i need some wedding ideas?

Question

ok me and my husband are both athiest..and i dont really kno how to plain a weeding and i just need some tips that wont be to churchy...i dont really want to have the traditional white dress and pink flowers and stuff like that i want something more our style

my style is kind of a gothic punk style while my fiances is complete goth...i wanted a black dress, and we wanted some rock or metal music but some softer music also for the party...there is goin to be drinkin, and some of our friends will probably start a mosh....and i love red roses so i want to have some in the middle of the tables or something....if you need more info on wut we are into just let me kno, thanks for you help

Answer 1

you can get married at a park, hotel or a B&B or an art gallery - there are lots of different settings. Depends on WHERE you live & what's available.

Answer 2

Really you can design your ceremony the way you want. A typical wedding ceremony has a procession, a greeting by your officiant, your exchange of vows, exchange of rings, then announe you as husband and wife, then the recessional.

Now you cna take this simple outline and make it how you want. You could have a procession to a rock song and have people dance down the "aisle". You could have a totally different type of entrance. You can design your own vows and ring exchange (or handfasting ceremony or what have you) and then have your own style exit.

I love the idea of red roses on the tables, with maybe some midnight blue or black organza ribbon.

Check out this site that has descriptions and pics of different roses, the black ice rose I think would work well for you because it is a very deep red, very cool.

http://www.rose-roses.com/catalog/roseindex2.html

Good luck!

Answer 3

I'm atheist and had some problems when we initially started thinking about the wedding. Really, all that is required is a marriage liscense, an officiant and a couple of witnesses. Depending on the state, there are different rules about who can be the officiant. You can often become ordained online which allow you to perform weddings. After that, the sky's the limit.

It had been a long time since anyone had gotten married in either my family or my husband's family. There were a lot of older relatives that we wanted to have with us to celebrate. Since family was important to us, we decided to have a wedding in a central location, inside (to accommodate people unable to sit out in the heat or cold). We also did a relatively traditional protestant ceremony, just removing the words God, holy, etc. We googled for ceremonies and wrote our own.

You also have to think about most of your decisions in terms of money. Weddings can be really expensive, but they don't have to be. Prioritize the most important bits and go from there. You can print invitations yourself, get a vintage dress or one from a department store, have fewer bridemaids/groomsmen, have cheaper or more expensive catering.

My biggest pieces of advice are 1) don't throw out all tradition because you are athesist, 2) include some family, 3) be yourself, and 4) remember the wedding is a day; it'll either go well or be a good story, but the marriage is a lifetime.

Best of luck,
Catherine

Sorry for spelling errors/typos. Spell check is out.

Answer 4

My husband and I had a justice of the peace marry us at the reception hall. We made sure the vows weren't to "Church" and just put an arch that I decorated up as the "altar". The ceremony was about 5 minutes long and then my wedding party slipped out for photos while the guests got to listen to music and mingle. I also had a "no kids" rule so nobody had to babysit. Everyone said it was the best time they have had at a wedding. Do what you want without offending anyone...As long as it is all done in good taste, the guests will have a blast. Good luck.

Answer 5

A judge or Justice of the Peace would be the best route to go for the wedding then. You could get married right at your reception site, on the beach, or wherever you want. The vows for a civil service are not religious, especially if the officiant knows your preferences.

Without knowing your style, I'm not sure any of us can give you dress and decorating advice though, sorry. Give us a little better idea and we'll be glad to help.

Answer 6

What is "your style"? You're athiest so obviously you won't have your ceremony in a church/synagogue. Are you looking for inexpensive ideas, pricey ideas, what? There is no law that says you have to wear a traditional dress or carry flowers.

How about a picnic wedding in someone's back yard or at a local park? You can get married at city hall and then have a friend do a fake ceremony for your guests and then just have a big party.

You can get married around halloween and have a costume wedding

Answer 7

Have a friend become ordained and then that deletes the need for a "minister" or JOP...here's the link, it takes a few minutes to become ordained, and it's for real and free.

http://www.themonastery.org/

Pick a bridesmaid type dress instead, so it can be whatever color or colors that you want- then find a venue that goes with you and your guys style....we love the outdoors and hiking, and we're getting married in a woodsy location.
Skip goofy traditions like tossing the bouquet or garter stuff...
I'm sure it'll be great if you do it however you want it done- just don't feel obligated to please everyone who thinks tradional is better- it's not, in this case, for you.

Answer 8

Well, my wife and I had a very UNTRADITIONAL wedding.... we didn't want to get married in a church or a chapel, and after considering many different ideas, we decided to have our wedding at an old victorian home which hosts Murder Mysteries. So, we were married in the main living room (Both of us dressed in 1920's attire), and afterwards, for the reception, we had a Murder Mystery. What a hoot!!!!!!! We had the best wedding of anyone I know. All of our guests had an absolute blast! It was so much fun! Everyone was dressed in 1920's attire (our daughters (the bridesmaids) wore matching flapper dresses).

Everyone had fun acting their "parts" and trying to figure out who the evil "villian" was. Of course, with the Murder Mystery, we, and all of our guests, were served a fine dinner, along with dessert and champagne.

When we first told everyone what we were doing for our wedding/reception, we had a lot of not so positive responses like "I dunno about that,... that sounds weird". But then, they showed up, and laughed so hard they cried. My mother bitched about our wedding right up till it started... .but when the reception (Murder Mystery started) she laughed the rest of the evening. Afterwards, even SHE (the old bat) said how cool and fun our wedding had turned out, and that she was honestly and pleasantly suprised.

I am so very glad we did not go traditional with our wedding. All of our friends STILL talk about our wedding to this day! Several have told us we need to get married again! LOL! As one friend told us: "A wedding is a wedding is a wedding... YAWN!!! But YOUR wedding, that was a blast and something to remember!!! We'll never have the kind of fun at any other wedding that we did at yours".

Yep, we had a blast. So, there's ya one idea. If you need additional info, or more ideas, feel free to email me.

Answer 9

I had a friend that wore a beautiful black evening gown and carried red roses on her wedding.

There are no rules to say what you have to do on your wedding day...

Have a costume party....
Or a rollerskating wedding...
Have a sundea bar instead of cake...

Heck, wear chicken costumes if you want to.

Think about what you and your groom like to do together...and base it around that.

Answer 10

I had the same issues, I ended up getting married at my best friends house outside in her front yard and then had the reception in the back. It was a blast and very casual.

Answer 11

Start by purchasing a wedding planner that is your style. There are hundreds to choose from (booksamillion.com)
Then start looking through magazines and finding ideas that you really like and you should be able to go from there.