The guy I like and I were talking about relationships, and discussing what might happen with ours. In a relaxed, friendly way. He told me he doesn't want a proper relationship with anyone, he just wants casually see a woman (for sex and a bit of a chat) whenever he has time in between watching sports and going to the gym. I couldn't believe my ears!!! Can this be true for some guys, and why, or did he just want to hurt me?
This guy is divorced.
2007-08-20 05:24:50 · 20 answers · asked by Summer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Magic words "This guy is divorced"
Blow-by-blow through your question.
In a relaxed, friendly way.
= He has thought this through, he is confident and objective about his response, in fact he doesn't see that you'd have a problem with it
He told me he doesn't want a proper relationship with anyone,
= He won't want a proper relationship for a LOOOOOONG time as he most likely felt trapped or stiffed by the commitment of his last marriage.
he just wants casually see a woman (for sex
= DUH! like we need to explain THIS one
and a bit of a chat)
= you amuse him - take that as you want - good or bad
whenever he has time in between watching sports and going to the gym.
= You are 2nd, 3rd, 4th or 23rd on his list of priorities, he'll get around to seeing you if he wants.
I couldn't believe my ears!!!
(Sorry, cold hard facts of men)
Can this be true for some guys - YES (many in fact)
and why - it's their basic nature
or did he just want to hurt me? - no, sound's like he'd do that to anyone.
It's HIM, not you - SIMPLE!
In fact, you "being on call" are endorsing this behaviour - it says he CAN treat like this and there are no conseqences - is THAT what you want??
Give him PLENTY of space (as in, "I never want to be in his space again"). Drop him like a rotting tray of lasagne and get you a real man. They are out there, but they are on the endangered species list.
Good luck - Brad M
2007-08-20 05:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by brad m 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he just used sports as an example. He doesn't want a committed relationship. I don't think he was trying to hurt you intentionally. If you don't think you can handle this or if you already have feelings for him you should walk away now because you will end up getting hurt in the end very badly. Don't think you are going to be able to change his mind or that by spending time with him he'll start to have feelings for you.
2007-08-20 05:34:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a variable question.
Yes, you will find guys that would rather watch sports than be with a women just by the fact that some men think of women as sex toys and a object.
A good guy wouldn't say such a thing and would rather be with his women more than anything else.
The guy who said this probably got divorced because he was treating his women like dirt...
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2007-08-20 05:29:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOL! Some men are just so lucky and crazy. They get a chance to find love with someone (in this case you and this guy you like) and just ***** it all completly!
I would much prefer spending quality time with my girlfriend/wife than watch men sweat it all out kicking a ball or something....!
Ce la vie eh? Lol!
take care
2007-08-20 05:33:54 · answer #4 · answered by Rajiv T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he was partly being honest and partly pulling your chain. Given that he's divorced he may not want to get heavily involved right away and may wish to focus on himself for a while. Sounds like this guy's not for you if you want a serious relationship.
2007-08-20 05:33:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its called friends with benefits and that perfectly normal. Sometimes you don't want all the BS that comes with being in a long term relationship. So if both parties are up for it why not?
2007-08-20 05:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by The Simpson 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe that's why he's divorced... I can't imagine putting tv watching/going to the gym over spending time with someone special to me. he sounds very selfish and maybe anti social. I would reevaluate his importance to you. There are plenty of nice men out there who are willing to compromise :)
2007-08-20 05:34:02 · answer #7 · answered by UPbeachbuggy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it is true if they don't really like the girl... sports is part of their life as if they cant live without it.. but if time comes that he can sacrifice a game just to be with you... rest assured he loves you...
2007-08-20 05:32:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they really cared about you they would spend time with you...but if they loved the sports too...then they might invite you to watch it with them ya know. And as far as this guy goes don't do anything with him. He's not mature at all and not commited to anything.
2007-08-20 05:28:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
The more I get to know women the more I like sports. Don't be hurt, just know that for the most part women are a pain in the @ss.
2007-08-20 05:29:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋