I live 2 hours away so when I go there I stay for 2 nights. On the other hand his roommates girlfriend stays there 3 or 4 nights a week & isnt asked to pay anything. My boyfriend & I were having problems & after 2 years i moved out. him and an aquaintance needed a place to stay so they joined together, went looking at houses and signed the lease with just them 2. is it ridiculous for his roommate 2 ask me 2 pay rent when none of my stuff is in that house? i visit and stay 2 nights. while his girlfriend stays more often. is it wrong of my boyfriend to not say hey if i want her to stay 3 nights it shouldnt be a problem? my boyfriend says hed like me to stay longer but doesnt want to cause problems. but i think he should be more of a man & stand up to his roommate. & his roommmate & his girlfriend always give me the cold shoulder. they never try 2 be nice 2 me but theyll sit there & have a good ol' conversation with my boyfriend while completely ignoring me. is it wrong for me to be upset
2007-08-20 08:05:51 · 14 answers · asked by Blessed 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Renters pay rent. Is your name on the lease? No? You're a guest. Guests don't pay rent. Your boyfriend can have whoever he wants as a guest in his own home. Sounds like they ALL need to grow up.
2007-08-20 08:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by abzolut 3 · 7⤊ 3⤋
No you aren't wrong to be upset. But you are upset at the wrong people. The room mate and his girlfriend couldn't be more blunt about not wanting you there. The really bad thing is that your "boyfriend" is allowing this to go on. He's the one you should be upset at. His behavior is saying - sure, come on over a few nights a week for sex and if I can get you to pay for it, that's even better.These 3 people have a lot of hostility toward you and you need to run, not walk, as fast as you can from that house and not go back. IF your boyfriend cares about you, let him travel the 2 hours to come see you. But you know what? It won't happen. IF he really cared about you he'd have put a stop to the other two behaving so badly to you. You moved out the first time for a reason. You need to revisit that reason and these new ones and re-evaluate this situation right away. I hope you never go back there. You're not wanted and for the "boyfriend" to allow them to treat you so badly is outrageous. Trust me, you are not wanted there. Please don't go back and give them further opportunity to trash you.You deserve much better. Good luck.
2016-05-18 00:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by margart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave it up to your boyfriend. Say, "Boyfriend, your roommate wants me to pay rent. Do I have to, or should I just ignore it?" If the Boyfriend says, "pay rent" then you have a decision to make, don't you? If the answer is "don't worry about it" then don't worry about it, and if the roommate persists, tell him to talk it over with Boyfriend. Done.
Don't worry about whether they give you the cold shoulder. Just be pleasant and interact like normal. Chances are when they are having a "good ole conversation" as you say, you are probably sitting back and being quiet. That probably creates a downward spiral where you are quiet and offended, and then they are uncomfortable because you don't seem happy or outgoing, and so you feel more quiet and offended, etc. etc. etc. So, just be nice all the time and stop worrying about who is right or wrong.
2007-08-20 09:48:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the lease. Some leases state that anything more than "overnight guests" that stay for a total of X days or less will require additional rent. But you haven't mentioned this, so it doesn't sound like they have that kind of lease.
If guests are determined by ALL the roommates to be liable for rent, then ALL the guests should have to pay it, or none of them. Simple as that.
It sounds like this issue needs to be communicated about and agreed on by the roommates involved, and both of them should shut up about it until this happens. Neither of them can make rules "for the apartment" by themselves, as they share it.
Good luck!
2007-08-20 08:24:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a couple of points to cover here.
1) Yes, if you pay rent, then she should too.
2) Strange your boyfriend isn't siding more with you here. Makes me wonder who's side he is really on. Red flags up.
3) Look at it this way. If you did pay rent, how much is he asking and can you afford it? If you do, there are some neat hooks on your side here: He becomes your landlord there. You get a key, rent receipts (get receipts) and (have some mail delivered there). You become a "resident" not a visitor. Look up the laws on Landlord - Tenant within your state. For him to change his mind later, he has to take you to court and evict you. Sounds like this guy is a jerk and paying rent gives you lots of legal rights.
2007-08-20 08:21:39 · answer #5 · answered by cowboy in scrubs 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The two of them should have an agreement regarding sleepovers and guests.
If they both are having girlfriends to spend the night, why would one girlfriend pay rent but not the other?
Sounds like they are trying to root you out...
2007-08-20 08:22:23 · answer #6 · answered by Doodles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he's looking for free money, either that or he doesn't like you and hopes it will make you stop staying over. Kind of rude of him if his own girlfriend doesn't have to pay. Well if she and he ever get married, hope her family never lives far away and wants to visit and stay with them, they'd be better off at a hotel! lol
2007-08-20 08:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by Indigo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If his gf isn't paying rent, then neither should you, and neither of you should pay any rent. You are both guests. Until you move your stuff in, you don't need to pay any rent. And I agree, your bf ought to man up, and say, "I can have guests as often as I want to." And obviously, he should say, "Your gf is here at least as often as mine, and SHE doesn't pay rent. Why should mine?" Your bf's roommate sounds like a cheap, selfish loser.
2007-08-20 08:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
does she live there and pay rent too? do u know that for a fact? bc my old roommate had his girl living there and it pissed me off. i asked them to move out. so if those rules apply to you then they they should apply them to her as well. if ur bf cant stand up for you and have ur back then hes not right for you and have this be a sign that he will not stick up for you. ur better off leaving this relationship and all this drama behind u.
2007-08-20 08:34:43 · answer #9 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, they are such *******!! Your boyfriend needs to stand up to the guy. They both signed the lease. Plus, it would be ok of him to charge you as long as his girlfriend gets charged too. What douche bags.
2007-08-20 08:18:34 · answer #10 · answered by Jukebox 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋