...some cute animated cats (NOT fine art) so she would always have it preserved for posterity. We were on a tight budget, and agreed to spend no more than $100 dollars on the frame...
I waited in the car (foolish mistake) and when she walked out, she had spent $400 on the frame...
I wasn't mad...just mildly irritated, and was willing to let it go...but then she got "angry" at my "mild irritation" and then I got "angry" at her "anger..."
We argued that night, and ended up breaking up a week later...
I know I shouldn't have been even "mildly irritated," because of what that led to...
But wasn't that kinda' "not right" on her part to spend $400 on a frame for a poster of animated cats?!?
2007-08-20 06:04:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hello
I was in a similar situation, you said you were on a tight budget
that is the point and bone of contention do not listen to anyone who tells you different, a relationship is built on little things as well as the big things your mild irritation is to do with trust and honesty if my wife and i were on a tight budget and i went into a store to by a £39.99p DVD player and i saw one i liked for £59.99 i would go straight out and ask if we could afford it
and if she said no i would either wait till we could afford it
or stick with the original £39.99p one.
I would have been devastated at the lack of respect shown.
It has got nothing to do with materialism it is called reality.
2007-08-20 06:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by geebob358 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, that's a little intense. of course, i wouldn't even let my gf frame a cartoon cat poster. i just don't get it. was it from when she was a kid or something? why preserve it? also, the whole agreement for $100 and then going on to spend $400 was a reasonable reason to be irritated, but breaking up over it is kinda intense. she was out of line though. you made an agreement, she broke it, you had the right to be irritated. for her to get mad at your irritation is stupid.
2007-08-20 06:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The issue isn't so much the frame or what it was for: you had a budget you needed to stick to, and she disregarded it. That's a major issue, and if you guys weren't capable of working through it then, you're lucky you didn't try and keep things together long enough to make any major joint purchases or accumulate serious debt.
2007-08-20 06:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by MM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't have been mildly angry for her spending $400.00
You should have been incredibly angry that she would betray your trust in that manner. Destroying the relationships foundations over some little bauble.
She let you know that the picture was more important.
2007-08-20 07:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by Dr weasel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you both agreed to $100 because of your budget and she spent $400, I would have been livid! She's lucky you were mildly irritated......that was foolish on her part and bad judgement for not asking you first!
2007-08-20 06:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For at least six months my ex searched in many ways to make me angry with her... in order for me to end up our relationship (she was thinking of what her friends and family will think of her after she would brake up with me). But in my foolish love for her I did not gave her that satisfaction (I used to forgive all the mistakes she was doing). After a while I foolishly thought that she wanted us to go on living our lives together... but she cheated on me with a guy that is not even close to my level. Because I used to love her I had forgiven those "mistakes" because she openly recognized her fault when presented with the truth. A month later she broke up with me because I wasn't able to go to her mother's birthday...
You did the right thing in letting her go when she started to broke the common agreements (I did not found that power in me)... even though it must have hurt you so much. She had other plans with her life that did not include you, and your life beside her would have become, day by day, a living hell.
2007-08-20 07:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by (ro)Bulldog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have deeper issues than women or money. You present yourself as tolerant and a wonderful 'ladies' man but your inability to maintain long term relationships speaks more honestly of other 'demons' that haunt your lyrics. I suspect that you actually may be resentful of women who fail in their appreciation of all you do for them. I'll say this for you...you talk and sing a good line but I'm not so certain that you walk it.
2007-08-20 06:46:16 · answer #7 · answered by midnite rainbow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The break-up had nothing [or very little] to do with the frame. If it hadn't been that it would have been something else. It was time. Stop kicking yourself.
2007-08-20 06:20:25 · answer #8 · answered by gldnsilnc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you are right it was a silly thing for her to do ,but there had to more than that - a bigger problem lead to the end of that realationship for sure
2007-08-20 06:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
something was wrong anyway then..cos you should have been able to have a bloody good argument about this AND STILL BE MADLY IN LOVE WITH EACH OTHER...thats life mate !!
2007-08-20 06:27:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋