What do I do my daughter lied about molestation?

Question

I dont know what to do. A few years ago my daughter told me my brother in law (her uncle) had touched her. I freaked out and called the police. They arrested him. I pushed the matter for my daughters sake. He's still in prison. My daughter has problems. I have other posts about her. The psycologists working with my daughter have made major progress (Bipolar). Recently this is all coming out. She told them and me that he did nothing to her. Shes really upset about the lie that put him in prison. My god she was so convincing when she told me he did this to her. I don't know what to do. The DA won't do anything. They say he's be convicted and that has to stand. My daughter even talked to them.
At the trial they didn't have any evidence but, they said that children don't lie about molestation. I believed that at the time and so did the judge. My daughter and I have been in a therapy group. I was surprised to find that so many kids do this.
What else can I do to help him and my sister?

Yes, I'm sure it nothing happened now. I mean she has multiple professionals and they all say the same thing she does.
He been in prison for almost 3 years.
(crying) he's be treated badly in prison I mean really bad.....

The DA has been talked to by, both me my daughter and his wife.
The was no evidence at all just my daughters word. He didn't even have a criminal record.
I was relived at the time he got convicted. I mean for my daughters sake.
We've also wrote letters to the DA and the state. They keep saying the same thing he was convicted and will serve out his sentence.
I thought of getting a lawyer but, we're so tapped on medical bills that it would be rough.
My sister is completely destroyed. we didn't talk until recently.
I've had many talks with my daughter and shes not trying to protect me or just saying what i want to hear. Shes come so far and I'm really proud of her, it took alot to tell me.
She is seeing the best Psycologists and Psychiatrist in the world in my opinion. These people have worked wonders.

fatbabyceesay:
Are you saying we should just leave him to serve out the rest of his sentence? I mean not fight for him and my sister? I can;t just sit back and do that. I was one of the people they called to the stand. I was so upset that the prosucution lead me around like a dog. My daughter wants to fight for this too. Shes even wrote letters to the DA and the state. I was so easy to put him in prison why isn't just as easy to get him out?

oanthegrate

I wish she had been evaluated by a child Psycologist at the time. But, the only expert witness at the trial was a MD at the local child crisis center. Were she was evaluated. My brother in laws defence requested a Psychologist. That was denied.
I was told that I didn't have to have my child scene by anyone for the trial, because She had already been evauated.
One other thing. He had porn on his computer but, nothing Illegal. They made that in to a big thing at the trial. I thought it was a big thing at the time. But, now I don't.
After the whole thing was over,
I took my child to a child counselor. He finally recommended a Psychologist. Currently she sees 2 Psycologists and 1 Psychiatrist. So many things have come to light but, this is the worst.

One other thing I've been told by her doctors that she did in fact lie about this as well as many other things. All of them concure that she is Bipolar.
She is currently doing so much better. In my state it didn't take very much to put him behind bars. I've meet many other mothers that have bipolar children and some have gone through the similar things. I did my best to make sure he went to prison as any mother would.
But, now as a mother need to undo what she did. Thanks to all who responded.

Answer 1

I'm really sorry to hear this has happened to your family. I'm not sure where you live but: The Center on Wrongful Convictions is dedicated to identifying and rectifying wrongful convictions and other serious miscarriages of justice. The Center has three components: representation, research, and community services. Center faculty, staff, cooperating outside attorneys, and Bluhm Legal Clinic students investigate possible wrongful convictions and represent imprisoned clients with claims of actual innocence. The research component focuses on identifying systemic problems in the criminal justice system and, together with the community services component, on developing initiatives designed to raise public awareness of the prevalence, causes, and social costs of wrongful convictions and promote reform of the criminal justice system. In addition, the community services component helps exonerated former prisoners cope with the difficult process of reintegration into free society.

call this 3 see where they direct you and see what more you can do.
Northwestern University School of Law
357 East Chicago Avenue
Chicago, IL 60611
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Also I myself have Bipolar Disorder and wouldnt dream of ever doing something that extreme. Sry.

Answer 2

I find this question hard to believe. Your brother-in-law was sent to prison on the testimony of a child only. Was there any physical evidence. Either your brother-in-law is a saint or you have the worst criminal justice in the country. If the DA won't do anything, its b/c there was enough evidence to convict him. If not, then your brother-in-law will have a large law suit against you and the court system, which will still not be enough to get his life back. If what you write is true, you pretty much doomed him to say it lightely. When he gets out make sure you get him a good proctologist as a gesture of good faith.
You may also want to try hypnosis with your daughter to find the truth.

Answer 3

Unfortunately you must leave the past in the past. It is certain a mistake was made by your daughter but the flipside is... she may have been truthful , but with all the sudden attention to this embarrassing and shameful situation... she changed her mind about it. Sometimes when children believe they have caused problems... they try to make it right.
There is nothing that can bring back this man's life and restore his lost years. All you and she can do is apologize and Let It Go. What's done is done. I wouldn't suggest you allow this issue to consume your lives. The law has been handed down and now it has to be accepted.
You may never know if your daughter told the truth or lied... but even you said she was very convincing. As far as evidence... what can possibly prove she was touched innapropriately?
What is most important is her emotional well being and peace of mind. She made her peace with God and that's all that matters. If he can forgive so should all the other psyshologists.. psychiatrists and mental health officials. I say... Let It Go and get on with your lives. The guilt may remain but such is life.

Answer 4

A child who makes an accusation of molestation goes through a lot of evaluations before the decision is made that she/he was truly molested. These evaluations are usually done by child psychologists and psychiatrists who are well experienced in working with sexual assault and also with children. It is not a catch as catch can process. These are the professionals who testified in court when your brother-in-law went to trial. My thinking is that your daughter was not lieing about the molest and may have blocked it out of her mind because it is such a traumatic thing to experience. This would also mean she is not lieing now because she legitimatly doesn't remember the incident. Trust me, no professional is going to testify in court without being certain beyond any doubt that the incident happened.

Answer 5

I am sorry to say but your daughter is OUT of her damn mind...she did this to some innocent man...what was she thinking...Did she think it was funny!!! You better teach her a lesson...Let her see what she has done to this man...I mean, think hard about this...she could have said it was another man, like for example her father!!! She needs to be taught something because this was very wrong...Your daughter ...I dont know what made her do this...but this was a FEW YEARS AGO!!! She has made this man go through alot...He has gone years without freedom and a job...I am really sorry, but I dont think your daughter should have even thought about doing something like this...and as for the police...i mean...geez...do more investigating...i hope now they know that even little girls can make up stories like this...i hope your daughter learns from all this...and you too need to do some investigating incase another child makes up a story like this...because i think it is so sad that innocent men are put behind bars while there are a million criminals still running the streets...

Answer 6

OMG...this is a problem that I believe (a person who works with "at-risk children) should be discussed with professionals and not unknown people on YA. This is a matter that involves not just you and your daughter, but the life of an innocent man and his family.
You may hear something here that you want to hear, but the best advice that can be given to you about this, is to continue to seek professional help and press on with the DA about this.
I pray for you and your family and wish you all of the best in this heartache of a situation. If you ever just want to vent without the judgment of others, you can go to my 360 page and vent all you like, I promis I will listen :-)

Answer 7

You can start by writing a letter to your state's Court of Appeals, and the Supreme Courts of your state and America. Also it wouldn't hurt to alert the media and get some press on it to shed light on all those dragging their feet!

Answer 8

Are you sure this didnt happen and that your daughter wanting to be loved and accepted didnt -change her mind kids are not stupid we listen to people we hear what they say even with body language and we know the fighting it causes. i changed my mind to and it had really happened to me because i loved someone so much her happiness was more important to me than what had been done to me i put up with the stares and the names i was a lier i had problums i was a manipulative kid it was all said about me and none of it was true i loved my mother so much and wanted her love and acceptance. and i was tired of talking about it my moms crying hurt me worse than the events i was 12 as for why kids do this?figure it out its not to hard i was protecting someone who hurt me for love of my mother she will never realize that what i did for her caused me so much trauma i trust no one today the court knows no kid described anything THAT well unless it happened.Trust me before its to late ask her if shes protecting YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

beat the @#%$# out of her lying tail. Baby handle that cuz that wuz a serious offense.

Answer 10

for how many years is he behind bars? talk to the lawyer and i think you owe it to him to pay for one