Why do men always shy-away from ladies in their 30s and where are all single decent men??

Answer 1

1. The nice men are ugly.
2. The handsome men are not nice.
3. The handsome and nice men are gay.
4. The handsome, nice and heterosexual men are married.
5. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men, have no money.
6. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men with money think we are only after their money.
7. The handsome men without money are after our money.
8. The handsome men, who are not so nice and somewhat heterosexual, don't think we are beautiful enough.
9. The men who think we are beautiful, that are heterosexual, somewhat nice and have money, are cowards.
10. The men who are somewhat handsome, somewhat nice and have some money and thank God are heterosexual, are shy and NEVER MAKE THE FIRST MOVE!!!!
11. The men who never make the first move, automatically lose interest in us when we take the initiative.

That's where they went.


Edit: Hey, those of you who are annoyed with me for this, please look again with a sense of humor. Just trying to brighten your days, mmkay?

Answer 2

Men don,t shy away from 30s women the way it goes is like this single men in there 30s still think they have plenty of time to fool around with girls in there mid 20s chasing there youth if you like they convince them selves they will get a 30s woman when they are 40 .
Also they think that single good looking women in there 30s will have been playing the field so to speak for 10 yrs, they think they will have more fun before they get hitched.
What they forget is when they are 40 and the hair starts to thin and that tummy isn,t what it used to be, that good looking women they could of had 5 yrs before wont even look at them now that's why there are so many 40-45s single men.
I am in my 50s and i know most women haven,t even reached there prime at 30 , So ladies there are plenty of 25-28s single men out there who will appreciate you more.

Answer 3

LOL Yuki has a few good ones... :)

But to be honest, I'm not sure that it's true that men shy away from ladies in their 30's. I certainly haven't seen any evidence of that. And I should know. I'm a man. Most men like attractive women no matter what age they are.

I think It is more likely that you believe that men are shying away from you because you are in your 30s, and this shows up as insecurity or overcompensation. Men pick up on these things, and may steer clear as a result.

As for where the single decent men are well, they are there, but sadly, many women wont go out with them because they either aren't attractive enough, or not aggressive enough, or not as exciting as the good looking, arrogant men that seem to get all the play these days.

They can be found, but you are gonna have to change your men selection criteria in order to do so. The nice ones are usually not as bold and crazy as the exciting ones...

Answer 4

Nobody's shying away from 30-something women. It's generally not an issue of age; that's the myth.

I know at a certain age, women should be confident and secure enough in themselves and the lives they've created. Men are attracted to confident and secure women; don't let them lie to you! Ha! If you behave like you have "no life", are needy and clingy, wondering 'where you went wrong' in that you're not "attached" in your 30s, dudes are gonna pick up on that mental message. I mean, if you're thinking there's a reason you're unlovable at 30-something because you're still single, you're gonna project that. And the last thing a dude wants is a clingy, insecure and whiny chick as a girlfriend, much less a wife.

The single men are where you are. Find an outlet that you enjoy so the single men are going to see you at your best and most confident. Let them get to know you; don't be afraid of "sounding too smart, too aware, too independent." If it's who you are, then it's not going to stop him from discovering it later, right? Be you. Seek interesting outlets, expand your mind. Love you AND your life, and men will notice that, and be drawn to you. Again, do the women the dudes flock to seem in the least bit self-conscious or self-questioning to you? I thought not.

Stop focusing so much on 'where are all the dudes?' because the moment you do, that's when they come out of the woodwork. It never fails, the moment I'm deep into a book project, or just simply enjoying my single life, there are at least three dudes (and/or dudettes) giving me the hairy eyeball. Not that I'm complaining, mind you. Ha!

Answer 5

Shame on you ladies for being so negative! I'm single and decent, always monogamous. Am I ugly? I also make over $100,000/yr. Why am I single you may ask? I'm a sailor, and only get home 2 weeks at a time after being gone one month at a time, so I would be like a vacation mate. Anyone want to commit to that? Didn't think so.

Answer 6

I am in my 30's. I apparently look like I am in my teens. I constantly get hit on by either 23 year olds or 50 year olds, both of whom think I am jail bait. Obviously, I am not interested. I generally like slightly older men (40-42-ish), but the good ones are either married or gay. The single men in that age group are still single because nobody wants them.

Answer 7

This reminds me about all that soap operas, like Sex and the City and so on. I think age does not matter. I saw a woman who everybody takes for her husband's mother. still they are married. One teacher from my school was married 3 times and she was not young or pretty. I even saw a woman who has 6 children(!), one of them is 23, and she still got married to a rather rich man.... Always wanted to ask how she did it. But most of such women are really nice and femenine, they are also wise. try to be softer, more patient... it can help. may be you are in ahurry to get married and don't take time to look at not very attractive men closer? they can become good husbands. Give them a chance.

Answer 8

I'm a decent single man but probably 15 to 20 years too old.

Good Luck.

Answer 9

Maybe b/c they think all women in their 30's only want marriage. I am going to be 30 and to be honest that is what I am looking for! I am sure there is plently of single decent men. You just have to meet 100 assholes to get to one.
Please dont listen to all these mean spirited people who answered you!

Answer 10

Ladies in their 30's are THE BEST. Occassionally, I'll meet them in their 40's and they are pretty good too. If guys shy away from you it's probably because they are intimidated by your good looks and confidant demeanor. Just keep being who you are. There are guys who want to know you; They just don't know how to start. Maybe you could initiate conversation and make them feel comfortable..

Answer 11

Heh i'm 22 and messed around with a 30 year old. They want younger guys, but you expect us to commit for marriage. I know for one i'm nice and i'm not ugly, I dont care where the first poster got that list from. Decent guys are like a needle in a haystack now. I know i'm one, but i never find girls that deserve to be treated nice. Its a loser/loser situation on both sides.