what do you think teaches teens responsibility?

Question

my mom wants to teach me responsibility, and thats fine w/ me, but i want her to teach it to me in a way that doesnt make my back hurt because right now, shes making me clean the house and fold laundry out of our side-opening dryer which hurts my back. im not old enough to have a job, so that isnt an option. thx in advance

my mom doesnt do anything that makes your back hurt, she just decided that i should start sweeping the walkway even though its clean enough and the type of broom she makes me use puts too much pressure on my back

Answer 1

Are you serious? How old are you?
If you are already complaining about your back hurting over house chores, you are really going to be in for a surprise. Who do you think will clean up after you when you are old enough to be on your own. I hope you get educated enough to be able to hire a maid, etc.
Quit your whining already and get with the program.
Grow up girl.

Answer 2

Really? Serously! If folding laundry out of a side-opening dryer hurts your back, take them all out, put them in a basket, and take them to the table and fold them in an upright position or sitting in a chair. Cleaning the house is not that hard of labor. What type of work do you plan on doing when you do get a job. As a teenager, there is not jobs that you will get that doesn't require some physical activity.
If your complaint is honestly legit, have your mom make you an appointment with your doctor. There may be something wrong with your back that he can help with. You must explain to your mom that you truthly are hurting, and not get all mad about what she is wanting you to do. Talk to her, don't get into a yelling match, or a battle of wills, she not listen, and it will show you are responsible for your actions if you handle the situation correctly. Explain don't argue your reasons for your actions. Next time she asks you to do something, stop and think of a way to complete the task with less stress on your back, be creative. Most of the time parents will not 'flip out' when the job is done, there is more than one way to complete most tasks. Then later after you have completed the task, and settled down from the evening ask your mom if you can talk to her. Then explain what is going on in a calm rational way. I think you will see she's not trying to be mean to you and cause you pain, but she truthly is looking out for your future, and wants you to grow up to be a responsible adult.
Other wise, I say go mom! Responsibility is a very important lesson, and you need to learn it at an early age.

Answer 3

You didn't tell us how old you are except that you are not old enough to have a job.I think your Mother has a very good plan. Too many young people are growing up not knowing how to do anything for anyone else. If your back is hurting, think how your Mother's back must hurt when she is doing all of the work around the house. Put a smile on your face and be happy that you have a Mother to help.

Answer 4

And just who is going to do that work you are doing if you do not do it, your Mother????????? You are learning to be responsible when you have chores to do and your mother probably has a back ache too, but is she complaining> Give your Mom and your family a break and do your part in keeping the house you are living in look nice. Everyone has to clean house and fold laundry. Do you part and earn your room and board. (like everyone else in the world)

Answer 5

Every child should do house duties to maintain the house. You better learn it now before you learn it the hard way. it is simple the difference from right and wrong. Either way we do what is right ot wrong. same goes with your clothes, you do not want to wear dirty,stinky clothes do you. You need to do your share or just throw your clothes away and buy newones, everyweek. Do exercise to get yourself in shape, never heard of anybody having back pains by removing clothes from the dryer. what will you do when you have to lift something heavy?

Answer 6

Responsibility is something you need to learn, but that is something a person will have to learn own their own. this is something that cannot be taught but, learned by experience. what she is trying to do is show you responsibility. and responsibility is being responsible for work, and many other things.

the best way I see, for a person of your age to understand this is for her to get you a puppy. and the puppy will be your responsibility, no one else will be permitted to help you at any time. take care of the puppy. being responsible for a puppy is close to being responsible for a baby. but a baby is much harder. and pain taking.

but if you can feed, water, clean up after the puppy and learn to deal with the crying at night. this will be a great, way to learn responsibility. but this will also be a job. and this little puppy, will not know right from wrong. and will need to be taught this. this puppy will be. depending on you to guide it to learn and survive, to be able to face the world. for this is something that you cannot just throw up your arms and say I quit. this is something that will have to be done, each and every day, until the puppy grows out of this. puppy stage. then comes the (you could say teen-years) this is when the puppy will become very active, and want to play, it will seem they will have, more energy and will destroy things such as a chair sofa, anything they can chew on. for they do not know or understand, what not to do. it is up to you, to teach them.

I know this sounds, fun. a puppy! "WOW" but you will soon find, it will be a lot harder than you think. you will love the puppy. but hate the responsibility. I can see this as being the best way to learn responsibility at your age.

Now, also responsibility is one of the four things you have to learn to be considered to be a grown up. or should I say, to understand how to become an adult.

Just in case this is what she is trying to teach you, here are the other things that have to be learned, but you can never just learn them. all of these have to be experienced to be able to understand what they mean, in that way you learn them. that is the only way. if you can do this, then you will be able to see things more clearly, and also think more rationally. also have more understanding of things around you.

1. Responsibility
2. Respect
3. Attitude
4. morals

These are things you need to understand and learn to become an adult.

I hope this will help you,

Take Care,

Answer 7

The ability to carry out a chore...and to accept the word: NO wuthout putting up an argument.

Sometimes....the less you argue with a parent....the more likely Mom and Dad will realize you're capable of handling responsibility? Subsequently...the options do more of the stuff you wish to do will begin to open up!

Answer 8

I think that she is doing the right thing in making you do all of these chores. I'm sure that she does it in moderation and allows you time for your studies and time for your friends.
Right now you may think that what you are doing is stupid and pointless, but wait until you are in college, or until you have graduated college, and you will thank your mom for teaching you how to live life in the real world.

Answer 9

sorry i think your mom is doing the right thing. that is the best way to teach responsibility. give them chores but also give them money if they do the job right. if the chores she gives you hurts your back talk to her and have her change your chores. But remember when you grow up and move out your going to have to do all the house work with out any help. and when you have kids you are going to want them to help you.

Answer 10

Maybe you should get a truly back breaking job and then you would have something to complain about. Or, maybe, you should be an orphan in an orphanage, eating, breathing, sleeping and cleaning crap, yours and other people. Okay what I guess I am saying, is suck in your lip, stop the freakin complaining, put that back in gear and get off your *** and do as you are told. God Bless.