I feel badly because my husband works a lot and does not need any more pressure in his life.
What is a good way to break bad news to him??
2007-08-20 09:54:41 · 22 answers · asked by Bien Chula 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Just because he leaves the home to work, does not mean that his job is any more strenuous than yours. You are working as well...raising your beloved children. And, as the first person said...there is no "easy" wa to break bad news. Bad news is bad news none-the-less. Simply let him know that you need to have a discussion, and break it to him. How would he tell you bad news? You could consider using his technique, it may be easier on him to have it delivered to him in a manner he also uses, so that it is more natural and not overboard or such. Good luck and remember I'm here if you need anyone to talk to! = )
2007-08-20 10:17:56 · answer #1 · answered by Memigen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it all depends on the bad news. I only work about 6 times a month so I do know what a stay at home mother puts up with that the husband doesnt. I would let him relax and let the kids go to bed first if its something that might involve a little tiff. Just tell him that you have something important to tell him that needs some attention. That always gets my husband's ears. The sooner the better though.
2007-08-20 09:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by ladonnabrik 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree. It shouldn't matter whether a person decides to work or stay at home with their child. Really it depends on the situation if all moms could afford to stay at home they would. SAHM's i myself am one are lucky to be able to stay at home with our children but if it's a situation where both parents need to be making money to have enough to live off of each month then staying at home is not an option. I hear criticism too about WOHM's and it's just bs. We are all parents if work is a need then it has to be done. What's more important is having a child that won't get deprived in life. Not saying SAHM's deprive their kids but saying not everyone can afford to live off of one income especially these days. It depends on where the other spouse works and what their pay is. You don't have to stay at home in order to love and care for your children. I also want to add i give lots of credit to the mom's that work because not seeing your kid all day is hard! There are times when i need to go somewhere and the whole time im missing my son. I can imagine WOHM's are missing their babies all day and wondering what they are doing. Also, what about single mom's like they should stay at home with their child and providing that child with the help of other people's money because they have no money to support their children. SAHM's should be lucky they can be SAHM's and not critize other parents for things that are not a choice but a must have.
2016-05-18 02:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by mirian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess it would depend on the news. And I think you know a stay at home mom has pressures too. They may not be the same but are still there, I don't think it should be any different telling him whether you stay home or not, unless you did something to cause the bad news I guess.
2007-08-20 09:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Coffee 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't really see how 'sahm' & 'wohd' plays into it, as both are adult partners in the family, working together for the benefit of all, treating each other with respect as individuals, respecting each other's contributions to the whole, etc... Or, they should be, anyway.
But, I've found the best way to present 'bad news' to anyone is to try to include a solution or plan to solve the problem, along with the bad news. Not only 'something bad happened', but 'something bad happened, but I think we should be able to handle it in this way...'.
2007-08-20 10:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay...Women know when their man is not in the right mood...Wait until after he has eaten dinner for sure..Try to have the kids behaving really well when he get's home, and have it as stress free as can be...Then, just tell him that youre not sure how he will react, but we need to figure something out because this is what happened...blah blah...Let him vent, whatever and however he deals with it..Sometimes it takes a couple of days of them sitting on it to come up with the solution, or accept it...
Good luck!
2007-08-20 10:00:12 · answer #6 · answered by Momto8gr8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the news. Every time I had bad news to tell my husband, it turned out not to be as tragic as I had anticipated. If you're not pregnant with the mail man's child and your house hasn't burned down, or you're not bankrupt, then it can't be all that bad--unless you are telling him that you know that he's running around! Or did one of your children commit murder? Everything else is merely an annoyance that needs to be dealt with. Just tell him that when he's ready, you have something to tell him that's not very pleasant.
2007-08-20 10:07:18 · answer #7 · answered by Sunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, let him come home and unwind, make him a couple of drinks/beer (if he drinks), kiss up and make his favorite meal, make sure there are no distractions (kids are playing elsewhere or asleep), then tell him. Try to give him some type of good news with the bad news. Good luck!
2007-08-20 10:06:00 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now, I dont think by you being stay-at-home vs someone who works outside the home there is any difference in breaking bad news to someone you care about. Im not sure why you are focusing on this unless this is the source of the bad news.
2007-08-20 10:04:47 · answer #9 · answered by lillilou 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it depends on what the news is?
Just be honest and tell him how you feel about him- tell him that you feel bad because he works hard and you do not want to put anymore pressure on him but....
You work hard too- so don't think that things are not pressure for you either- you do not have an easy job- take a little more credit than that!
2007-08-20 11:47:32 · answer #10 · answered by sweetybaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋