I only have one sister.older.she's 26 and I'm 21. We have never been close really. But I lived with her last year and we started to get pretty close.Closer then we had ever been. I moved out and got my own place. We live in the same town only a few blocks away. She never calls. Never wants to hang out. She's always put her friends/boyfriends before her family. We will make plans and she always brakes them. Something Always come up. And I'm really getting sick of it. I want a sister that I can hang out with. I always try and make time to call her and see whats going on. Sometimes I think she screens my call. I'll call and leave a message just saying call me back I wanna see whats up. She NEVER calls back. I just hate it that we aren't close. I mean I'm not wanting to spend every min. with her but lunch, shopping, just plan hang out from time to time would be great. But theres always something better to do. The only time she ever comes around is when she thinks I need something.
2007-08-20 08:10:57 · 4 answers · asked by luveschvys 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family. It would be nice to have the kind of relationship with your sister that you want. But it just doesn't always happen. You should focus on finding a friend who will be like a sister to you. You'll be less disappointed that way.
2007-08-20 08:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by kat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may need to find a way to accept this about your sister.
I have 5 sisters and 4 brothers and they all have their own lives and often too busy for me. We have a large age range between us, and live in different states. The age range is 37-14 years old.
Two of my sisters who live in my area are 7 years older than me and 10 years younger than me...I'm 26. They are closer to each other even though there is 17 years between them. I am unfortunately not able to get close to them, no matter how hard I try. Sometimes I feel left out...but there isn't much you can do.
You cannot change another person or expect them to do things with you. It's hard, but having other friends and other things to do will make things easier.
2007-08-20 15:29:27 · answer #2 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she's not interested in being close .. sorry ... she was older when you were born so she was used to either being the onlyl child or the only girl and may of resented you coming into her life, sometimes as children we never get over this.
I would stop trying so hard and write her a letter telling her that you want to be closer .. like friends ... and leave the ball in her court to call or contact you.
2007-08-20 15:43:32 · answer #3 · answered by emnari 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are sisters but my sis is like that-to counter for it I have a ton of sister friends that i hang out with. They are my circle and now my sis is jealous of those relationships and the time that I spend with them. go figure-get involved in a good church and hobbies in the area so that you have your own circle
2007-08-20 15:19:33 · answer #4 · answered by msijg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋