Guys: How do you feel about your girlfriend getting an abortion?

Question

Would you want to know if she's pregnant and she is going to get one? Or would you rather not know?

Just to let everyone know I am NOT pregnant. It was a conversation that I had with a friend of mine

Answer 1

Ok, first of all, I don't know what I'd do, it really depends on the situation. But I'd like to say that to all of the people cursing and using foul language, sometimes abortion is the better route. If the mom is young, raped, or just can't take care of the baby (maybe not enough money) then it would ruin the lives of the baby and the mother. Adoption should always be considered, but sometimes abortion is all some women have ot turn to.

Answer 2

i was possed this question before because someone i knew was pregnant. Personally i say its prochoice, although the mother/father should be held accountable for their actions, in some cases it would be more beneficial not only for the baby, with respect to being grown up in a neglected lifehood which in turn would increase the probability of the child participating in drugs, etc, but also for the mother. That is to say, if a 16 year old gets pregnant, there is no feasible way she can take care of the child without support of their family members, and in some cases thats just not feasible. Abortion is something that shoudl be taken seroiusly and not miss used, but in certain cases it is found plausible and necessary, the person just has to see if they consider themselves in one of those categories.

Answer 3

Why tell him and then not give him an option in what's going to happen? I see no reason to tell a guy you're getting an abortion, if you've made up your mind and that's what is going to happen. He might be kewl with it or even happy, but what if not? Would you want someone to tell you that you "almost" got to share in something really groovy, but that person decided they'd rather not mess with it so you lose out as well?

Don't get me wrong, I'm definitely pro-choice...I just see no reason to tell the guy in case it would hurt him. Better that he never know, than to know, want you to go through with the pregnancy, and you choose not to.

Answer 4

While she's the one most affected by it, and gets the final decision in any reasonable relationship, the guy's feelings need to be taken into account too.
If I found out my girlfriend was pregnant, and wanted to get rid of it when I wanted to keep it, I'd be sad and disappointed.
If I found out my girlfriend had kept something like that from me, it'd be over, no matter how much I loved her.

If your relationship so lacking in honesty that you don't need to discuss something as significant as a potential new life, you shouldn't even be having sex.

Answer 5

My ex-fiance (and the only guy I ever had sex with) was adopted....so I think we all know how HE felt about abortion, lol...I would personally probably not get one unless it was a health issue or if I was raped or something. I feel like if I'm going to have sex, then pregnancy is a potential consequence. Luckily, my ex was white, so at least THAT baby would probably have been adopted...people like mixed babies; they think they're cute. Seriously, though, I have a family who would support me and help me out, and a lot of girls don't have that. It's sad. I think that if they guy is willing to raise the kid, though, she should probably keep it and give it to him. Abortion should be a VERY LAST resort. Like dead last. Like you've asked everyone you know to take the baby, and help you out while you're pregnant until you can give it to the father or up for adoption. But that's just me. I would never take away anyone else's choice of what to do with THEIR body. I wouldn't want anyone butting their nose into my business.

Answer 6

1st no one can tell you what to do with your body. Period. Now the fact that you are in a relationship, you are obligated to tell him. And do it with the intent of getting his opinion. You don't have to tell him you are going to get it done no matter what, cause you are defeating the purpose. This is deep cause you may not be ready, you may have religious reasons, and you may not want one at all. In any matter you have the FINAL say so. Just don't play games with it.

Answer 7

I would feel horribly. I would encourage her not to get one and offer my support. She woud be having her own child killed by an abortionist who is aware of what he is doing and doesn't care about her child. I also would probably want to know who the father is and let her know that I forgive her for having intercourse with someone else and that she might not be able to forgive herself if she has an abortion.

Intercourse outside of marriage is wrong but abortion is FAR worse. She should probably tell him that she is pregnant, it is his child too, but she shouldn't let him pressure her into having an abortion.

Good luck!

Answer 8

If it a GF, what right does the boy have 2 know? It's her body, her future, her life. A BF has no right 2 say or do anything when there not married.

If there married then the man as a voice.

Answer 9

no you have to let him know... i just went through this about a month ago. tell him that your pregnant and tell him you want an abortion. but ill tell you its not going to be pretty, abortions are relationship killers. I told her id support her either way and she still went along with abortion.

Answer 10

I'm formally against it. I had a scare once with my ex-girlfriend and we put all the options on the table. We both disagreed with the abortion, if your willing to have sex than you have to face the consequences.