What is the most traumatic experience you've ever had? How did you get over it?

Question

Many of you by now know of my experience on Saturday. Here's the link in case you haven't heard:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ArFxDrgFuzj_I7KH9LN.8Onsy6IX?qid=20070820134210AAuVNyY

After reading that, you may answer the following two questions:

1. What is the most traumatic experience you've had?

2. What helped you get over it?

I am using a FREE computer at the LIBRARY.

Not that it's anybody's business.

(I think I'm going to have to pay somebody to go around to all of the Y!A members and tell them I'm on a computer at the library . . . so I can quit having to do it.)

Answer 1

Being in the delivery room while my son was getting born and hearing my son's mother tell the guy she cheated on me for tht she loved him.

Answer 2

I once found the body of someone i knew (also from a drug overdose). It was a horrible, gruesome experience. At first I was haunted by the images sometimes the scene would pop into my mind for no reason and I would often have trouble going to sleep. I did a couple of things that helped.
1. I "spoke" to the person and told them how awful I felt about their death but also how POed I am that their death is causing my so much discomfort.
2. I used classic though stopping techniques to gain control over my thoughts.
What really helped the most was time. The memories faded over time. It doesn't upset me anymore, I just find the whole thing a bit sad.

You will feel better.

Answer 3

Wow. I read your story, and that's really hard.

The hardest thing I've dealt with was being very afraid from an Ex. This person was a psychopath and I was very afraid for a long time. (deathly)

Time helped overcome. I'm still not entirely over it after a couple of years, but I've come to the place where I'm able to see something that is a philosophy in the rock opera Rent.

"There is no future. There is no past. I live this moment is my last. There's only us. There's only this. Forget regret, or life is yours to miss. No other path. No other way. No day but today."

Now, keep in mind that this was sung in many contexts-- people dealing with the trauma of living with AIDS and supporting each other, people in love, and people simply thrown together in the wash of society as "friends."

For some reason, in the complex harsh reality that is modern society, Rent speaks to me. Maybe it will speak to you too. If it's traveling to your area, go see it again for the first time.

If you want to see the movie version, visit a rental place... It deals with death, hardship, and shows people living in the midst of all of it ... living...

-Fire

Answer 4

I've had quite a few ..... I didn't have a good childhood to say the least.

When I was 13 I was at a friends house and was drugged ... I was counsous enough to watch myself being beaten and raped but basically couldn't move ....

As for gotten over it ... I'm still not emotionally okay in any sense ... I'm untrusting and have no point or reason to have "friends" they're useless to me. But no amount of therapy or drugs of any kind can repair myu childhood or the trauma I just go day by day and tell myself I'm okay now.

Answer 5

I'm sorry that happened to you.

My most traumatic experience was the death of my brother. That was 15 years ago. I don't think I will ever be over it. But I live my life one day at a time and think of the great times we had.

Answer 6

I think of two, I will share one.

Once in the Navy while we were handling our small boat (actually a rather large boat but, compared to the ship, its small) during heavy seas one of the deck seamen fell down in between the boat and the pier. The fall was only about 8 feet but, the water kept slamming the boat against him and the pier. His K-Pok (life preserver) kept him afloat but, that’s what killed him. We threw lines down to him but, he couldn’t hang on. I will never forget his eyes as he coughed up blood as that boat crushed his insides… he knew he was going to die and it really sucks to see that realization come across an 18 year olds face…

How did I get over it? Everyone dies. You grow up a bit, suck it up and move on.

God bless and good luck.

Answer 7

mm thats a shame.. you pray and just go on day by day.. as for your question what my most traumatic experience was.. im a katrina victim.. i lived in st. bernard parish (the one right below new orleans next to the ninth ward) yeep lost everything, still dont have a home of my own.. but life is getting better, it took me a year and a half to get over it, and im now moving on. most true quote ever : ''life sucks, get a helmet": :)

Answer 8

Joshms, i'm sorry your existence replaced into touched like that , ODs are tragic, and continuously see so pointless. there's a asserting in AA , inspite of the undeniable fact that, that would or will possibly no longer make sense to you - "they died that others would stay", and that asserting has continuously helped me stay sparkling and sober as quickly as I even have lost friends and friends to drugs or alcohol. possibly you will hit upon somewhat convenience in that. I actually have a marginally checkered previous, and have lost too many friends in unusual and unhappy circumstances, however the only that seems the main unreal to me started as quickly as I got here residing house to work out my dad and mom from the place I worked out of state, and my mom gave me an obituary to study. It replaced into for certainly one of my dearest friends from intense college and after, and it mentioned that he had died whilst a automobile hit his bike replaced into (it replaced right into a Harley - that replaced into the group I ran with at one time). i replaced into devastated. The final time I had seen Dan, he had exchange right into a pharmacist (of all issues) and he and his spouse have been attempting to have a newborn. He looked as though it could have straightened up and have been given his existence back on objective, and then this. however the strangest section replaced into the section approximately the place to make the memorial donations to. It reported the Shriner's Hospitals - in spite of the shown fact that it mentioned to deliver the donations to a girl in a close-by city quite than to the Shriner's. I had and have not at all heard of sending memorial donations to a individual quite of the corporation itself. I even have puzzled for years if possibly Dan wasn't nevertheless alive someway, and that the donations despatched to that non-public occasion have been someway surpassed over to him... I even have theory "back to the "darkish ingredient" and working underground from a broking ?" "Witness secure practices application " ? I even have continuously wanted that he could someway touch me, yet he not at all has, and little question not at all will. I pass over him dearly, and have not at all been in a position to absolutely grieve his loss by using fact i've got continuously had in basic terms somewhat doubt approximately his dying...

Answer 9

When my Grandpa died. He and I were very close (I didn't have a dad growing up) so when he passed away it was very traumatic for me. I made it through with ALOT of counselling and spiritual healing. It's been 17 yrs and I still miss him, but I've learned to cope without him.

Answer 10

1. watching a family member suffer from illness and then dying from the illness.
2. having my family and friends around helped, and just accepting that death is a part of life, that the family member is no longer suffering. as time goes on, the pain does lessen.

Answer 11

being smashed into by a car on our motorbike just when we got engaged, five months in hospital and a body riddled with arthritis now but a wonderful husband (the same fiance) six kids and two grand kids, our love helped us to get over it, we were only 18 when it happened and my weight ballooned due to drugs to save me but it wasn't my man's fault as two cars were racing and jumped the lights before hitting us. time can make you strong!!!