Why can't I be like him?

Question

I have this friend who thinks these really deep thoughts. He gets all the girls. I can't help but feel jealous. His thoughts even get me thinking. He talks about love a lot and the chicks really dig that. Why can't I think these thoughts? I'm such a loser. I feel like I don't have a place in the world. I don't always have anything to say, I'm failing at school, I don't have a lot of friends, I'm not very creative and on top of all of that, my family is poor and dysfunctional. It's like God doesn't have a plan for me. I feel like his *****. The only think I'm good at is music. Hendrix's music is really important to me. I find his music so beautiful. I don't mean to brag but I can play all of his songs almost like he did. But I will never play them like he did, and I can admit it. I can get close, and I like it like that. He can write the most lovely, placid guitar riffs and he can also write the eeriest blues riffs. I love music. I'm not in a band yet though. I also play classical.

Answer 1

Play the music with your emotion!
Be yourself and find girls that are into the music also!I had a good friend that was a loner never had a g/f but he could play the guitar well so I said go to the park and just give them a free show.This is no lie he did it and called me on sunday and told me he had so many ppl come over and listen plus he now has a following of groupie girls that just loved his music.
To top this off he is now getting married to one of the girls he met at the park!

Answer 2

If you don't think like he does, do not blame yourself. We all think in different ways. You do have a place in the world. You need to find out why you're failing at school and get your grades up. If you don't have a lot of friends, start going places and doing things. Or try to make friends with some people you know, you just aren't really chummy with. If you play guitar, you ARE creative. Give yourself credit. If you really hate being poor, get a job that you can walk to. Stay with the music. Most girls think a guy who plays music is hot.

Answer 3

you have taken the whole thing wrong, from the start! you can't be like your friend neither like hendrix; you are what you are.
since you like music, haven't you realise that THIS is a deep thing? it's art, how can't it be deep? if you open your mind a little bit more, you will learn from music. and certainly there is not only one kind of music neither only one or two good musicians.
hmm... and you wonder how your friend can think so deeply? it's not very hard, really. just wonder what you want from your life. being popular and getting all the chicks? this is definitely not deep. the world is big, but it can be small too. life is small, but it can be great. and it's you who should make it great. don't just sit and complain. i mean, please!
don't you have any hobbies? besides music. then find! there are so many things to do!
my family is dysfunctional, oh you have no idea! but not everything is as hard as you describe/imagine. just feel your way! seek things! there are so many waiting to be discovered. you and all of us, must try and live our lives the fullest. get serious, man! do you want to die alone and no one to remember you? oh my, that's my greatest fear, you reminded me now! ...
finally, god does not exist. just live your life. don't seek pity; seek happiness.

Answer 4

no matter how amazing your friend is, he still has his own insecurities and issues, whether he is vocal about that or not. and no matter how amazing any of us are, there is always someone better than us...but the more important thing is that there is always someone worse than us. there is a kid in your school who is struggling even more than you, more confused, more alone, more scared. that is the same in every school and in every culture. there is also a kid at school or the neighboring school who is more deep, more attractive, more everything than your friend, and someone better than that kid. no one is perfect. your friend has flaws. this may be the best time of your friend's life. this may be his peak, while yours is later to come. then again, he may continue to be amazing forever, but you also have the ability to be great. who can say? i can't explain why michael jackson used to be amazing and is now a joke. or why madonna has had career-long success and stability. there's no predicting those things. 4 yrs ago, we didn't even know zac efron EXISTED and now he's everywhere. you never know what is around the corner.

now, you say that you are failing at school. what have YOU done to combat this? have you tried a tutor? do you have stay after class to ask for help? you may have to try harder than some other kids, but their are kids with handicaps who don't even have the ability to learn. so again, you are still doing better than some. if you are simply taking notes in class and expecting an A, you aren't being realistic. you might need to study more at home. just like learning and perfecting guitar, you have to invest the time.

now, your guitar skills sound impressive. stop comparing yourself to jimi hendrix, unless you use those comparisons as motivation. michael jordan didn't even make his high school basketball team the first year he tried and he sat the bench a lot in the beginning. but as he invested the time and tried to strengthen his weaknesses, he became amazing. but his amazingness doesn't mean that lebron james is any less amazing. they are amazing in different ways. you don't have to be a clone of jimi hendrix to be an amazing player. great musicians and artists often have similar styles to the greats, but they usually add their own flair or technique that makes it different. look at any musicians inspirations or reviews of their music. you'll often hear statements like, "she's a mix of aretha franklin, mariah carey, and annie lennox with her own unique brand of bluesy soul." no one is applauded for being exactly like something else. figure out what makes you different and capitalize on that. celebrate that.

dysfunctional families are often the breeding ground for success. without that comotion and turmoil, you wouldn't have the motivation to strive for better. use that as a fire in your belly to spark your life.

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Answer 5

You can't be like him because you're not him. You won't be happy until you're happy with yourself. Everyone has strengths, and everyone has weaknesses. His strength is philosophy, and yours is music. Both are equally special in their own way. If you do want to think more deeply, study some issues that are important in today's world, and from that, think and develop your own views, and theories. Different isn't a bad thing. Don't ever think that he's better than you because he's different from you. The first step to bettering yourself is to know your shortcomings, the second step is to overcome them. For school, put yourself on a reward system. You can't play guitar unless you do your math etc. This teaches you self-disclipline, which is one of the most important lessons you could ever learn. Name one girl who doesn't think being a musican adds ten points for hotness. It's kinda like having an accent.

Answer 6

Ok, as a fellow musician and Hendrix lover, you need to stop comparing with your friend. God gave him pensiveness/deep thoughts or wtv, and He gave you music. You're not a loser unless you think you are. You can convince everyone that you're not worth talking to and you'll have no friends, but what you have to do is be outgoing and reach out.
BTW if you consider yourself trash, everyone else will too. You have to value yourself before others can.
Oh, and I'm a girl and musicians are soooo much hotter than 'deep thinkers'......you'll find someone eventually who likes you for who you are everyone's different

Answer 7

why would you want to be like your friend? just because he gets the girls? being able to play like hendrix(to me is amazing) i cant do that but dont want to be you because you can. all people are different, accept what you cant do and embrace what you can do, and just maybe one of these days you will be a "somebody" to yourself. Are you on drugs? do you steal? do you hurt people because you can? if the answers to these questions are no then your not a loser. just because you dont have many friends doesnt mean your not a nice person. GOD does have a plan for you or you would not be here. dont use GOD as a scapegoat for your problems ask him and he will help you in your life. he gave you your music ablility use to make yourself happy. Good luck and belief will help.

Answer 8

First, you know your failings
Second, you want to better yourself
Third, do you realize how many people in America come from poor,dysfunctional families?
Fourth, not every girl wants to sit and here love and mush and would rather have a guy who is just like you.
Fifth, Get a job that pays a decent wage, get a car that runs and then the girl will come along.
Sixth, Good luck, and God bless!

Answer 9

Hi....

it seems that your self-esteem is suffering. this has nothing to do with your friend.. you admire him and his qualities...

you could probably benefit by doing a yahoo search for TEENS SELF ESTEEM, or SELF ESTEEM SELF-HELP. you will find many sites with good information and advice on this subject.

the truth is, sometimes we beat ourselves up and are down on ourselves for no good reason.

yes some people are more fortunate than us, because perhaps their family life and their personality looks "better" from where we sit -- but EVERYONE has problems and issues.

i'm very happy for you about the musical abilities. keep up the good work. it's great to follow our dreams and set a goal for ourselves.

YOU are worthwhile and talented! Don't forget it!

hugs


P.S. ... perhaps your friend is a little envious of your musical abilities. did you ever think of that???

Answer 10

DUDE..

STOP comparing yourself to other people and maybe then you'll get something DONE in your life..

AND STOP thinking so LOW about yourself you can DO anything you want to if you TRY...

You have MUSIC go for it...Just because you don't have a girl right now doesn't make you a LOSER...

Just BE YOURSELF and girls will come to u...

GOOD LUCK!!!!!