I'm not anyones judge and jury, but I believe women who date married man suffer from extreme insecurities. Give me your thoughts regarding why you did it, or why you think women do this.
2007-08-20 05:13:07 · 24 answers · asked by ava 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you for your honesty!
2007-08-20 05:47:41 · update #1
I played with a couple of married men, many years ago (we did not 'date') and I didn't like how I felt about myself, so I left that behavior behind. Besides, if I was going to be a party to cheating, I had no right to be upset if it occured to me...
Bad karma. There are plenty of singles in the world for relationships or just sex...no need to rack up the bad energy playing with someone who's a liar, betrayer, and selfish (among other things).
Years later, I briefly dated a married couple, and that was fine because neither was hiding something from the other. As long as everyone is okay with it, there's no issue.
2007-08-20 05:21:58 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am currently dating a married man, I was married myself when we first met & we both needed some excitement as we were getting none at home. I then got caught & my husband divorced me, but the marriage had long gone stale anyway so I wasn't bothered. I carried on affair & its been almost 4 yrs now. He hasn't been caught yet, keeps saying he will leave but I don't believe he ever will. At the moment I don't feel strong enough to end it & always worry about meeting someone else & if I will compare. We are in love with each other, so makes it a very hard decision. Please don't judge me unless you have also been in this position.
2014-08-17 15:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by hel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not dating a married man. I do not believe in dating married men and I would never date a married man. What is the point in it? Some of them will tell you that they are going to divorce their wifes and then that is what the other woman wants to hear them say. Some of them are only users. Some married men are sometimes needing someone that they can talk to because they do not get what they need at home.
2007-08-20 12:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I'm not now but yes I have in the past but he wasn't living with the family or anything like that. I know that doesn't make it better but at the time I was young and didn't care. It's all about lust....not love.
I think some women date married men because they like the thrill of it. Being sneaky is half the excitement and you don't have to worry about commitment. The men are carefree and so much more fun.
2007-08-20 12:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by rcButterfly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dated a married man...it was an intense relationship that served no other purpose but excitement and the feelings that one has at the beginning of a new relationship. Thats why I did it. Things at home with my boyfriend had grown stale and routine and rather than do the right thing and fix it, this guy said all the right things at the right time and I was hooked. I grew to have feelings for this person and I still do. He became a friend to me as well as a lover. Its scary when the emotions begin to interfere with rational judgement but it happens more often than they let on. In no way is it ever right but sometimes it just happens
2007-08-20 12:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would not date a married man - and if somehow a married man was interested in my and giving me the line that he an his wife were braking up then - he can get on with braking up with her and get back to me when that is all over.
People that date married people are very disrespectful of commitment and so are the married people that they are dating. It will come back to bite when the disrespect for commitment falls away in the next relationship.
2007-08-20 12:20:33 · answer #6 · answered by keezy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I currently am and I know that everybody (or nearly) judges me for that. Why we do it?? I don't consider myself insecure. I've had several relationships and it was always me the one "in control", or with the strongest character, so to speak. This time I just fell stupidly in love with the wrong person.
Money? I've never been interested in anybody's money, I work and I can sustain myself. I guess that with his multiple responsibilities I even have more than he does, because my money is all mine. He has kids to support and he helps his mother too. Of course there are women who are looking for someone who will pay them a nice condo and an expensive car, but not me -- I have my home and my car cuz I paid for them.
Excitement?? Not at all...... it's not fun to have the soon to be ex wife checking his phone bills, taking my numbers out of there and calling me (saying nothing on the phone, I guess she just wanted to hear if it was a woman who answered, but after 3-4 times....isn't it enough......???). It's not fun to see how she hides the kids from him in order to get her revenge cuz he asked her for divorce, and him being sad about it and all that. It's tough, but when you love the guy you stick with him and support him cuz that's the only thing there is to do.
Mine is divorcing the b*tch and she has been giving him a hard time becuz of this. I don't consider myself a homewrecker -- if it had not been becuz of me, they would have dumped each other anyway. And I'm happy with my man, he loves me and I love him, and maybe Babe is right and he is a liar and a very selfish person..... but we're in love and our relationship wasn't just a fling or a one night stand... you never know how long it will last but I don't regret having started this relationship, even if it wasn't under the best conditions.....
And yes, I was also one who SWORE I would NEVER EVER date a married man...... I was in a relationship myself when it all started, and took me a few months to actually put an end to it as well.... as someone just said, it's not the best and it might not seem "right" but it just happens!!! Nobody asked for it, it just happened.
2007-08-20 12:35:30 · answer #7 · answered by Lprod 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋
I think they do it because it gives them some excitment in life. Like I've never done it because I'm way, way too young but... Sometimes they don't even know the guy is married. (Saw it on Dr. Phil) but I agree with you. It's having an affair, or commiting adultery! And it's unfair to the other spouse!
2007-08-20 12:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by shelbyroxhardcore 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I once dated a married man. Met him through his wife, actually. The three of us became very good friends at first. He and I had a lot of chemistry, and their marriage was on the rocks.
One night at a club we all got drunk, she got mad at him (not about me; she and I were friends at the time) and left - threw her wedding ring at him. He and I kissed that night and started a relationship then. He moved out from their house and divorced his wife. She came out of the closet a few months later and has been in a gay relationship for the past 5+ years now.
He and I dated for a while and broke up, but we're still good friends. Looking back, we're pretty sure his wife was interested in me and that's why she wanted us to be friends all the time. When the cheating started, she was actually jealous of her husband - not jealous of me! (Crazy.)
2007-08-20 12:20:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I have never dated a married man, and I don't think I could have the heart to do that to another woman. I too think they suffer from insecurity. They need to prove to themselves that they are worth something, and they see taking something or someone that belongs to someone else as the way to do it.
2007-08-20 12:23:57 · answer #10 · answered by LunaRossa 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋