my boyfriend is constantly complaining about everything... i love him with everything i have, but lately it seems im not good enough for him. today is his b-day and i wasnt on the computer becuz im at work so i couldnt spend it with him..he gets upset! i sent him 3 cards: A Birthday card, an Anniversary card (our anniversary was on the 17th) and an I Love You card....he still gets upset....what can I do? im trying my hardest but i fail every time
2007-08-20 13:30:32 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i work 8 hr days and he works 13....ususally i wait for him, or i tell him i wont be on for the evening so that he knows....but then i'll get an offline message and he will be yelling at me!
2007-08-20 13:41:38 · update #1
I don't really think it's your fault.
He should already know that you had work and couldn't spend time with him.
He's not understanding at all.
Or you can try to make a date for just the two of you and tell him how sorry you were for not being able to spend time with him on his bday.
He should be reasonable and understand that.
Or maybe....it could be...that he's trying to make it hard for you so you can break up with him. Guys do that. They complain about everything and try to get into fights so you can break up with them..
I hope it's not like that for the two of you....
=) Hope everything works out for the best.
2007-08-20 13:35:45 · answer #1 · answered by craz34jason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what more you could have done & still be working at the same time! Come rite out & ask him what is the problem that is bothering him & making him complain like he's been doing. Maybe he does it so often he doesn't even realize it. Let him know how much you care, you're doing everything in your power to try to make him happy on your end, but there's only so much you can do. IF there is something that is really bothering him let him tell you & maybe you can work together to "fix" it. Tell him too, it's rough to beat yourself out doing all you can do & still it doesn't seem to be enuf to make him happy. I think he has a problem within himself where he's not happy within him, & he's taking it out on you. You're not there to be a sounding board to listen to him complain all the time, you're there to SHARE happiness w/him. You're not the one failing, he's the one who is. Get to the real root of the problem & go from there. Good luck & you're doing fine - it's him...I think he should cut back on his working hrs. if he can, I think that might be a BIG part of the problem You can only spread yourself so far & it's going to affect you. Too much work not enuf fun time!
2007-08-20 13:44:58 · answer #2 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that you can only spend your boyfriend's birthday on the computer with him. couldn't you go to see him??
I would be upset as well and it doesn't seem that he is moaning uncessarily because you should have spent the day and night with him .. he want's to spend the special day with you. 3 cards just arent enough darling.
You need to try harder... Take a day off work and spend some time with him. This isn't kindergarden!!! or it??
2007-08-20 13:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sit down and talk to him about.Ask him if anything is wrong.He might be in a wierd or tough situatioin.If he acts like he doesnt care or is mad and all he doesnt deserve you.You need a guy that respects what you can give.I know you love him but sometimes you have to let them go.I really hope everything goes ok and you find out what is goin wrong.
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Hope I helped
2007-08-20 13:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by Taylor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot hope to make this idiot happy.
He doesn't want you to work, he doesn't want you there.
Cut that whiney baby loose and go see other people. Network your friends for introductions to eligible men.
Celebrate an anniversary for DATING? Oh come on!
Let me know when you've been married for 25 years like I have!
2007-08-20 13:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you try and feel like you can't please him. If he keeps complaining then he's not right for you even if that might be hard. It's hard to be in a relationship where you don't feel like you do enough when you do the best you can. You couldn't help it that you couldn't be there for his birthday so you did the best you could and if he can't be pleased with what comes from the heart then how can you please him.
2007-08-20 13:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by IAmME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him. Tell him how you feel and then tell him that you are upset that hurt. If he still asks mean then maybe it should be over between you two. I know that it is hard to think of it being over but if he just isn't into it then you are too good for him!
2007-08-20 13:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by Fishy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a big baby. Stop wasting your time. If 3 cards aren't enough, nothing ever will be. Sounds like he has a problem with neediness.
2007-08-20 13:41:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a spoiled child. Stop catering to his needs and his whining....when he finds out you won't reward his behavior he will,
A) throw a fit
B) Straighten up and act like a man instead of a child
C) Find another person to cater to his ego.
sounds suspiciously like the remedy for dealing with a bratty two year old doesn't it? That is what he's acting like. Stop blaming yourself for his actions. tell him to grow up.
2007-08-20 13:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inform him that he is being what is referred to as a "beating".
That he is sucking the life force and sense of enjoyment out of you. Let him know you're not his mommy and just because he acts like that towards her doesn't mean he can do so to you or you'll dump his crybaby *** and get with one of his less whiney friends.
2007-08-20 13:37:01 · answer #10 · answered by troybuddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋