There are these two boys that i am crazy about i already been with one of them but i cheated on him and he forgave me and then we started talking again and now it is like i realize i love him but then there is this other boy who i am so crazy about i feel the same way about him as i did the other boy now i do not know who to choose. I am so confuse. The boy who i cheated on now is locked up so i do not know who to choose. We still wright each other and call one another but it is like i want more and the other boy we talk all the time have so much in common i never had so much in commom with a boy like i did with him. But the boy who is locked up we grew to understand one another so if anyone could tell me what i should do i would greatly appreciate it cause i am so confused and i don't know what to do and by the way my name is Erin
2007-08-20 11:32:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Erin - look at this an an opportunity to take some time for yourself and your feelings. A relationship with someone who is incarcerated does not sound fulfilling at all, never mind all the other repercussions. If you cheated with the other one, that says something about his character...and yours, sadly. Take this time as a gift...explore other choices out there, date other boys, enjoy life. It should not be so hard to be young and in love!
2007-08-20 11:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by that judi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Erin, don't post your name in public places like this. There are obssessed people who would use it to find out where you are.
Try to look at the future of these relationships. A relationship, after all, is like an investment. It's much more than sex and infatuation, it's also about planning for the future, living together, sharing chores and child care, tending sick partners, communicating, and on and on. This guy who is in jail at such a young age - is he really a good investment? Ask him what his career plan is. If he has none, it's not a good sign.
Do some reading about developmental psychology and abnormal psychology. Pay particular attention to Anti-Social Personality Disorder, as this is the diagnosis given to the majority of criminals in prison.
2007-08-20 11:43:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cheated on your boyfriend in the past, and you are thinking about it again, I think you are not ready for a relationship. Why don't you just make yourself single and enjoy all the boys you want?
Don't put your boyfriend through this again, just make it easier for everyone and break up with him. Also, being locked up changes a person... when your boyfriend is released nothing will be the same... I know this from experience.
2007-08-20 11:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by Susan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you feel is infatuation, not love. If it were really love, you wouldn't have been tempted to cheat, and you wouldn't be losing interest in the first guy just because you're apart now. You clearly don't respect yourself if you're willing to cheat on your boyfriend, or settle for a boyfriend in prison.
Wise up and ditch the criminal. He's obviously not a good influence on you, and you obviously don't really care about him if you're constantly looking elsewhere. Date the other boy if you must, but be honest with him. I'd strongly recommend not settling down with ANY guy for awhile - keep the relationship open and honest if you know you can't keep it monogamous.
2007-08-20 11:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Choose the one with the better trailer. Hopefully it will be a double wide.
2007-08-20 11:36:44 · answer #5 · answered by K M 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if the other guy is lock up, go for the other guy
2007-08-20 11:38:18 · answer #6 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋