My best friend is a straight male. How do I incopperate him into my wedding? He is like my brother and I would like for him to be my maid of honor. How does that work? What should he wear? What are his roles?
2007-08-20 11:55:49 · 89 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I've never heard of such a thing, but my immediate reaction was "About time! Do it!" While I'm very much an old-fashioned traditionalist in the wedding department, it's about we had the option of "gender neutrality" in choosing members of the bridal party. By all means, grooms may have a maid or matron of honor and brides may have a best man and/or ... what IS the male equivelent of bridesmaid? Anyhow call them bridal attendants, bridesmen, or whatever, brides and grooms should be able to honor their opposite sex friends and family members.
There is nothing graven in stone that says the bridal party must walk about in matched opposite sex pairs, like so many salt and pepper sets. If some attendants walk in pairs, and others walk singly, no problem.
The bridal best man should dress just as a groom's best man would be expected to dress. He should NOT be present at any bachelorette or hen parties, tho you might want to include him in the groom's bachelor party. Congrats and best wishes.
2007-08-20 12:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Male Bridesmaid
2016-10-06 03:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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These days anything goes and is possible---If you want your guy friend as your brides mate---then do it. He can wear a suit with the coordinated color scheme of your wedding. When the Bridesmaid or Maid of Honor is a man. What's a bride to do if her best friend is a man, and she really wants him to be a special part of the wedding party? If your best bud is a guy and you really want him to be an attendant, then by all means. This new role is perfectly acceptable is done tastefully. His role will be slightly different than that of one of the girls, but allow him to feel comfortable with his duties. In traditional portrait poses, the men will all be on the grooms side, be sure to inform the photographer that he is one of the brides attendants. Suggestions for the Man of Honor Run errands and address invitations Usually wears the same attire as the groomsmen, but may have a different boutonniere, tie or vest. Walks down the aisle with an unattended guest of honor, the brides grandmother, relative or special friend. Should not attend all female showers or fittings of the bridal gowns. Dances with the other attendants during the first dance. Additional tips for the bridesmaids
2016-04-11 01:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great. Have him wear a tux like the groomsmen but stand on the brides side during the ceremony. My best friend was a guy and he wasn't in the wedding. Instead I asked a friend I barely talk to now. I regret not asking him all of the time. It's your day and the people you love should be up there with you. Times have changed. 100 years ago bridesmaids were all 15 and single. Now they are 35, married with kids. Go for it.
2007-08-20 12:11:58 · answer #4 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh girl yeah! Have your best friend as your "Best Man". Not brides maid or maid of honor that would not be cool for him to be labeled that. Its the times where anything is possible and good for you to have a great friend like that! I get along better with male friends than female also. He should wear a tux just like anyone else except mabye a cumper bun or tie that matches the color of the other brides maids dresses so he is different slightly. I think that would be great, congrats to you! Have a great time!
2007-08-20 12:04:00 · answer #5 · answered by imthe1209 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure. Men of honor and best women are more common nowadays.
He can wear the same tux/suit the groomsmen wear, and can stand where your maid of honor usually stands.
His roles would be the same as the maid of honor, but depending on the personalities involved, you can give the MOH duties to your female bridesmaids - planning the bachelorette and shower.
If tradition doesn't work for you, then change it. It's your wedding.
2007-08-20 12:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Absolutely!!!!! I've been to several weddings where there was a "Man of Honor". They performed the exact same services the Maid of honor does (with the exception of helping you dress and in the ladies room) They assisted with all the pre-wedding plans, hosted the shower, etc. One wedding was very casual and the ManOH wore the same things the groomsmen wore, khaki pants, white shirts, but he wore a colored shirt to match the bridesmaids. The other wedding was more formal and the ManOH wore tux but the tie, vest, etc matched the girls rather than the men. No one seemed to think this was at all odd since the men had always been best friends with the bride and in one instance was her brother. This is your wedding and if it's OK with you, your husband -to-be, and your friend, then go for it.
2007-08-20 13:23:14 · answer #7 · answered by Patti 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi,
Wedding etiquette is tricky. On the one hand, it's nice to respect tradition. On the other, you're the bride. You should do whatever you want.
The experts at TheKnot.com agree. They write that brides who have male friends can have male attendants. It might raise some eyebrows and lame jokes, but there's no official rule that says the bride's attendants MUST be female.
If you'd rather not have a male best friend as your "man of honor," there are plenty of other ways to incorporate him into the wedding. He can give a reading, act as an usher, etc.
It's totally up to you -- you're the bride.
Mike
2007-08-20 12:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by Ask Mike 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good for you....it's your marriage, and it's your right to celebrate your union in whichever way seem appropriate to you irresepective of what "convention" dictates.
In any case, male bridesmaids are becoming increasingly common these days. The correct term for a male bridesmaid is "bride’s attendant" and the term for a male maid-of-honor is "bride’s honor attendant". The link below should be of help.
Congratulations, and I hope you have a wonderful day!
2007-08-20 12:06:33 · answer #9 · answered by Mark F 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it sounds cool. Dont put him in a dress. He might feel stupid once he is up there in front of people though. I would get your future to make him a best man. If its a casual wedding it would be rather clever I think.
If you keep him as a maid of honor then he should give a speech after the nuptuals and help everything run smooth before the weeding.
2007-08-20 12:02:57 · answer #10 · answered by Stephanie 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋