My mom and I always had a great relationship. She was always the friend type though and not so much a mom. I moved 2 1/2 hours away and I live with my fiance. We talked all the time on the phone and I helped her out through her man troubles. Since I got pregnant I have only talked to her like 3 times and I am 36 weeks. She isnt mad or anything but she acts like she doesnt care. The times that I did talk to her she only would talk about herself and she just acted like I was just one of her pals that got knocked up rather than her daughter having her first grandchild. She never calls to see how I am doing and I am soo hurt and upset by this. I dont have her number and I have no clue where she is living now. I dont even know how to talk to her next time she calls. I love her and I wanted her to be a part of our lives as the grandma. I actually feel more sorry for my son who's grandmother could care less about him. What should I do or say when I do end up speaking to her?
2007-08-20 08:54:27 · 9 answers · asked by angel l 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I dont even know how to get a hold of her when I have the baby. Isnt that sad!! She also said that its not like she is going to be my sons real grandmother anyways since I live a few hours away. Isnt that rediculous!!??
2007-08-20 09:01:43 · update #1
Awww I'm sorry. Maybe she is having a tough time dealing with becoming a grandma. If she is still dating around (which is the impression I get when you said that you would talk to her about her man problems). I know that becoming a grandma is ah HUGE milestone that many women DON'T want to face. To some it makes us realize how much older we are getting.
Next time that she calls just tell her exactly how you feel. I mean, what have you got to lose at this point? Also, keep this in mind...maybe when the baby is born she will come around. Sometimes a birth of a child will do that for people that have grown apart.
Whatever happens, congratulations on your baby and Gob bless you and your family.
2007-08-20 09:02:05 · answer #1 · answered by Slipped Halo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot imagine a person not caring about having a grandchild. I have five grandchildren and recently learned that my son will have another child. I am as excited about this child as I was about the first one. Some people believe that having grandchildren is a sign that they are "old". I believe that my grandchildren have helped to keep me young. Keep trying to make the connection with your mother. Ask her to come out to see you after the baby comes. I work with a lady who wants to be asked to be a part of the grandchild's life. I have always asked the mother-to-be if I could do things for her as a part of my excitement. Your mother may have to hold that baby son for the first time, before the "love" really hits her. My children live closer and I guess that I am probably more involved sometimes than they would like. They are also able to say that without hurting my feelings. Give your mother a chance, if she still is a little "cold" - I feel like it is she that is missing out on all of the joy. Feel bad about that if you want to, but don't let her spoil what will be the most wonderful time in your life. Cherish every second-they are only little once and every day is like a miracle. Enjoy every second.
2007-08-20 09:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by GrammieN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go down to her level. You act normal and you say "Mom...I'm so glad I got to call you". If for some reason she says "Well it's about time you called"...you don't recipricate those feelings, just say something like "Im sorry...you're right I should've called sooner".
There are some mothers out there that don't know how to be mothers, and now she is probably feeling like she doesn't know how to be a grandmother.
You're a sweet girl to pour your feelings out here like this. I hope things get better. Don't stress out too much, you're pregnant and pregnancy is stressful enough.
You should try calling some of her relatives (i.e. sister, brother) perhaps they know where you can contact her. You mother could be angry that you're not married, not that that's important, cause it's not, but she might be old - fashion. Only you know the answer to that.
My dear good luck to you...I know you must be hurting, and if I could, I would help you vanish that hurt.
Good Luck.
2007-08-20 09:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by Wanna-be-Dear-Abby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is still is shock with the news that her baby daughter is actually pregnant...maybe the idea of it for her is hard to swallow and she cannot express this feeling openly to you that every time she talk to you this feeling gets in the way and she feel so uncomfortable that she try to avoid it and in turn avoiding you. Maybe if she express herself openly she knows she will hurt you with her finding hard to accept you are pregnant.
Don't worry all is not lost.......she will change her mind once she sees her grandchild for the first time....i can promise you that......Don't give up on her because she sound like she love you a lot.....don't let what happen now makes you feel in turn to hurt and avoid her.....try and bring her in your life again make her a part of you and your baby life even if she appears not to want it. Ignore this and just keep inviting her over and over ....pretending that she must have miss you and her grandchildren....in time you will see her opening up to your baby
2007-08-20 09:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by soundfamiliar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be that she might feel that her friend has some thing more important then her. it is true her grand baby. that is taking up all the time with you. and she is use to you and her just talking and doing thing's together and not the baby and the both of you. and she don't know how to deal with that right now. or she just need some time to come on around. or she might be mad at you for having a baby right now. have you ever thought about that. it could happen.
i was like that when by best friend got pregnant, I really didn't talk to her much because it take time that we spend talking about thing's and life and thing's that we like to do together a way from me being with her.
call it what you will, but it happen like that and i was mad at her. but after a few month's i see her and the baby and i just let the things i was thinking about that keep us not talking together and not doing thing's together,( I just let it go)
and start to get use to having her baby around and still have fun with her she just had a baby to think about also.
so, it worked out good for the three of us and life when on.
i had to just stop thinking about my self and think about how she feels to.
so i hope thing's work out for you in the along run as well as now.
best wishes to you and yours
2007-08-20 09:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by map 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 22:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her straight up what is going on and why she seems to have no intrest in your life or child. But don't stress on it to much because you have something more important going on, and thats making sure you keep your baby healthy.
2007-08-20 09:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by Jannelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you do end up speaking to her, ask her why it seems like shes been ignoring you. And maybe shes like this because she doesn't want you to see you in that state your in now.
2007-08-20 08:59:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Call her up and say "Whats up mom"?
2007-08-20 08:58:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋