christians who attend church faithfully, help me!?

Question

this question is for the christians that are faithful church go'ers.my question is;before i was saved i was a bad sinner(i know a sin is a sin,by mans standards ok).i had done some really awful things, got into church got saved. then when i confessed my sins and asked for prayers i was told they(the church)didnt want to deal with my problems made them uncomfortable and some one made up a vicious lie and had me kicked out of church,it was a hung jury wasnt allowed to defend myself or even asked if true! so i left and for a few years didnt go to any church, now i had gone back to a different church, doing good started to get into ministries left and right going great! now out of all of them because some one hollared child molester(untrue&proven),left bus ministry some one hollard about that, left ushering so no one would acuse me of stealing money so on so forth. i dont trust churches any more? now i asked for help again and was told hush dont ever mention problems to any one and dropped

Answer 1

It is sad that in the christian army that we are the only ones who shoot our wounded. I understand completely where your at. There are a lot of churches that do this, I won't name denominations cause that wouldn't be fair to some individual churches that are not this way. Sometimes its best not to say more than is necessary. For your sins are between you and God. God forgave you of your sins and then forgot about them. Its a shame people remember them and don't forget them. It has taken time but I have a church home that is home to me now. If you aren't going to church at this time I suggest you to look for one and pray for God to lead you to the right church for you. Here are some things that I would look for in finding a church for me. First thing would be look for a small church a 100-150 members. I find that the small churches people get to know one another on a closer bases. Large churches seem to be easier to get lost in the shuffle and it seems to generate more gossip. Look for friendliness and hospitality a warm atmosphere. You also want a pastor that has a open door policy that doesn't require going through the Secretary. A pastor who does this is easier to talk to and be sure you are comfortable with him as well. Look for activities that will meet your needs. Also do they have small groups that you can do bible study and have the freedom to discuss problems with total confidentiality. Do they serve the Lord's supper weekly this is a requirement for myself. Sit back and observe for a few months before joining that church all that goes on in the life of the church. This will give you good indicators if there are problems.

Answer 2

I'm not sure what denomination(s) you've been involved with. In my own church, confession of sins is held absolutely sacred, and a person would never be told that the priest didn't want to deal with someone's problems. The membership of churches, in every case, is made up of human beings who are prone to mistakes and failures, so how can one church member feel justified in criticizing another?

I can think of several groups that would not tell you to silence yourself regarding any problems you may have in your life. The Episcopal Church and the Unitarians are quite open and forgiving. It's worth a visit. I would also recommend the Catholic Church, just from experience (I'm a Catholic, I've confessed my sins many times, and not a word of it has ever once been held against me).

But a word of caution here: don't go broadcasting your sins to just anybody. It's usually best kept between you and God. If you want to make an actual confession, consult a clergy member, or even talk with a close and trusted friend. But there is no reason whatsoever for other parishioners in your church to know anything about your private business.

Answer 3

I'm not sure what kind of help you're asking for. I'm sorry you are having that experience though. I think since churches have had child molesters in the past and people that stole from them in the past, they are super careful about that sort of thing.

If you're looking for a ministry to do where nobody will blame you I have a couple of ideas. I know it's not much and it doesn't have much fanfare, but I take out the trash for my church and nobody has complained about that yet. There are also things like cleanup days, mowing lawns and stuff. You might meet with your pastor one on one and explain your situation, that you would like to help and ask for ideas.

Answer 4

The best way to overcome the shadows of your past that follow you is to walk your new talk. . . prove that you are not the man you use to be. And, understand that everyone even Christians have to be given a reason to have faith in someone again. I don't think that is being judgmental but using common sense. If you have been accused of child molesting charges then of course they will be cautious about allowing you to be involved in any of the children's programs or anything of that nature.

My only advice to you is own up to your mistakes, be honest, have patience and do your best to gain trust.

Answer 5

Maybe the churches you attended is not the true church established by Christ.
You should try other religion.

1Thessalonians 5:21 Prove all things; hold fast that which is good.

1Thessalonians 5:22 Abstain from all appearance of evil.

Answer 6

Nothing wrong with that. All of us Christians are the 'Body of Christ'. For them to say that she should only seek church leadership from one source, is like a cult. Cults believe that they are the only source. Aren't there other churches out there that believe the same "Holy Bible" truth as others? Of course. The Bible IS the source.

Answer 7

A SIN REPENTED IS A SIN FAR AS THE EAST AS TO WEST.GO SOMEWHERE FRESH START NEW .YOU HAVE TO forgive to be forgiven

Answer 8

have you ever tried funnelling your energy into being a boy scout leader?