What Would You Allow A 15 Year Old Girl To Do?

Question

If you had a 15 year old daughter, who is a good girl all around, what you you let her do with her friends?

Would you let her go out on dates, let her go to the movies with her friends (with no adults), go over to guy friends houses..things like that?

im 15, and i just want to know what you think the rules should be!!

Answer 1

Well actually the things you are asking for all seem reasonable to me. If there were bad grades involved, a bad crowd of people drugs/alcohol... any of thoes could be taken away. However, I feel a 15 year old should be able to go to the mall/movies with friends and to a guys house if the parents are home.

Answer 2

I have a 14 year old daughter. These are the things she is allowed to do-- as long as she meets these three requirements: (1) She has to keep her grades up. She's a straight-A student and while her father and I do not demand A's, we do demand effort. She has to give her best effort to her schoolwork. (2) She has to behave with courtesy and good manners towards us and towards other adults. (3) Safety is at all times the paramount issue, and we do not compromise on issues where safety is involved.

We allow our daughter to go to the movies or the mall with friends, as long as we know where she is and who she is with and when she is expected back. And all parents of all her friends on the outing have to be cognizant of what is going on-- no sneaking, no secrets.

We would allow her to go over to the house of a boy who is her classmate as long as we have talked to his parents, as long as we know there will be a parent present at all times, and as long as nothing is done behind closed doors. This is for everyone's protection, so no one has any doubt that nothing sexual was going on.

We would not let our daughter go on a solo date with a boy at this time. Group dates with a bunch of her peer group, fine. Single dating, no. And no serious boyfriend-girlfriend attitudes-- at this age, the single most important thing for a young person is to do well in school, not worry about their social life.

Other activities are negotiated on a case-by-case basis. Our daughter knows that we trust her, and also knows because we have repeatedly told her, that if she is with a friend or friends in any situation and something happens that makes her uncomfortable, she can call us to come and get her, and we will--AND NO QUESTIONS WILL BE ASKED. If she ever makes that emergency call, we will not ask her why she made it, what happened, or anything else. If she wants to talk, that's fine; if she doesn't want to talk, that's fine too. (Yes I will worry about her, but if she's ever in a situation where she needs to get away from something that is uncomfortable for her or dangerous, I don't want fear of what "mother might say" preventing her from asking for help. I want her safe. I want her to know I'm her lifeline. And if that means accepting that the price of that might be not knowing what she got into, that's a price I can accept.)

Answer 3

i haven't been 15 for many years, but my mom never let me go to guys houses she didn't know. and never let me go without the parents being home. if you feel your parents can trust you, then just ask them. but do what i did. i always left a phone number, where i was going, who i'd be with, and when i would be home. if you have a cell phone call if your going to be late. good luck!

Answer 4

dating-probably not unless it were a large group of friends going to a party or bowling maybe. she'd definately be able to go to the mall or the movies w/o adults provided times and rides had been determined. visiting guy friends is cool as long as i have met the parents and they're home.

Answer 5

Well I think that all of those things are completely reasonable! If you hang around with a bad group of people though, I'm not sure, but as long as your friends are a good bunch of kids, then alll is well!