So theres this guy i really, really like. and he feels the same. but it totaly sucks, casue everytime we try and get together, we dont. he came over to my house exactly a month ago today, and we just sat and talked for like 3 hours, and it was so nice. he asked me out on a date that following week, but we didnt go, casue he had to stay at work late. then he'll promise to hangout, but something will always come up. but when we IM or text or talk on the phone, hes always saying how, "we sooo belong together", and im "everything hes ever wanted" and stuff like that. and hes like "i just wana ask you out already". hes a workaholic, and is only 17. so he does have difficulty having time to do sutff, and i iunderstand that. it just seems like, if he really likes me as much as he says, then hed make more of an effort, and wed be togethe already. i just dotn know what to do. (and im kinda freaking out casue i texted him last night and he never wrote back and haha ugh y didnt he text back?)
2007-08-20 06:53:21 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has a girlfriend or he's broke.
2007-08-20 06:57:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're right in this case. If he did like you as much as he claimed, he'd back it up with more action, because you're worth the effort, and don't you forget it. Perhaps it really is a busy time in his life and sometimes, conflicting schedules really are a problem, but in any case, it's not considerate of him to keep you guessing when he seemingly doesn't plan on acting on it. Don't let him string you along with words alone. Give him the benefit of the doubt as to why this is happening, but don't waste your time either. I firmly believe that if a guy is really interested, he'll do something pro-active about it, no matter what his schedule. Good luck.
2007-08-20 06:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by LL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well babe if you really like him then just give it time. He seems like a good guy and a hard worker, thats the kind of man you need around so dont give up just yet...why don't you try talking to him about and let him know how you feel about this. Also maybe you should try praying if anyone you can go to it would be God and if yall are meant to be then it will happen. Well i'll be sure to put you in my prayers and I wish you the best of luck!
2007-08-20 07:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok calm down!! Obviously this guys likes you. And him being dedicated to work at such a young age, could actually be a good thing. It shows ambition. Ambition is a very good thing. Don't rush him. Don't be clingy. He will come around if he likes you as much as he says he does. Don't make him feel guilty for working. Maybe he's trying to save enough money to take you out on a real date. Maybe he's afraid he's going to screw something up, so he is taking things slow. Ok? Good luck!
2007-08-20 07:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by Ray Ray 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is kinda playing ya. Please be careful. Especially if you guys are having sex! I don't know how old you are, but please tell me you are not... In my years of experience with guys I see it like this: If a guy likes you and is interested in you, come hell or high water, he WILL find time to see you. Somehow or someway. Besides, he is only 17, how hard can he be possibly working and how long, when it is kinda illegal for a kid to work more than 35 or 40 hours in a work week? Let him go babe, he is just telling what you wanna hear when he is face to face. Actions ALWAYS speak louder than words.
2007-08-20 07:00:57 · answer #5 · answered by life_love_livin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that the attraction is all on one side? If he is interested, and you like him, be patient.
It is good that he's too busy to push you to go "too fast" as boys usually do.
This is a good boyfriend (someday husband) prospect, because he's not lazy, and he listens. Those are very two rare qualities in young men these days.
I tend to think he listens to you because he CARES and he will someday become a good provider.
If you push him to become a "good time charlie" to chum with; then you might make him avoid you so he can be himself!
It's easy to find a "good time charlie" to chum around with, but grow up and get your education while waiting for him to date you.
2007-08-20 07:17:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it is possible that he is really busy, the more likely reason is he's just not that into you. If he truly liked you as much as he says he does, he would have found time by now. It seems he wants to keep you around just in case, but does not truly want to be with you.
2007-08-20 07:03:27 · answer #7 · answered by tridak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He says he likes you.
So, he does. There is no reason to believe he is lying is there?
If he works a lot then that's why he cannot find time to go out with you.
Now you have to decide whether you want to be with someone who works a lot and might not spend that much time with you.
2007-08-20 07:02:20 · answer #8 · answered by *Lovely* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love is hard to find, but the reason he didn't text u back is because he's busy but what you can do is show him you love him so much he will feel a little guilty and he will be feeling sorry so he can make time for you. Hope it works.
2007-08-20 08:15:26 · answer #9 · answered by popstar901 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you ask a normal councelor, they says like: just give him a space, let him alone in his world as long as you both happh.
That what you call a bullshit. Just go to his workplace and settle things there. If he have to go work but you both have a date, go to his office with a cake or two cokes with some snacks. It really kicks off and who knows, you might ends up having sex in his office.
2007-08-20 07:03:07 · answer #10 · answered by Brilliant_Advisor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might like you, but he obviously doesn't have the time. Do you really want to always be wondering how long it will be before you get to the third date, let alone the second?
2007-08-20 07:01:00 · answer #11 · answered by BIRDY85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋