I met a brother about five years ago. He was disfellowship for sexual reasons. I ended up loving him and encouraged him to turn back to Jehovah. But I kept my association with him at armslenght because I knew that I wasn't supposed to associate with him. During that period he was reinstated. I still kept my distance,because I saw traits in him that I couldn't live with. I wanted to build myself spiritually because I myself was diciplined by being put on public reproof ( a reason that didn't envolved him). He was back for a year and attended meetings often. Today I found out that he was desfellowshipped again for the same reason.I know you guys would tell me that I shouldn't associate with him. Please don't judge me. Is just that I care for him so much and I wanted him to serve Jehovah along with me. It hurts me to see him throw away his life like this. I wish I could help. What should I do? Is there anyway I could show him I care and help him without disobeying Jehovah?
2007-08-20 05:36:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I know this is difficult, it hurt me when my brother was disfellowshipped and I couldn't talk to him and associate with him either - and this happened twice as well.
But I followed the scriptures and realized that the only way to truly help him was to not do those things that I longed so much to do.
Having him see how much his acts hurt not only him, but the rest of us, made him realize how important his relationship with Jehovah was.
Not being able to chill and do simple things like go for a burger, really made all of us appreciate the discipline that Jehovah gives those whom he loves.
Now that he is reinstated, we have a very close and strong bond. But if it weren't for the discipline and instruction, who knows where he would be.
With that said, I think it'd be best for both him and you if you did what's outlined in the scriptures, not even sitting with such a man - don't associate with him.
If his feelings for you are strong - and desire to regain that relationship with Jehovah - he'll do what's best for him.
But, being that he is a grown man, you have to leave the choice to him.
In the meantime, pray to Jehovah for strengh, guidance, and courage to not associate with this man.
You'll be blessed for your efforts.
I truly hope I was able to help you some.
2007-08-20 05:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
when both mates love Jehovah, they have the strongest incentive to remain loyal to each other.
Does this mean that marriages among fellow believers are guaranteed to succeed? No. For instance, if you were to marry a person who has only marginal interest in spiritual things, what could happen? Unequipped to resist the pressures of this system, a spiritually weak person is more likely to drift away from the Christian congregation. Imagine the heartache and marital strife you could face if your mate got caught up in “the defilements of the world.”
Before developing a relationship that could lead to marriage, consider: Does this one give evidence of being a spiritual person? Does he or she set a fine example in Christian living? Is this person well rooted in Bible truth, or does he or she need more time for spiritual growth? Are you convinced that love for Jehovah is the primary force in his or her life? Knowing that the person has a fine reputation is helpful. However, in the final analysis, you must be convinced that the one in whom you are interested is devoted to Jehovah and will likely make a fine marriage partner.
If you find that your heart needs discipline, do not feel hopeless. The heart can be disciplined. It comes down to this: What do you want to want? Do you want to be drawn to what is good and to those who practice it? With Jehovah’s help, you can develop that kind of heart. (Psalm 97:10) And by training your perceptive powers to distinguish right from wrong, you will find it easier to determine who will make wholesome, upbuilding friends, or husbands.
2007-08-20 08:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by BJ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I wish you could help him also.
BUT YOU CAN'T!
You are emotionally involved and the only result will be that he drags you down as well.
You are in the worst position to try to help.
The best you could do is arrange for someone not emotionally involved to talk with him.
I beg you to stay away from him until he has long proven that he is much more serious.
2007-08-20 05:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by Uncle Thesis 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know it is difficult ...but it is for you own protection and for his spiritual help it is better that he has time to think what is he doing with his life...
I had once that problem not disfellowship but received admonition and is better for us (in that case) to be alone for a while...
2007-08-20 05:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Christ calls us to Christian love...Would shunning him show that kind of love...Would Jesus speak to him if he met him on the street?
You are having a crisis of conscience...The JW laws tell you to act in a way that is contradictory to Christian Grace.....
Love your Brother in a Christian way and encourage him to find his way to god, not the Kingdom Hall.
May God bless you for your natural giving compassionate soul.
2007-08-20 06:42:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 5⤋
It's always in your (and his) best interests to be obedient.
2007-08-20 07:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by leah c 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋