Do you propose first and then ask her parents for thier blessing or do you ask them, then propose?
2007-08-20 08:55:35 · 6 answers · asked by rocks 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
in some cultures, it's appropriate to ask the parents-or father- for permission to marry thier daughter before you actually pop the question. otherwise, it's fine to just tell them you're engaged and ask for their blessing. however, i don't know of many people that even ask for someones blessing anymore.
2007-08-20 09:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people used to do these things, it was girl first, then parents.
This was back when women were property, though. That was why you had to ask the father's permission, as a daughter was first her father's property then her husband's. These days you are risking a big insult to do this. It's not a quaint, harmless courtesy like many old-fashioned things can be.
2007-08-20 10:19:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 22:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by fuhrman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the parents.
My dad told my husband (before he was my husband) not to ask for permission to marry me, that he (my husband) needed only to ask my permission since I was the one going to marry him.
But, some parents/fathers expect you to ask them first. (though to me, that's just so oldfashioned anymore)
I guess it just really depends on the parents, and if I were you I would ask her. Just nochalantly bring it up in convo, s/how w/o getting her all excited that you are about to propose!!3
Good Luck
2007-08-20 09:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsay G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you live in a very traditional society or country,where the parents make such decisions for the girl. the main thing is to ask your girlfriend if she wants to marry you. if she does, ask her if she thinks you need to ask her parents... today it would seem more appropriate to say to the parents, listen, we're getting married and we hope we have your blessing.
2007-08-20 09:48:18 · answer #5 · answered by joe the man 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would ask her parents first then ask her.
2007-08-20 09:03:30 · answer #6 · answered by Jannelle 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋