at home,she's a very good girl,gets awesome gradesand is a good daughter,she's got this man she's been dating for 21/2 years now,he's 39 years old(but weve already went through the age issue with that)about twice a month she will spend the night over at his house,i know this,but she tells my husband,her dad that she's staying at her friend Amanda's,he has a feeling shes lieing and hasn;t said anything yet,he says its not right if she's speding the night over with him ,which i agree also somewhat,then i think she is an adult and doing what she's supposed to be doing in life,she says she doesn;t want to move in with him,and she's not doing anything wrong,she says she don't drink or do drugs,she's doing what she's supposed to so whats wrong with staying over sometimes,they have traveled to Hawaii for 4 days and my husband said nothing,they are planning another trip to Austrailia,which my husband knows about of course,so why does he have a problem with her staying the night once in awhile?
2007-08-20 06:25:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like Dad is feeling like it's being sneaky because of the lieing. Once the trust is lost, it's difficult for trust to be regained. Dad may be feeling if honesty isn't portrayed then what other things should he not trust? That's his little girl out there and he has every right to try and protect her no matter what her age is. Tell your daughter to have a heart to heart talk with Dad so that he can calm his nerves. Other than that, I don't see any reason for Dad to concern himself so much about the occasional bi-monthly visits
2007-08-20 06:49:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because in his eyes she is still his little girl. I've had this same issue with my family. My mom understands that I stay over my fiance's house every once in a while. My dad doesn't know. He's over protective, and that's good, but annoying sometimes. I think you need to be more worried about him taking advantage of her with his money and his age. I know "age is just a number", but what does a 22 year old really have in common with a 39 year old? Honestly!?
2007-08-20 06:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because your daugher is acting morally wrong. She is 22yrs old she should be on her own, she said she is not doing anything wrong (yeah right) sleeping with man and unmarried to him should be self explantory. The lying has to stop period. Although she is an adult, but while she is living in your home she should present herself as a respected young lady. Living under your roof and sleeping with a man couple a time a month is morally wrong. If thats how she chooses to live her life then get her own apt and move out.
2007-08-20 06:49:58 · answer #3 · answered by beliz 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
because he's the dad and he's supposed to worry about his daughter's welfare?
it's a good thing she's not moving in with him, but rather spending an occasional night. really, she needs to set her focus on school work, not living with him and his housework and washing his underwear....
he sounds like a pretty good guy, taking her to nice places and not pressuring her to move in.
2007-08-20 06:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND JUST NEED TO LET YOUR DAUGHTER KNOW THAT YOU LOVE HER AND REALIZE THAT SHE HAS TO LIVE HER OWN LIFE TO LIVE.
THAT YOU WON'T INTERFERE UNLESS YOU THINK SHE IS DOING HERSELF OR SOMEONE ELSE HARM AND THAT SHE NEEDS TO QUIT LYING TO YOU. THAT IS PROBABLY WHAT BOTHERS YOUR HUSBAND MORE THAN ANYTHING.
2007-08-20 06:37:52 · answer #5 · answered by jules 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋