well i am in middle school and this middle school is hard i am what you say "popular" but is comes with alot of responsibility you have to dress to impress and all that but I AM SICK OF TRYING TO IMPRESS PEOPLE i just want to be me now but i mean some of yall forgot that when yall were popular you had to dress well get F's where mini skirts that look like belts weight under 130 pounds have a BIG chest and a nice booty yes i have all these things but for ONCE i want to eat a piece of pizza with out haveing to do 50 sit ups afterwards i relized that my "friends" don't even like me, they like "Sasha" the girl i was pretending to be,,,,, but she is done and the REAL me is comeing out the intelligant A student like in elementry school ANY WAY THE QUESTION IS AM I RIGHT OR WRONG?????
2007-08-20 08:26:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I don't know if you are right or wrong. If you could just make a coherent English sentence, that would be easier to tell . . . .
You don't have to 'impress' anyone but yourself. True friends like you for who you are, not what you have, or what you look like. Find some of those folks, and you will be a lot happier.
Good luck!
2007-08-20 08:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
AH my dear, you are growing up. And that's a good thing.
OK here's what you do.
Study like the dickens and make good grades.
Be nice - genuinely nice - to people. Even kids you actually dislike. Be nice to them because they may become someone you'll like - later on. Never, ever say anything mean about anyone - you can always say something like 'Well, I just don't know what to say... or Well, I guess Gina will always be Gina" etc. Nothing committal - but never say anything mean about anyone. It will get you in trouble every time.
You've heard of being "in" with the "in" crowd? Well, expand that to being "in" with the "interesting" crowd. That is, the pudgy girl who can sing like an opera singer - or the pencil-neck geek with the thick glasses - who is a wiz at chemistry.
Remember that you will never please everyone all of the time. And there are so many immature kids out there - who only see what label you're wearing, etc. Just smile at them and be nice. You don't have to be fake or phony - but you can be nice - distant but nice.
And realize that you've already grown past them in many, many ways.
No, it won't be easy - but by learning about yourself while being nice to people will make you popular with everyone - not just the plastic people.
2007-08-20 15:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Darling...of course you are right, and you have good timing! Middle school is the start up point where people your age "find themselves", and i think that is what you have began to do. Being popular is only a facade, a person is named so only because they fit the picture; an image made up by the majority of the students, and you have just described that facade in your question...and do you realize its theme? looks....usually beauty is only skin deep...what you have to do is to warp that cliche. You CAN look beautiful and be smart; because when you start to age your beauty will diminsh...and what will you have left? Make up your own definition of popular...the girl who always has the latest fashions...the girl who returns every smile...the girl who is always earnest to help out..and still gets good grades...that's how you will be known by EVERY ONE! you CAN have it all darling! Just remember moderation is key...always balance..what you eat how you excercise and even what fun means to you. You can have that slice of pizza but have a salad tommorow...figure out your priorities and you'll soon find that with balance these will truly become the best years of your life...don't encourage the saying..."time is wasted on the young"..and hun, i know fitting in is always comfortable...but it's up to you to choose...comfort now? or comfort for the rest of your days.
2007-08-20 15:40:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are right. Being yourself is much more important than trying to live up to other people's expectations.
It may be hard at first, as those who are your current 'friends' may not understand why you're making all of these sudden changes, and they may move on. On the other hand, most people respect those who don't do things because of peer pressure. You will probably find that your 'friends' will appreciate the fact that you're not so worried about your looks and that you're trying harder in school, so that they can start being themselves, as well.
Good luck!
~Kyanna
2007-08-20 15:42:17 · answer #4 · answered by Kyanna S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are Right. Life was never meant to be the way you are living it. But sometimes we get caught up. Just in different things. Let it go. Who knows you may find real friends, save money on clothes, and GET money for college, by winning a scholarship. I think you can do it! Good Luck.
2007-08-20 15:35:04 · answer #5 · answered by nutsfornouveau 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never needed someone intent on impressing me. Honesty to oneself is a more reliable means of measuring one's true personality (^_^)
Impressing yourself will make you all the more popular and better-liked
2007-08-20 17:16:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to be someone you are not. When you do that, you lose yourself. Example: If you try to be like "Sasha" - and then "Sasha" changes, where does that leave you? You will not know who you are - let alone who Sasha is.
Just be yourself and do not try to impress anyone.
2007-08-20 15:36:15 · answer #7 · answered by Kabu 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Settle down, girl...You need to chill out, stop being so angry, take a deep breath and count to ten. Find better friends if the ones you have treat you badly.
2007-08-20 15:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think its called maturity
2007-08-20 15:36:14 · answer #9 · answered by Jan 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
thats life sweetie, it only gets more intense with age.
2007-08-20 15:38:21 · answer #10 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋