im soo sad because of my ex. im pregnant with triplets and im guessing due to my hormones i flip flop between loving him and hating him
hes been nothing but mean and rude to me..
why do men play head games and make us girls feel crap?
is it because they are still boys? if so what age do they become men?
i just feel really down and i know tomoro ill be ok again its just now that it hurts soo badly
2007-08-20 10:36:52 · 16 answers · asked by spongebobs biggest fan 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well its tomorow hope y feeling gud today,sounds like you realy loved this guy or still do,there is a very fine line between love and hate,if hes been rude n nasty yo you try get over him,he sounds so insecure,your gona have your hands full with triplets let alone still having him on your mind,he makes you feel like that cus your leting him,deep down you probs still want him maybe security,does he know about the triplets,i think i would drop him a hint,maybe not eh.hope yv got loads o help on hand,i realy do feel for you girl,its not gonna be easy,but youll get there.hope you have an excellent day
2007-08-20 19:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by emma 30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the unfortunate thing about all this is that u are doing it to yourself.
#1 - if u loved yourself and were happy with yourself u would not attract people like that.
#2 - u give all your power away by stating "make me feel like this".
NO ONE MAKES u feel anything. U CHOOSE to feel the way u do. That means u can choose not to feel the way u do with a conscious decision. U can fix it real fast by going to him and saying "I feel ............. when u do (whatever). I need u not to do that or I will have to do (whatever)"
THEN FOLLOW THRU.
just make sure the feeling u verbalize is a feeling and not a thought.
feelings =
abandoned, upset, neglected, taken advantage of, unloved
When u say "I feel unloved" it sends a message to YOU that YOU can chose not to feel that way by changing something (I will have to do ...)
The message that someone else has to change something for u to feel good again is no longer there.
thoughts =
you are playing games
you don't love me
notice how the "YOU" falls into the thoughts. That says YOU have power over me, it is also accusatory and guaranteed to start an argument and not a problem solving session.
#3 - why do u gravitate towards those type of people,
because they exhibit traits that you dislike but u have figured out how to live with - parents. Take inventory of that - could change your life forever.
Go ahead and say some I FEEL statements and notice how your gut reacts to the realization of power - as opposed to YOU MAKE ME FEEL ... statements.
interesting huh?
2007-08-20 11:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by Bill R 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your Ex is Certainly no Man if he's making life (extra) Hard for you... considering you are Pregnant with Triplets!!!
Is he Stooooopid! Silly question really, Course he is!
Im really glad you said something positive at the end though....Thats Brilliant. Dont let that Heartless Boy Bring you down!
Take Care of yourself...Good luck with the Bubba's xxx
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OMG....Just listen to Smiley & sonojudan....Examples of VIRTUE eh!
2007-08-20 10:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by Maryann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's right your having triplets lucky you but unlucky with your relationship your boyfriend is sellfishly trying to control and manipulate you into his sellfish don't give in you can find someone heaps better than that a hole he doesn't treat you well and from the responses you have given so far you need to walk out of that situation you think you love him but you don't love the man that he is and that's not real love at all. You need to take of yourself now.
2007-08-20 16:25:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definately hormonal. Go see the midwife and tell her how you feel as you need to rest now, as it is going to be more stressful when the babies arrive. Good luck.
P.S. The ex sounds like a complete toss pot, especially as he's left you in this situation. Good riddance - I'll hate him for you to relieve some of your stress!
2007-08-20 10:46:35 · answer #5 · answered by Ylang-Ylang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a bastard that needs to be swept undee the carpet & walked on til he gets the picture that he's not better that anybody else! Then he may be able to settle down to get along with you on the friendship level!!! For the kids sake! If not, kick his to the curb!
2007-08-21 02:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is because they like to be in control, selfish, lazy, mean, moody, smelly, and i could go on for ever get shot of him if he treats you like that he is a waste of space like most bloody men who needs them my man has drove me nuts all evening do we need them no we don't better of on your own don't worry take care of your self make your self a nice hot chocolate a go to bed with a good book and tell the pig to sleep on the settee love you don't let him make you feel like crap you are worth more than that i now how you feel i hate men
2007-08-20 11:39:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
us men think we know everything but if he has been truly rude to u then talk to him about it and if nothing changes tell him that youre going to leave him and see how he reacts with that.
2007-08-20 10:46:19 · answer #8 · answered by Eric C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look up "abusive personality" on Yahoo, and see if this fits your ex. If so, be glad that you are not with the jerk.
2007-08-20 10:43:21 · answer #9 · answered by BK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to keep this simple for you, NEXT TIME USE A CONDOM.
Sonojudan
"Somepeople wake up, look in the mirror, and say I am going to get fucked up today! Thoose same people end up on jerry springer with two fat chicks and a midget in a sick love triangle."
2007-08-20 10:48:45 · answer #10 · answered by thesonojudan 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋