so my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 6 months and i love him to death. hes everything i could ever want and we plan on getting married. But in the begining, he would always get jealous of the guys i was friends with. Now, he doesnt realli feel jealous if guys stare at me or whatever. is this bad? also, i want to keep the spark alive in our relationship. From a guy's point of view, what can a girl do to keep the relationship fresh?
2007-08-20
11:55:01
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we only talked of marriage since its in our culture and our parents know about us so in our culture, when both parents know about their children dating each other, the relationship leads to marriage
2007-08-20
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It actually sounds like you're on target. His jealous times have subsided because he trusts you and is more at ease with where he stands with you now than he was in the beginning. (I realize women sometimes interpret "guy jealousy" responses as signs that they are loved, but jealousy is more about insecurity than love, so the fact that he's gotten past that is a great sign). Keeping things fresh is a matter for both of you to decide and work at. Enjoy what you're building together. (And, congratulations.)
2007-08-20 12:17:55
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answered by Captain S 7
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You're in a transition between a short and long relationship.
First, presuming you are an attractive girl, people are going to stare at you or try to flirt with you. If he does not get jealous and angry anymore, I presume it is because he trusts you and trusts in the strength of your relationship.
Emotionally, your relationship will be less intense as time goes on, as usually happens in relationships. You can think of him as a friend, a long term companion, someone who you feel incredibly safe and secure with. It is not necessary, however, for him to make your heart pitter-patter every time he enters the room.
Share with him the things that you enjoy doing in your life, spend time with him and be open with him. If there is a insecurity or secret you have which hasn't come up in the first few months, it should come out now.
Sexually, you should feel comfortable in telling him what you want, as should he. You should both be open minded about each other's fantasies.
If nothing else, blindfold him, tie him to the bed, and do stuff to him. Who wouldn't enjoy that?
2007-08-20 12:23:51
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answered by udbproblem 2
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I am not a guy nor do I have an answer for you but I do want to say that if you and your bf need help keeping the spark alive and freash, then you might want to reconsider the relationship. What's going to happen 6 month after the wedding after living w/ each other every day?
2007-08-20 12:05:40
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answered by Andrea E 2
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Keep a line of communication open, and have fun. Don't get set to much into a routine(they get boring and predictable over time). Its OK to get a close set of friends and entertain, and allow your selves outside interest as well.
More than anything have fun with your relationship and don't make it tense(overly serious).
I'm actually glad he doesn't still play jealous, continuously jealous people should be a warning sign to stay away. They tend to be overly possessive and things escalate as the relationship goes on.
2007-08-20 12:05:40
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answered by Rhodan 1
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Hi there, in my own experience, I'd tried not to pay attention to other guys whom my g/f talked to sometimes. It was not because I didn't love her anymore, I was just trying to show her that I wasn't being needy or insecure (which if it was to be the case, it wouldn't be good if my g/f think I'm insecure). Plus he has you right now and vice versa, maybe that's what makes him confident. A love of someone for you aint only count on how that person reacts if you talk to someone else, it also bases on how he cares about you. So just be cool, everything will be fine and you guys will be okay. Good luck.
2007-08-20 12:04:50
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answered by Anonymous
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Did you provide him your form? Did you play severe not hassle-free-to-get? possibly he did not get the vibe which you enjoyed him decrease back. replaced into he ingesting? that may convey out the flirty ingredient of an in any different case shy guy. If its in hassle-free terms been 2 days considering the fact which you met him, there'll likely be opportunities sooner or later to occasion and you will be able to get a feeling if he nonetheless likes you or not. there's a million motives he could desire to act the way he's, I incredibly don't comprehend what he replaced into thinking in hassle-free terms having been given some sentences approximately him. possibly he's doing his own version of not hassle-free to get and needs to attend some days earlier calling you. Who is conscious! provide it it slow and notice what pans out. in case you incredibly like him that lots you are able to consistently call him first!
2016-10-16 06:46:44
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answered by ? 4
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Not being jealous is a good thing. Find new things to do together that you BOTH enjoy. This is tough 'cause most guys don't like quilt shows and not very girl likes car shows. There needs to be things you do apart too. Perhaps just spending time with friends.
2007-08-20 12:04:09
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answered by Sam 7
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It's not bad that he doesn't get jealous; he knows he has you and visa versa. One way to keep the relationship fresh is to not talk about marraige 6 months into a relationship.
2007-08-20 11:58:38
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answered by ra.osiris 3
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That isn't a bad thing it is actually a good one. It means that he's losening up, which means he totally trusts that you'll be faithful to him and not stray to other guys. To keep the relationship fresh I always suggest a lot of flirting and a little game of "cat and mouse."
Good Luck.
2007-08-20 12:04:36
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answered by Anonymous
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kinkier sex! sounds like he might be getting bored.
and being jealous is a bad thing. It means you don't trust the other person. If he's not jealous it means he either really trusts you or he just doesn't care.
And 6 months is way too soon to be planning marriage. He could be distancing himself b/c he's freaked out.
2007-08-20 12:01:44
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answered by Anonymous
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