Her mom just died of cancer, her youngest sister committed suicide as a result, & her baby niece died from malnutrition all in the same day. My friend said that's too much for her to deal with, & she hates funerals because it's church-related & she hates church. However, she's very sad to lose 3 famiy members at once.
I kind of think that's messed up.
2007-08-20 10:14:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That is such a tragedy. What a terrible thing to have happen. My heart goes out to all of them.
Your friend needs to take care of herself, but my worry is that she will regret not going. Is she anti-God or just anti-church? It is very comforting to have a service for your loved ones. It really does help. But if she can't handle any mention of religion it may be harder for her to go.
To answer your question, anything is OK that helps the bereaved cope with the death or deaths.
2007-08-20 15:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I remember you talking about that. That's messed up. Kinda like me & weddings. I HATE WEDDINGS so much.
I can understand if she hates funerals. I don't think she has to go if she can't handle it.
btw I couldn't go to even my best friend's wedding. it's a huge story, but basically I haven't been to a wedding in over 10 years and the last wedding I went to they got divorced anyway so I think it is a meaningless ceremony. and my best friend and boyfriend were already living together so what was the point?!??! grr!
(BTW There are other ways of closure than funerals)
2007-08-20 10:45:21 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Celebrity Hotline♥ (Thumbs up!) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 06:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! My heart goes out to your friend and I don't even know who she is. You know it's really up to your friend if she wants to go, but if she decides later that she should have shown her last respect on behalf of her mother. It will be to late there is no turning back. A very close friend of mines father passed and he didn't go to the wake or funeral, now when you speak to him 5 years later he is still depressed and wish he had. Tell your friend we all wish her the best in no matter what decision that she makes .... "With all of my prayers - "GOD-BLESS".....
2007-08-20 13:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how she is feeling. I don't care for funerals, either. When I was 14, my father passed away & something very traumatic happed to me at his funeral that I won't go into. But, she is going to need to go to her mother's funeral. If she doesn't she will look back & wished she had & once it is done, it is done. There will be no going back. Be there for her as best you can & offer to go with her if you can & stand by her. My sympathies to your friend. My heart goes out to her...
2007-08-20 10:40:08 · answer #5 · answered by ♫brokenangel♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is ok if she does not attend.
But it probably would not hurt to take pictures for later on or when she is not around if she would like
also maybe record the songs/service
2007-08-20 10:22:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's terrible that something like that happened. Maybe you could talk to her without being pushy, and tell her that is a way to say her final goodbyes.
2007-08-20 10:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by Chicka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not going to her mother's funeral would possibly be the biggest mistake she could ever make. Closure would nearly be impossible to obtain.
2007-08-20 10:30:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
its her way of dealing with things and it might seem wrong but put yourself in her shoes if your mother died and Your sister(if you have one if not just pretend)and your little cousin all in the same day wouldnt you want toi just hide and not have to deal with it all?? hope i helped
2007-08-20 10:23:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends needs to face the tragedy. Offer to go and be there with her, be strong for her. Good Luck. I still have your friend on my prayer list.
2007-08-20 10:32:58 · answer #10 · answered by hootie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋