that it has something to do with sin and sin is impossible to avoid but you can help him to not sin as much
please email me if you want a more in-depth answer or if you have an other questions monkey_going_bananas@yahoo.com
2007-08-20 14:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by monkey_going_bananas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not trying to be mean but if he is a bad influence then maybe you shouldnt hang with each other so much. Trust me don't play on satan's playground or you will get burnt. Satan can't take our souls but he can take us from the sweet fellowship of God and Jesus. So becareful. I admire your friend taking notice of how he is a bad influence.
2007-08-20 14:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by iwant_u2_wantme2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad associations spoil useful habits, try praying over it and use the time with the person to add to their intellect something from the bible or tell him about Jesus Christ. try to stay a friend but lead him in the way that would be good for him, Remember Jesus no matter what we do, however sinful never gives up on us and we all are sinful!
2007-08-20 14:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him IF its true that you are strong enough in your beliefs to still be their friend. Jesus came to this world to heal the sick. And in another way your friend is the one in need of help. Tell him or her that you dont want to break up your friendship but that God comes first in your life. Dont push your beliefs on him or her but let God do the work through your behavior, words, and actions. I got so excited about being saved, I told my dad he was going to hell if he did not change his ways. Let God take control of the situation and trust Him
2007-08-20 13:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This so called friend is trying to dump you because you are a Christian. He is not worried about being a bad influence on your Christian walk with Christ. He doesn't want you influencing him because he doesn't want to change. I've heard it all, now.
2007-08-20 13:56:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you have done the right thing, just because he doesnt want to be your friend anymore that doesnt that effects your love for him, just watch out for him and be a true friend and let him be, what ever mistake he takes, let him do it, he will learn from it, GOD BLESS< CHRISTIANS FOR LIFE
2007-08-20 14:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by inasmithy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love him, win him to Christ. You must love his soul or you just love him because you enjoy his companionship. If that is the case he can lure you to vices. Stay away from temptation...
2007-08-20 13:56:55 · answer #9 · answered by Mikey 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you are truly his friend you should stone him until he accepts Jesus.
2007-08-20 14:07:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋