Stumped and yet determined: love loving?

Question

Okay so how do I put this out to you world?... I was out on a date that I kindda pushed myself to go to (been posponing it for ever and ever), but sweet guy, great person, yadi-da... I get there and I have absolutely NOTHING to say to this person. I feel awkward, tense and like an idiot.

That's until the waiter comes to the table and as I life my eyes to place my drink order, my eyes meet his and I feel this instant jolt of OMG, where have you been all my life?!

Needless to say I haven't said or done anything as it would have been disrespectful or inappropiate. Ended the night with my date on 'just friends' terms. Meanwhile I cannot take my mind off the poor waiter. I'd love to contact him - I just don't know what and hiow to do it?

Any thoghuts out there, you wise ones? Do share!

Answer 1

Your going to hate this wise one, becuase I'm angry with people over this romantic notion of love at frist sight. Not to say it isn't possible, just that it doesn't mean near as much as people want it to be towards making a health meaningful relationship.... besides your lack of the ability to communicate with the other guy has ZERO to do with your ability to like him and love him, and everything to do with your ability to like and love anyone. Being able to relate to everyone on a good even kull is a ability most healthy fulling actualized individuals get to enjoy, since you found yourself unable to do this, then it would seem quite, foolish, to tell you to follow the path of love with this guy based soling on a frist impression. Cute, but were adults now (even thou most adults are like you and favor the romantic view of love, as the only kind of love) and understanding that making a meaningful relationship is your only goal, not pursueing attrations and or shallow interest. But I digress, the answer to your question if you really want to pursue this charater is to simply talk to him, I know that might be a tad intimadating considering like most you afraid to be made the fool, or to say somthing that well push him away, but understand, if he has any foudness for you, a likeness, if you have a chance, it won't matter what you say or do, he's going to give you a fair chance. If not, there is no need to worry, fight it, or feel bad for yourself, it never would of worked.... so go back find the guy talk to him, and find out why I'm anger a peoples romantic ideals, or even prove me wrong for being such a bitter-hearted person!