I went to visit my Grandma yesterday, and I somehow just KNEW: she doesnt have long. She is severely diabetic, and has liver and kidney damage as well (among a list of other ailments). She is the sweetest, most upbeat person in spite of it all. She has been the biggest inspiration to me since I was little, and I love her dearly.
What are some things I can do before she goes? Things that will help me remember her when she is gone. Things that we can have fun doing too. Remember, she cant see, so she cant write, etc..... And she is very frail, so I cant take her places. The other problem is that I live 2 hours away from her now.
2007-08-20 06:01:45 · 8 answers · asked by Brenda 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mom died when I was young, and I didn't want to forget the wisdom that she had taught me so I asked her questions and wrote down the things she said about her childhood, who her best friends were, what they used to do to have fun, how she paid for college and how she met my dad. In retrospect, I wish I had taped her voice but I do have those things on paper and i cherish that.
I really thought this might be hard for her because she was so sick, but in reality, it allowed her to share some very special memories and go to a happier time in her life. We laughed a little and i told her I loved her many times that day.
2007-08-20 06:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a sad part of life we will all go through at some point. I dont think there are things that you need to do other then spend time with her. And I dont mean every weekend or every day Im talking quality time where you just talk to her. You will remember your grandmother for a very long time sweety so you dont have to rush out and do things. When she passes a certain smell, laugh, food all those things will remind you of your grandmother. I lost my mother almost 4 yrs ago when she was shot by a man that she had pulled over during a traffic stop so we didnt have the "goodbye" type thing. But there are smells, songs, foods that remind me of her almost daily memories are in your heart. And I hope that when her time comes you arent left with "I wish I had spent more time with her"
I'd also like to add 17 yrs ago I just "knew" my crazy aunt would be passing away. For 15 of those yrs she's had congestive heart failure, she is basically blind, she is diabetic, has high blood pressure, poor circulation, her mind comes and goes and she's had for 5 yrs a tumor in her ear eating into her brain. She turned 91 in July and everytime I see her I think its going to be the last but she's got more of a strong will then anyone and she's not going until she's ready.
2007-08-20 13:16:08 · answer #2 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably just sit and talk with her. Maybe read her a book. I remember when my grandmother was going to pass, I had a knot in my throat, I never got the strenght to tell her, she was already in coma, that I loved her soo much. I still hold it in my heart because she died the next morning. Tell her everything you feel, don't let fear or time get to you! This happened to me twice, and I soo regret it!
You will need to make time, indeed. If she is important to you, you will do those 2 hours, get to her. Can you spend the night there, maybe the weekend?
2007-08-20 13:10:42 · answer #3 · answered by Mary Laurita 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start calling her once a week at the same time (maybe Saturday afternoon) & tell her about your week & listen to any advice she has. Keeping in touch & telling her the things you need to is important. So if she dies you won't have anything left unsaid. Tell her how much she means to you & how she's always been an inspiration to you.
2007-08-20 13:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spend as much time with her as possible. Stay the night or weekends with her. Talk to her and always let her know how much you love her. Keep it happy, not sad or you both will be miserable.
2007-08-20 13:13:54 · answer #5 · answered by Angelic Valentine 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a camcorder with you and ask her questions about her childhoold and different things about when she was growing up. Then later on you'll have something left that you can watch and hear her.
2007-08-20 13:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by comeundone4162 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just sit with her, talk with her, hold her and then cry with her before you have to cry for her. Not the quantity of time but the quality of the time spent. You and your family are in my prayers. God Bless.
2007-08-20 14:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could mail her an audio tape and tell her how much you love her.
Or you could spend the weekend at her house just to spend time with her.
2007-08-20 13:22:58 · answer #8 · answered by Softballchick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋