i've talked to him a lot, i dunno why he always rejects me. he already has a girlfriend who is a TOTAL NERD who likes ANIME and OLD MOVIES AND MUSIC, and isn't really even that pretty! he says he isn't really "into" me the way i'm into him, and that he's sure i'll find another guy, but i don't get why he doesn't like me! i'm the hottest girl in the 9th grade! everyone says so, and i'm the most popular.. and he is sooo hott! he says he hates all the music i like, (I LUV RAP) and he likes stupid music like the beatles and led zeppelin, all the movies i like, (JOHN TUCKER MUST DIE!), he likes stupid movies like the godfather and akira... and he hates shows like the hills and the real world! he watches anime and the discovery channel. i just don't get why he doesn't like me! he's so hottttttt! and so am i, so don't we sound like the perfect couple? if you need more details just ask, plz help!
SHE ALSO LIKES...
DAVID BOWIE! OMG! HES SO GAY!!!!!!!!!!
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2007-08-20 07:28:07 · 72 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They sound like a good couple. Why don't you go find a guy who is shallow and the two of you can be a good couple?
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2007-08-20 07:32:30 · answer #1 · answered by elurle 6 · 15⤊ 1⤋
First of all,I want you to know that they're are a lot of people who have been offended by some of the things you have written.I,myself,have been offended by your coments on how watching anime and listening to music like the Beatles is,in your opinion,supid.However,I will continue to give you the best advice I can.
Firstly,read what you just wrote.You have listed multiple differences between the two of you.These things are the reasons in which he doesn't like you and likes the other girl instead.They have similar likes,unlike what you have with him.However,do not do what most girls will do and change your likes for the sake of making him like you.Trust me,it never works.
Secondly,your popularity and appearance has little,if not none, effect on your compadability. Your personalities are the major factors.
Thirdly,by insulting his girlfriend and his likes instead of being understanding and accepting you are pushing him farther away.By becoming accepting,you'll e more appealing.
Lastly,I must tell you what I believe is the best solution for you.I believe you should back down just a bit.Even if he likes you,he has a girlfriend and has told you that he doesn't want to be with.You may or may not get your own chance with him in the future,but I believe it will only further ruin your chances if you remain resiliant.
I hope my advice helps.
2007-08-21 11:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by Rozu-chan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the answer in your own description of your question. Just because you are the hottest girl in school has very little meaning. You see the other girl even though she is not as beautiful according to you is a more attractive candidate than you are. This is because the other girl understands him. They like the same things, the same jokes, the same movies. You and him are nothing alike. The relationship simply will never work. Imagine yourself being forced to watch all those anime movies and every time you suggest watching something else they say that your movie idea is stupid and childish?! You would not like that would you. What is the point of being with someone if you cannot be yourself. With you he will have to change everything about himself. He will have to change his music style, the way he dresses even the tv programs he watches. In the end he no longer is himself but someone else made up to some other persons belief system. Now come this other girl that says "No, you don't have to change for me because I like you the way you are". Second girl wins.
Looks only go so far. It is important that you like the person you are with but it is also important to understand and accept each other. You are not doing that. You don't accept who he is. You need to find a boy that has the same tastes and sees the world the same way as you otherwise you will never be happy with your unrealistic expectation. People are not pets they are humans with feelings with likes, dislikes, love, hate fear, etc etc. You don't make a boyfriend you find a boyfriend. You have to put yourself in the other persons shoes. Threat them as you would like them to threat you. The boy made the right desition for both of you. If the relationship was to continue it would had been a relationship based on you trying to change him and him trying to maintain his identity. Where as with the other girl that time that would have been spent arguing is now better spent enjoying life.
2007-08-20 07:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off, NO you don't sound like the perfect couple, secondly, it's not about looks - it's about personality & interests. You and him don't have anything in common (except looks - which don't count) and he loves a different girl that is like him and they like each other's personality!
Hey, my boyfriend is hot and I'm big. I don't like all the same things he does and I don't dis him because of it. I can respect my boyfriends hobbies, interests and his personality because that's who I FELL IN LOVE WITH!
You on the other hand are way to full of yourself and the way you sound now is this: "Omg, I can't have the guy I want and everyone else likes me!" Well if that's the case DATE SOMEONE ELSE!
God, grade 9! I'm in grade 12 and I still don't understand what the hell goes through young girl's brains when they freak out like this over one guy! He obviously likes the nerdy type! SO LEAVE HIM BE AND GROW UP!
If you are so damn "Hott" then you can have anyone you want - except the people who DON'T like you. Alright? You're an arrogant girl and thats why he doesn't like you - you put yourself on a pedistal and think everyone should bow at your feet. Man you are DAMN WRONG!
2007-08-22 22:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by ♫♥♫Teagan♦Smiley♫♥♫ 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I can see exactly why he doensn't like you. First of all, you seem really stuck up with yourself, which a lot of guys don't like. Second, it's not about looks. He has a lot more in common with the girl that he is with. You need to find someone else because he just isn't into you. Personally, I wouldn't be either.
2007-08-20 07:34:56 · answer #5 · answered by JustinSane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are more things to consider when going out with someone than just looks. Maybe he's into girls who aren't so superficial and selfish. This other girl sounds sweet and if they're into the same stuff than that just makes it better.Screw being hot, they sound compatible, you don't. Open your eyes and look around, if you're going call all that stuff stupid, you're just downing what he's into and that probably turns him off.
(p.s., David Bowie, led zeppelin, the beatles, discovery channel, anime, and the godfather rock, the hills and the real world are idiotic and are a waste of time)
2007-08-20 07:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by Cassie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well....I don't know how to tell you this, but he seems like a nice and smart guy. He likes real musicians with lots of talent, likes movies with well though out plotlines, and he watches TV shows that focus on real issues, not about Spencer and Heidi fighting. He also doesn't brag and say "gosh I'm just sooooo hot!" So I think that you should just look for another guy because he is obviously happy with his girlfriend right now. : |
2007-08-23 08:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by Moi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG!! You sound like my daughter when she was your age!!
I don't want you to take this as an insult, because it's not what I mean by saying this....Beauty is found on the inside, not on the outside. Most guys go for the outside beauty first, those are the ones you need to avoid! The good ones are attracted to someone that has the same interests as them, someone that is obviously beautiful, but modest about it, someone that doesn't flaunt themselves to others, and someone that doesn't act needy. Sweetie, boys don't want a high maintenance girl. Be nice to this girl he's with, it's not her fault that he likes her and not you. Sometimes, you don't always get the prize.
2007-08-20 07:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by kchow 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I am trying to figure out if this question is a joke or not. Honestly, you sound like such a hideous person on the inside, I thought maybe someone was just fooling around and posting fake questions.
First off, you embody the perfect stereotype of the attractive, dim-witted, shallow, egotistical, incredibly stupid b itch. And if I were the girl you described (she sounds SO MUCH COOLER than you it's ridiculous), I would kick your face in until you were the UGLIEST girl in the 9th grade. That's HER boyfriend. You have no respect for their feelings for eachother because you are a disgusting, selfish pig.
You asked for help, here it is: step in front of a speeding bus.
2007-08-20 07:44:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You sound so full of yourself you've got to be foaming at the mouth by now.
Seriously, I hope this post is a joke.
If it isn't let me reply properly. You're a judgemental, concieted idiot that cannot seem to understand that each INDIVIDUAL has their own tastes and you don't share a single one with him. He also likes good music, because in my OPINION rap sucks.
Get a life and get over yourself kid. It's not going to be an easy life when you act like such a brat. You'll never be happy.
2007-08-20 07:35:39 · answer #10 · answered by chaoss13 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Could be he's looking for someone with a brain. Could be.
Hey, since you're so interested in being "hott" I'll tell you a secret..... Intelligent and educated women are "Hot." It's something guys really like. Problem is, your interests and your criticism of his interests indicate that you are neither. So, count on your good looks while you can, but get educated and refine your positions a bit, because you will not be "hott" forever.
2007-08-20 07:36:55 · answer #11 · answered by JustAskin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋